• TwoBeeSan@lemmy.worldEnglish
    61·
    2 days ago

    This is anyone tbh.

    Rings more true of course for someone who has gone through that particular trauma of self discovery. All that comes with it.

    Opening your heart to someone, trusting them with yourself, is one of the most vulnerable feelings in existence.

    Having that abused and manipulated is unforgettable.

    • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      27·
      2 days ago

      I don’t disagree that it can be anyone, but I think this is speaking to how some trans women end up seeming closed off, like they always have their guard up. But that when they trust you, and let it down, that they will pour their soul out to bare for you.

      • TwoBeeSan@lemmy.worldEnglish
        18·
        2 days ago

        10000% hope didn’t come off dismissive.

        Anyone who abuses someone whose been through that is a special kind of fucked

      • Mossy Feathers (She/Her)@pawb.socialEnglish
        141·
        2 days ago

        I did that for another trans woman once. Never again. I will never forget being stoned at her house, seeing her grin and thinking, “I’m in danger” but being too high to leave.

        The local trans furs group let her back in despite knowing what she did because “there’s no evidence :)”.

        • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
          18·
          2 days ago

          I don’t understand how the conversation pivoted to this but it feels a bit like trauma dumping? I’m really sorry this happened to you, but saying you won’t ever interact intimately with another trans woman again… It feels like there’s some sort of implication there that’s making me pretty uncomfortable.

          • Mossy Feathers (She/Her)@pawb.socialEnglish
            5·
            1 day ago

            The conversation relates to trans women trying to open up and being hurt for it, yes?

            You’re assuming that I won’t interact with another trans person ever again. What I’m actually saying is that I can’t see myself being vulnerable for someone ever again. The trans part being relevant because it somehow felt even worse coming from someone who’s also trans (I am trans too).

            • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
              3·
              21 hours ago

              Maybe I’m just confused why it was a direct reply to my comment then, rather than the post as a whole. It felt like a fairly jarring topic shift from the rest of this comment chain.