It took me 2 attempts to find the one I liked. One was translating my deadname’s root word to another language that was gendered, then the second was a friend saying a plant reminded them of me and I liked it more. Also easier to spell hehe.

For me it was literally that about 2-3 days after my egg cracking this name floated around my mind randomly and I stuck with it.

My first name I found randomly while looking at names with a similar meaning (the meaning behind the latin root) of my deadname. At the end of the day it doesn’t have that meaning at all, but I fell in love with that name.

My middle names are the feminized version of my deadname and a potential name my mom would have given me if I were born a girl.

I simply feminized my former masculine name…

I had picked a name from a video game I really loved and had intended that to be my future daughter’s name for over a decade but eventually realized that the person I really wanted to have that name was me.

And I never wanted kids, so it was always weird to me that I had a name picked out, but I was never the most insightful person.

I just went to the female version of my name. My nickname everyone uses stayed the same as it’s gender neutral. (I’m not really called Theresa, I just use that online because I like it and did consider it once. But I think it doesn’t work well with my last name)

My grandfather had a name that was historically gender neutral but is now more commonly feminine. He used to be bullied for it as a kid and went by a nickname. He passed away before I transitioned. I wear it with pride in his memory.

My parents had one picked out for each gender (I was successfully hiding it on every ultrasound image) and now I use the name they picked for a girl.

Hildegard von Bingen was the most talented and accomplished woman I learned about in my history classes at school. I like her name so I took it!

I liked when Codsworth from Fallout 4 called me by it. I had liked the idea of a lot of names before, but it was the first one that really clicked. When that robot first called me Assface, I knew it would be my name.

First I wanted to keep my initials partly for convenience, but also they’re part of the name I use for publishing music.

My first name I initially thought about from someone who was a bit of an unfulfilled teenage love as well as someone I respected quite a lot. Though I also just like the name a lot. And shortening it creates a very non-binary name that is rare but is masculine in some cultures and feminine in others. That is the one I mostly actually use.

Middle name first I though of due to a favorite singer, but also happens to mean something that is something I considered extremely beautiful.

I don’t think there’s any name I’d think, “that’s me,” about. Maybe partly because I dont think in words really. I consider it a label and way of communicating and so it just needed to be one I liked hearing. I normally probably wouldn’t think I would choose such an ordinary first name, either, but it just fell into place, has emotional connection, if not exactly intense, and fits my gender which is agender with feminine presentation.

I haven’t. There’s some baggage with my (unfortunately masculine) given name than I’m not ready to let go of and I don’t have any name I actually want.

Sometimes I change the spelling to be feminine (albeit a rare name compared to the masc form) and more similar to my mom’s name (who my name was picked to rhyme with). It’s a spelling I used as my character name in a Pokemon game when I chose a girl character like a decade before my egg cracked and my friend thought it was an uhh interesting choice (expressed by friendly teasing).

I read the numbers trilogy by rachel ward probably around 15 years ago and one character gives birth to a girl and names her Mia and I locked onto it for if I ever had a daughter. Eventually, my wife and I decided we didn’t want kids, so my hope to use the name disappeared. When I realized I was trans, I thought maybe I didn’t lock onto it for a daughter like I had thought, but for myself. First time my wife called me Mia, I turned into a goddamn puddle, so I knew it was my name. Ironically, now we want to have a baby, and Mia is suddenly off the table.

I haven’t totally settled yet, but I was named after my maternal and paternal grandfathers, so I’ll probably end up switching to my grandmother’s names instead. I just feel like if I don’t set a rigid rule for naming myself, I’ll end up changing it every month. I’m very indecisive.

My first name rhymes with my deadname lol. It’s been in my head for most of my life.

I got more creative with my middle name, and it’s a reference to two inspiring video game characters who share a name in Resident Evil 2 and Final Fantasy XIII.