• djsiete@sh.itjust.works
    1·
    46 分钟前

    If only. I feel better than ever but it seems like my fortune is just shit and I’m entering a severe depression that leaves me angry and unable to enjoy life.

  • Couldbealeotard@lemmy.worldEnglish
    122·
    18 小时前

    Anyone who yearns for their life as child has developmental issues. I’m not trying to say that as a sick burn, I think it’s honestly sad and source of suffering for some people.

  • LazyBaby@lemmy.zipEnglish
    25·
    24 小时前

    I really relate to this comic. I didn’t like being a child that much, and I feel alienated a lot on the internet by people constantly wishing they could go back to having no responsibilities. I really, really like being able to control my own destiny and decide what I wanna do, even though it comes with increased pressures and responsibilities.

    • BradleyUffner@lemmy.worldEnglish
      7·
      18 小时前

      Hell yes to this. Childhood, Highschool, and even in to college were some of the worst years of my life. I never want to repeat them. Sometimes I fantasize about what it would have been like to be “normal”, but I love who I am now and l do not want to give that up or go back.

  • P1k1e@lemmy.world
    11·
    23 小时前

    I literally found my purpose in my 30s. Nothing was meaningful nor worthwhile in my 20s

    • pyre@lemmy.world
      1·
      45 分钟前

      it took me about two years to truly realize i was in my 30s (I’m a bit stupid) but once that happened a massive weight lifted from my shoulders. i suddenly realized, wait, I’m a grown-ass man, i don’t have to deal with this bullshit. i became more confident, took no shit from people and stopped dealing with teenage drama. yes about 10 years too late but that’s when i realized some of the shit i used to entertain didn’t even matter.

  • GhostFace@lemmy.today
    25·
    1 天前

    Midtwenties and it feels over in a lot of ways. The majority of friends I’ve made growing up or in college are gone. People have spread out and started focusing on their own lives. Even people that I only ever knew online have began moving on.

    In a lot of ways this has been fine because I’ve just turned inward and started focusing on myself too, started being selfish about what I want. I miss seeing a lot of my friends in person rather than random texts or seeing their stories on snap.

    It’s very confusing at times because I enjoy being able to do whatever I want when I want without consulting anyone but I also miss having people to do things with.

    • Godric@lemmy.world
      1·
      2 小时前

      Something I really cherish is a scheduled phone call with two of my college buddies, themed on a movie or TV show we agree to watch that week.

      One of us just abruptly made a group chat and asked if we’d be down, and we’ve been doing it for years now, I highly reccomend!

    • UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.mlEnglish
      24·
      1 天前

      Let people go. You cant hold onto them forever, even in the best of cases. I have people who i consider my best friends that I haven’t seen in years. Maybe never again.

      The river of life has many branches, we just floated down different ones. Dont take it personally.

    • bookie@quokk.auEnglish
      6·
      1 天前

      It’s hard because there seems to be no place to hang out and meet people either. Not for a date, just to chill and make friends.

      • SpacetimeMachine@lemmy.world
        9·
        1 天前

        One of the last true 3rd places I’ve found is dog parks. If you go consistently at the same time each day you’ll be seeing a lot of the same people, who generally are down to chat. You can talk about their dog to break the ice, and I doubt people would even mind if you don’t have a dog.

      • greedytacothief@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        7·
        1 天前

        Join a club! Having a group of people you see every week that are happy you’re there is what got me out of my worst depression. I’m in a run club and organize a mountain bike club, but if that’s not your speed there’s lots of others. An improv club/class will probably give you incredible social skills. But there’s roleplay clubs, book clubs, bowling/league night, kickball, knitting, and probably a bunch I can’t think of.

      • mrgoosmoos@lemmy.caEnglish
        4·
        1 天前

        seconding what the other person said. just go hang out in public places, preferably ones where you can do something and have a natural reason to approach people.

        it isn’t going to happen immediately. but eventually you will strike up conversations with people, and some of those will be good conversations, and some of those will be with people you like, and some of those will be with people who like you. and then you gotta actually get their contact info or plan to meet up again, maybe doing other things.

  • WizardOfFrobozz@lemmy.ca
    101·
    1 天前

    ITT: a bunch of “miserable” people who are way too comfortable and happy with their lives to fight back against what they claim is making them so (performatively) “miserable”

    • tetris11@feddit.ukEnglish
      514·
      1 天前

      I remember my 30th birthday well, I suddenly grew a six pack and backflipped onto a motorbike mounted onto a jetski and then moonwalked the 100m race faster than Jamiroquai on stilts

  • VitoRobles@lemmy.todayEnglish
    1553·
    2 天前

    Age 10-20 was miserable. Hormones. Parents. Bullies in high school. Difficult to find work. College struggle and debt.

    Age 20-30 was better but still shit. Welfare. Homelessness. Police harassment. Juggling three jobs to pay rent.

    Age 30-40 was so much better. Life was in order. Wife and I both leveled up our education and got a career. Traveled for the first time (Hawaii then Japan). Had kids.

    Age 40 - life is getting better. Feels like the best days still happening.

  • Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works
    7·
    1 天前

    My 30s might have been more awesome if I hadn’t reset my life/career every 4-5 years. I’d have been super bored and miserable in a different way if I’d stayed the course, but I’d have more money to waste on synthesizers in my big empty house, I guess.

  • Mister Neon@lemmy.world
    611·
    2 天前

    I’m 40. I feel like my life is over. My career was destroyed by Trump and all this AI bullshit. I fear becoming an old man and not being able to afford basic life essentials.

  • Xerxos@lemmy.ml
    81·
    1 天前

    Well, that really varies from person to person, doesn’t it?

    My 30s were worse than my 20s.

    Having to work full-time sucks.

    It might be different for people who love their job or for those who are rich enough not to worry about work at all, but for me, the time when I had to work full-time was more or less the end of the ‘good times’.