I think it’s a complicated topic. As a trans woman there are many benefits to a number of cosmetic surgeries that I can get, such as dysphoria relief and unfortunately less discrimination.

Personally I feel everyone should have the option to have a body they are more in tune with. I have a cis friend that wants to reduce the size of her breasts. She briefly mentioned wanting the surgery for the sake of her back, but regardless of reason I think it is always valid to pursue cosmetic surgeries if desired.

There’s of course the issue of unrealistic beauty standards and the like which impacts us all. For me I dunno how much of my dislike of my face is learned and how much is innate. I’m guessing it’s both. Hormones changing my body made me like it much more so I already have some sense of how much things can improve and how much it improved my life.

Presentation and gender identity does not need to match up! And some people struggle to present in certain ways. The safest bet is always to respect what you are told

Axolotl

Eel

Newt

Turtle

Reminds me of this: https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/hatpin-panic-1900s

In that’s it’s men restricting our rights to defend ourselves

Edit: sort of :P This meme is only vaguely related I just find the hairpin thing very fascinating as a historical event

There’s a lemmy (lemmy.blahaj.zone), a piefed (piefed.blahaj.zone), a sharkey (blahaj.zone), a peertube (tube.blahaj.zone), a pixelfed (pix.blahaj.zone), and finally a matrix server (ttps://chat.blahaj.zone/c/genderverse/)

Those are the ones I know at least

I’m up for helping! I’m WillStealYourUsername on lemmy.

Because I don’t call tankies leftist?

Look at what the woke mob is doing to that cake 😔
Like, pray, and share if you love jesus and america

Nah.

I’m a trans woman and was not aware when I got diagnosed, but during that process we went through an ADHD mastery course and most participants were women. The course itself covered early on how women are often diagnosed later in life because

• Women are often better at masking
• Women tend to be the inattentive kind of ADHD, which does not fit the stereotype and therefore is less often detected
• Women are likely more often the inattentive kind because of how we are raised

I discovered I was trans during the process and learning most women have my kind of ADHD was very affirming <3 Ofc, women can have both kinds of ADHD, but for irrational reasons it was still nice to learn

This one is fun because it could be both about tankies and actual leftists depending on what you believe in.

I think perhaps this might be to your liking, Smorty: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=szjXxwVA-G4

My transition goals are to boyfail in a suit. And I also love bowties!

I’m not super out or involved in the community beyond here really.

IRL I have both het, bi, and gay friends and they are all very supportive and sweet! So I’m rather happy with that. The progress flag hasn’t caught on much here, but I don’t know that that means much. Some find it kinda messy visually and prefer just the rainbow.

I’ve noticed online that there are quite a few “allies” who are only allies to a point; other queer people who don’t take us seriously when we talk about the issues we care about and face on the regular and excuse their apathy or transphobia by explaining that they are gay and an ally. I don’t know if they are just a vocal minority or a more significant portion of the LGBT than I hope they are. Mostly it seems the LGBT movement is open to including us, at least in theory, so until I am proven otherwise I’m gonna hope that this is actually true, and that we won’t be thrown under the bus in the name of respectability politics as we have been in the past. Quite a few stonewall inspired organizations ironically didn’t support trans people or those doing drag.

Mostly I am hopeful, even if there is increasing violence and discrimination against us. People are more vocally supporting us now than ever it feels like.

I’ve had the same thing happen in Norway :(
Didn’t feel great, and I bet it feels worse over there given you know… all the stuff. I wish all the queers in the US the best 🫂

Well these sorts of posts tend to invite lots of men to “not all men” a lot.

Edit: Oh this is not 196, ignore. But everyone please keep in mind this community does not allow participation by men.

Also, I will still ban misogyny.