• Overspark@feddit.nlEnglish
    32·
    5 days ago

    As I get older I’ve grown annoyed at the power a truly beautiful woman has over me. It’s just a pretty exterior, why should she deserve different treatment than any other nice person? But my heartrate and power of speech don’t seem to agree with this unfortunately.

      • superkret@feddit.orgEnglish
        29·
        5 days ago

        No they don’t, and yes they do.
        Imagine not being able to walk home alone after sunset, ever.
        Imagine thirsty stares from distant relatives at family gatherings, “accidental” touches and cat-calling just becoming a fact of life for you as early as age 12.
        Imagine losing close male friends cause it turns out they’re sexually attracted to you and can’t deal with rejection.
        Imagine never knowing if a man will react violently when you say “no”.
        Imagine most men in power never taking you seriously for your skills, and co-workers whispering behind your back how you probably only got your position by blowing the boss.

        • Overspark@feddit.nlEnglish
          6·
          5 days ago

          I believe there’s some truth in both viewpoints. What you’re saying is definitely true, but there’s plenty of men who would do almost anything a beautiful woman asks for while not giving a plain woman the time of day.

          • reallykindasorta@slrpnk.netEnglish
            4·
            4 days ago

            There’s definitely a “pretty privilege” in society but if you want to analyze that via gender pretty guys definitely have more privilege and less downsides than pretty girls. Can’t think of a single issue a pretty guy would have that a pretty girl wouldn’t.

          • Nat (she/they)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            51·
            4 days ago

            There’s so much you’ve said here and I think it really demonstrates a pattern of thinking.

            • Men getting mugged to: nobody’s denying that, but I suspect it’s less common than you’re making it out to be.
            • Relatives being inappropriate: maybe it’d be 3% worse for you, but that’s a big leap to say “eh, it’s bad enough already” for everyone.
            • Catcalling: yeah, cause you’re not going to be catcalled. You’re also unlikely to ever see me on the street, but I see myself on the street all the time, this is just a sampling bias effectively. Catcalling might not be super common, but if you pass a hundred men a day…
            • Friends: that does suck. That’s not a gendered problem though.
            • Rejection: Not all men handle rejection poorly, but if 1% do and 100 talk to me, I have a 65% chance at least 1 of them is. You also ask for constructive criticism, but that’s not really how this works. All I can say is why I don’t think it’ll work, like telling you I’m gay, that’s not criticism.
            • Stomping down women’s voices: dude, it’s not some big display, it’s the little things that implicitly tell women their voice is lesser. Ever been implicitly called stupid or untrustworthy? Given constant jabs? Congrats, you know what it feels like too, but for women it’s frequently gendered. See that xkcd comic about “girls are bad at bad”.
            • Talking behind the back: you bring up 2 anecdotes as if they disprove women being gossiped about with no evidence. If you suspected that latter woman was having an affair the manager without evidence then you’re still part of the problem, so I hope you did actually have evidence beyond suspicious shifts.

            Anyway, it just seems like you downplay anything that doesn’t happen literally 100% of the time and play oppression olympics. I’m not saying your life is automatically great just by being a man, and men do face some unique issues, but let’s not pretend any of that means women have it fine, actually.

    • Sergio@slrpnk.netEnglish
      5·
      4 days ago

      One time while I was walking down the street this lady walking the other direction told me I was looking good.

      I realize she was just saying it as a “spontaneous act of kindness” sort of thing, but it was like 20 years ago and I remember it.

      • LostXOR@fedia.io
        6·
        4 days ago

        Someone complimented my hair at a bus station well over a year ago and I still think of it sometimes.

  • LouNeko@lemmy.worldEnglish
    11·
    5 days ago

    I’ll take “What are feelings I will never experience?” For $500, please.

    • SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      41·
      5 days ago

      You might not think I’m pretty, but I can pay attention to you, if you want. I don’t mind.

      … I’m like 90% gay tho