I’m going to keep this short:
As we all know, the new rule is being implemented.
It’s going into effect during midnight and You. All. Know. What. This. Means.
Take care and make sure to respect the new rule and follow it thoroughly. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you twice.
Remember, this is serious, folks!
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This is like when my mom asks me for help with someone.
“I need your help with someone this weekend.”
“Okay, what?”
“Help.”
“Uh, okay… should I come over Saturday or Sunday?”
“Weekend.”
“What time?”
“Early.”
show up at 8:30 on Saturday to find her in her PJs watching videos about van lifers
“What the fuck are you doing here I’m not ready for you to help clean out my basement!”
“You didn’t tell me when to come.”
“That’s too much mental load for me you need to figure it out based on subtle vibrations in the universes energy.”
Reminds me of the time we had to clean out the garage. My mom asks me to come help. No problemo! So I head out to the garage with her and start picking things up and organizing. “No! That doesn’t go there!” she says as I put garbage in the garbage bin.
“Okay, what should I do with it?”
“Gimme a sec to organize this over here.” Minutes pass.
“So what should I be doing?”
“Hold this open.” Mom gives me a garbage bag and insists I stand there, holding it open while she rummages through stuff.
"Do you want me to organize the shelves or something?
“No, just hold that.”
20ish minutes pass. I’m doing the job of the garbage bin, which she insists it is important that I do this instead of literally anything else. I prop open to bag and just go inside to play Battlefield 1942. Like 30 minutes passes before she notices I’m not the thing holding the garbage bag open. She yells at me about something through the window. I pretend I don’t hear her because I’m a teenage boy with Battlefield to play.
This was over 20 years ago, and I remember it because 1) My mom apparently thinks I’m a mindreader; 2) It was a pattern of behavior where “You didn’t clean up right,” leading to a well-known phenomenon where parents don’t let their children make mistakes, so they never learn how to actually do the thing, causing them to develop problems as adults. Anxiety around chores, perfectionism and unrealistic expectations, hoarding, and so on.
When we were renovating our home, she kept insisting I was a bum for not helping my uncle (paid professional macon), he never asked for help, I went there “to help” and he told me and he didn’t need nor want help, and I couldn’t help him job in his job because I’m not a professional macon.
Is it an ND symptom to have basic resource management?
Is it an ND symptom to have basic resource management??
Dunno. I’m neurotypical (outside of depression/anxiety).
I’m doing the job of the garbage bin
My mom do this too, like a drone operator. She want me to hold pictures or a shelf or whatever up on the wall so she can see how it looks… then she just disappear. After a few minutes I give up and usually find her in the kitchen smoking her pipe and re-heating day old coffee in the microwave looking at me like “what?”.
I guess it’s some sort of body-double thing where you just being there helps but she hasn’t figured it out yet so you just have to stand there.
It was a pattern of behavior where “You didn’t clean up right,” leading to a well-known phenomenon where parents don’t let their children make mistakes, so they never learn how to actually do the thing, causing them to develop problems as adults. Anxiety around chores, perfectionism and unrealistic expectations, hoarding, and so on.
Oof this is too real. I’m still learning skills I should have picked up 20 years ago
She once got mad at me cuz she texted me asking me to move some stuff out of the shared bathroom (we were living together at the time), so I went and started doing it and she was like “I didn’t mean now!”
Then why’d you text me? Shes such a procrastinator she expects others to procrastinate as well, I was to feign being a procrastinator to not piss her off.
I’d teach her how to use the time-deferred text feature of the SMS app or whatever messaging apps she’s using.
That’s too much mental load for her. I need to figure it out.
My wife does this thing where she sees me doing something and silently comes over and starts helping me by telling me to “stop” what I’m doing and then just doing the thing completely differently than the way I was doing it. It’s so frustrating. Stopping and standing aside while she just does it differently (but no better or worse) is so frustrating when there’s no explanation. Why the fuck was I wasting my time doing the thing myself if she was just going to do it anyways?
That why I’m almost glad my wife Deborah left me and took the kids, and my house, and my dog, and my chest freezer full of meat. Now me and my bro Doug just chill and drink all day!
hell yeah brother
I don’t know what this means.sigh
Okej, so it’s just an extension from the previous rule, really. It used to be an addendum to that one, but we made it a separate new rule instead. Why? Because this opens it up for us to extend it as needed. Instead of having to change the whole sub-section and being constrained by it, we can just add to this one instead.
It can feel contradictory, but don’t worry, we use context-dependent enforcement. It’s less confusing that way.
Hope this helped!
Hope this helped!
lmao
(Meta joke about how NTs expect ND people to “just know” about social rules, but ND people have a hard time understanding these unspoken social rules as we have to work much harder than NT people to learn and abide by them to appease sensibilities of NT people.)
Ah thank you
Oh, you didn’t get the memo? It went into effect 2 hours ago
It took me way to long to realize this post was a bit about unspoken social rules and not a new rule being added to the comm.
ComputersNeurotypical social interactions are like Old Testament gods: lots of rules and no mercy.I’ll mess up somehow regardless
I’m assuming this rule is also retroactive, right? If I violated this rule before it went into effect, I’m getting disciplined for it?
Well you shouldn’t be.
I say shouldn’t because officially they can’t do that, but it will probably reflect in your social score so keep and eye on that.
System is a black box basically so we can’t really tell you. Sorry.
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Expletive
I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
…FUCK!!!
(Oh okay, I guess I have to do this now, one more inconvenience is fine, I already have no time or place to do things how I like, so this won’t be a problem to me) is what I think to myself when I hear this kind of thing.
