• Saapas@piefed.zip
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    People who got a partner already might be better at getting partners than those without partners

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      As someone polyamorous, there’s definitely something to this. If I already have one partner, I feel more confident in approaching new potential partners. Knowing somebody already cares about you and supports you can go far.

      What I don’t understand is the cheater mindset - the idea of going after someone behind your partner’s back. Especially these days, where people know about polyamory. If your partner’s not into it, then you have to make a choice - do you want to be their one and only? Then stick to that promise. If not, then the honorable thing would be to be honest and accept the break up.

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        cheaters aren’t honorable.

        you’re presumption is that people are not bad people. lots of people are genuinely bad people, and they are only in relationships to exploit, use, and abuse others. and most cheaters have double-standards, the rules of fidelity only apply to their partner, not themselves.

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    Also why? That’s like double the amount of chores you have to share and fun places you have to visit.

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    Not defending cheating but basically use the same skills that got you the first partner.

    About why? You gonna have to ask fucking Amanda. One doesn’t trip and blows someone off by accident

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      My skills were swiping on tinder and then getting lucky enough to find someone as awkward and weird as myself. Don’t think it’s very likely to happen again.

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        That’s very common. In those kinda situations the actually getting in contact part is the hard one

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    I’ve noticed that people flirt with you so much more when you’re in a relationship. And from talking with female friends about it, it’s about them feeling you’re safe because of it. I understand it but don’t like it, flirting with someone you know is in a relationship is ficked up. I’ve never cheated and never will, I’ve ended friendships because of it (them cheating on their partner). It’s just so fucking evil IMO, I’d break really badly if someone ever cheated on me.

  • GreenKnight23@lemmy.world
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    it’s the mustache. you’re not distinguished enough to have one. wait until you have a bit of grey and you can try again.

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    What is it with people in vehicles taking an upward-angled photo of their face? I noticed this in another post where the identity of the person didn’t even have anything to do with the content. Is this a new trend or something?

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    It’s easy:

    1. Find a girl.
    2. Find another girl.
    3. Cheat on the first girl with the second girl.

    “But Aeon”, you say. “that wouldn’t count as cheating because I never was with that first girl!”

    Well, you are not going to get with that other girl, so it should all balance out or something.