Hai everybody! :3
We haven’t been around much lately, but we’ve missed you all <3
As much as we enjoy talking about electromagnetism and the like, we’re really feeling trans joy as the theme for this mega post. And we’d love to hear some of the things that have brought you all some joy lately (without doxxing yourselves of course).
Something that is bringing us a lot of joy right now is seeing the local trans community finding each other and making joy for ourselves. They’re planning events, going out, finding love and friendship, and refusing to allow our circumstances prevent us from enjoying life and having fun as much as possible. And we’re part of it! We’ve been doing the same! And it doesn’t just make this life tolerable in the face of all the bad stuff happening, it’s making this life beautiful and filled with love and happiness.
In order to try to get back in the habit of participating here, we’re going to try to at least post one bit of trans joy every day here this week.
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Hi. I am new here but my moment of joy recently was a few times this week I got compliments on my figure then asked for workout/diet advice by a few other women randomly. I have been weight lifting/contouring and eating healthy (%80 of the time) for nearly two years. A few months before I had been living in a women’s only house and for some reason a few suddenly were getting a bit touchy around me. I was getting concerned when the house mom told it was because they were competing with me. I already told my hubby I had started as an outsider then I became accepted. One day I became truly included. I was totally blind sided that a few successful women in my life suddenly saw me as competing with them. As a woman. I never dreamed of that level of affirmation. This week I had a small touch of that moment again.
Yay!!
Can I get the week of 4/20 to 4/26
nice
In many ways I have grown into the kind of person I needed in my life when I was at my lowest. I have been noticing this more and more often in the roles I play for the people in my life and it feels very, very good. That is my example of trans joy.
I’m writing down the people that don’t send me a happy woman’s day as transphobes
Edit: I meant the people that know me personally IRL, but I appreciate it. Happy women’s day to all womenbies here!
I feel like I’ve been losing my mind lately. I thought the days getting longer meant I wouldn’t feel like this. It is so hopeless and I hate life so much
The mega thread this week has been so lovely! See you all tomorrow.
As time goes on, I question less whether I am a lesbian and more if I’m attracted to men at all. And it’s cause … faces. Hard to explain …
I can feel attracted to girl’s faces, but rarely to men’s faces, only to men’s bodies (unless they’re femboys or really handsome). It sounds objectifying, I know, which is why I question myself. Do I even feel attraction to men or is it just a desire to be gender affirmed by conforming to hetero normative expectations? It’s hard for me to tell, and hard to find out cause people are scary and I don’t like interacting with them.
can someone tell me something nice idk ive been having a rough months im tired of everything and sad
Every now and then I catch myself at a good angle in a mirror and I see the vision. I hate my side profile, but from the front, I kinda like some parts
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Real
I kinda feel that too. It’s good, well, it’s progress compared to before.
We woke up with messy makeup after a messy night. And it has us reflecting on our transition. Our womanhood is complicated, as it is for all women. We don’t want to reduce it to stereotypical experiences, but damn if it doesn’t feel at least a bit affirming to have these experiences that so many women in our life have talked about before. And more than that it feels more and more like we’re living our lives. And it kinda feels like we’re starting the process of growing up.
Reading this felt like prose from a good novel
Really? 🥹
Maybe we should spill our feelings out more often
Pls do!
All of the above
Finally have started coming out at work and it’s all slowly happening. Name change on the company account, coworkers addressing me correctly, etc. Feels great!
It happened at the right time, I waited a while in cope-boymode but now that I have D cups i can’t really pretend i’m “hiding” lmao.
Also I genuinely like my reflection now. Crazy stuff.
ao3 is finally coming back up, ugh i was getting the shakes now i can read my smut again
I was worried I would have to actually do work today
I want to start reading fanfics. How do you know if a fanfic is going to be good?
That’s the fun part! :')
hm well, a couple of things ive noticed, mind you i mostly read femslash, this may be different in yaoi or hetshit.
firstly if the ship youre looking for is from an ip with an older audience that usually implies more quality.
secondly look at the kudos to hits ratio. something like 1 to 10 is decent that works on the stories that arent the most popular ones. on that point the most kudosed works may not be the best ones, theres a clear inertia some works get if theyre the first one in a niche or have an unique tag or plenty of reasons really.
thirdly dont just go to a ship and check the most kudosed, look at the last updated and theres like 66% chance there’s a smaller story that has like 5 to 10 hit to kudos ratio and is excellent
fourth if you enjoy something from an author check if they have other works, or check their bookmarks.
and finally, there are so many works that are fucking excellent, but unfinished. ymmv but usually its worth it to read something unfinished and enjoy the ride without a destination.
anyway uh, yea have fun
There really needs to be a “Most kudos in the past year/month/whatever” option because older fandoms tend to have works from years and years ago calcify at the top.
I RAN 5K FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER TODAY!!!
I’m really proud! I was never good at running nor did I enjoy it, but at the start of this year I decided I wanted to work more cardio routines into my workouts, mainly so I could lead hikes with the scouts. I also want a skinnier build rather than more muscular. In the first week I struggled to run a kilometer, and a couple of times had to slow down after hitting 600 meters. But as I continued to push on, I finally discovered what people talk about when they “enter the zone”. I started to lock the fuck in. The sweat felt so good, and as I approached a kilometer, I realised that I had more in me, and it felt amazing. So I kept running, first to 1100 meters, then 1300, then 1500 without stopping, at 10km/h, and every time I was able to appreciate that this was so much harder for me only weeks ago. Now I consistently run 1.5km in 9 minutes as the start of my workout, and I’ve added on much more time. I used to stop at 15 minutes, but then I wanted to hit 2.5km within 15 minutes, so I sped up, and found myself walking for a few minutes after that. I ran 3.5km within 25 minutes a few weeks ago, and last week hit 4km within 30 minutes.
Today I ran 5km in 36.5 minutes, which I’m so proud of.
LET’S FUCKING GOOOOO THIS IS HUGE CONGRATS
That’s awesome! Massive progress
i love u all
Graduated from voice lessons! Woooooo 🥳
I do absolutely sound better and pass better vocally when Im mad, when Im happy, when Im tired, when I have to yell at someone who doesn’t have their hearing aids in, when I cough or sneeze… I made heaps of progress with a voice coach over 6 months. It did end up costing quite a bit over alllll the lessons. It was worth it to me and I had the money to spend, but I know that can be a real barrier for people.
I think its possible to do this without a coach - you’d just have to be serious about practicing daily. And find good resources. The Big Dog, Little Dog thing does work but you have to do it. Raising your larynx works but same deal. Shortening vocal tract, that all works. All the exercises you can find online and watch videos to see examples. And the biggest hump is definitely “getting over it”/dealing with feeling cringe and dysphoric and practicing anyway. This is not to be underestimated, for sure, not downplaying that part.
It was also nice to have a coach to listen and give feedback but if I didn’t have that, I had a lot of my friends all of whom are trans femme too which is also a big bonus and makes the whole thing much easier.
Ooh congrats!! Reminds me I got to look into that as its covered by my insurance.
I’ve tried to do it myself a little bit but could never keep it up for more than two days.That’s so good, congrats!
I’m trying to take on this journey too and I think I’ve been having some progress, but doing it alone is pretty hard, I get pretty lost some of the time, like absolutely unsure if I’m doing it right or getting any closer.
My voice was never that masculine, at least not the way I use it, so I guess it should be a little easier.
