I’m thinking about getting a masturbator for the time after my wife has given birth. But I have no idea where to even start. Anyone here using one, and can share some experiences?

I am searching for something that:

  • is easy to clean,
  • can fit my whole dick such that I can fuck it like a vagina, and
  • maybe has some extras like vibration or suction or so.
  • IronBird@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    tenga has a number of good ones, proper vibrating ones will run yoy 150-200$+, fairly cheap “spinners” (<100$) which work well enough though

    don’t beat the real thing but much better than manual

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    3 days ago

    Hand 1, or if you’re feeling particularly spicy, Hand 2.

  • Liana@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    I went to the local sex shop (the employee was surprised, but totally willing to help after she was sure I wasn’t gonna be creepy) and only found one that would fit, since it was open-ended. The others were like 4 inches max, which doesn’t allow for the satisfying thrust at the end. All the ones with any fancy features were in the hundreds of dollars, but were still limited in size. I ended up going with a $25 one that was basically a tube of textured silicone, open at the end for easier cleanup.

    In short, go to a sex shop and look around :)

    • lotharmatthaeus@lemmy.zipOP
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      3 days ago

      Maybe that’s what I’ll have to do in the end. Luckily we have a nice one where I visited with the wife before.

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    I’ve heard that those things can cause people to become dependent on them to climax. Not everyone, I’m sure, but I wouldn’t risk it. I’ve been a hands-on man all my life (except for a couple experiments with assistive devices when I was a teenager).

    Btw, congrats! You probably won’t have energy enough to masturbate for a while.

  • eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    3 days ago

    (woman talking)

    I dated a guy who had an adjustable flashlight and he really liked it (and it was fun to use on him as a nice side effect).

  • amniotic druid@lemmy.world
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    Uj/ get an open ended one otherwise youre gonna nut and clean one out once and realize it’s not worth the hassle

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    3 days ago

    Look up Tenga, specifically the “flip” series. They have other toys that are full sized and on the cheaper side, but they likely won’t last as long.

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    7 hours ago

    Full sized fleshlight with texture. It doesn’t have electronics bit the full size are deep and easy to clean.

  • atro_city@fedia.io
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    3 days ago

    That’s actually a good question. I’m curious about the responses. Didn’t know these things existed and just searching for them popped up an immense null

    My issue would be the cleaning. Not sure if there’s fucktoy with a solution.

  • slippyferret@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    3 days ago

    This style masturbator is by far the best I have used. Easy to hold even when slippery, easy to clean, and very inexpensive. There is a nicer, four-finger version that I own, but this one from Amazon is probably similar.

    https://a.co/d/095d8ytr

  • Jo Miran@lemmy.ml
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    3 days ago

    As already recommended, your top requirement should be that it is long and open ended. I also suggest that you pick something with a good amount of internal texture and uses extra soft medical grade silicone.

    For best results I recommend x-lube. Dunk your masturbator and bottle of lube in hot water for a few minutes before you start.

    If money is no option, Bad Dragon sells top quality open ended masturbators with all sorts of different internal textures.

    • Krusty@quokk.au
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      3 days ago

      That’s a girthy shop vac. He might need a 2 meter hose extension.