I swear I’m not Jessica

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  • Transphobes getting mad and sealioning about “rules” is not pointless drama because it accomplishes the goal of keeping those people out.

    Literal rules can be designed or twisted to undermine the fundamental goals of those rules. It creates lawyers focused on rhetoric over morals; lawyers trying to find a way to get away with the very things the rules were supposed to prevent. Words have no meaning so long as they can be abused to accomplish what they want. This is how fascism is so easily able to overtake liberal democratic systems and how powerful interests rig the state in their favor.

    Anyhow, most of the drama comes from people like you who care more about semantics than having queer people feel safe and secure. If you want to help banned transphobes overcome their bigotry, find a way where you can do that off blahaj. That’s how you can actually achieve your goals without relying on Ada to do it. When many of them inevitably refuse to change, then you can feel secure in knowing that most of this “drama” is bad faith bigotry. Complaining here is a waste of effort for accomplishing what you supposedly want.






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    3 days ago

    I get that. I’ve always found it hard to not just tell people what to do, especially when I known I’m right. What helps me is framing things in terms of my own experiences. I don’t know other people’s circumstances, but I do know my own. Outlining why something works for me helps them understand better than any advice I can give.


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    Honestly, you shouldn’t just advise someone to get an electric car like that either. They might very well not be able to and know they aren’t able to. They may prefer we just get rid of cars all together in favor of rail travel.

    You’re kinda missing the point in the same way that people who suggest Linux do. People expressing frustration often aren’t looking for answers. Unsolicited advice is not wise to give, especially if you don’t articulate how it affects you. If you’re annoyed that people keep complaining, express that you are annoyed instead of trying to point to what you think is the solution. You might be wrong about problem or even the solution, but you won’t be wrong about your emotions.