• KingJalopy
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      Nah, when it comes to social shit like that, you just have not give a fuck what people think about you anymore, because honestly, they probably fucking aren’t. You’d have to be pretty egotistical to think so, and if you were, you’d probably be one of those douche bags that bothers girls who don’t want to talk to them.

        • KingJalopy
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          193 months ago

          Or you could do the super smart cheat code way and eat waaay too many mushrooms one night thinking you can handle it, then get your ego absolutely fucking annihilated, realize you are actually one with the entirety of the universe and therefore actually just one with the girl you wanna talk to as all things are intrinsically entwined and you’ve finally achieved total absolute understanding of life and existence itself and hope you can explain it to her after it wears off with that same clarity without using the words “I’m literally inside you”.

          Or so I hear…

          • @Randomgal@lemmy.ca
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            33 months ago

            Idk man I’d someone said this to me, I’d slowly back away. Mushrooms are cool, but not a silver bullet in anyway.

            Hint: Enlightened people probably aren’t posting on Lemmy. XD

      • Jake Farm
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        143 months ago

        There is a difference between confidence/self love and egoism.

      • @algorithmae
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        You had me at first but lost me at the end. Social anxiety and low self confidence is the opposite of egotistic

        • KingJalopy
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          Absolutely not, but one can recognize the others disinterest and be ok with that and one won’t stop to think you couldn’t possibly not be interested in them, or care really care wether you are or not because you should be. The latter obviously Clint the douche.

  • SSTF
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    493 months ago

    A well written resume, a firm handshake, and a willingness to knock on doors is the key to success.

  • Jake Farm
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    223 months ago

    Who said that? Nothing comes passively except death.

    • @Comment105@lemm.ee
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      133 months ago

      It’s pretty common to tell depressed or struggling people that things get better/easier, as if it happens passively and they just need to stick around, just hold out.

      • Jake Farm
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        83 months ago

        That is true of the moment. Moments of pain and morning do pass just like moments of happiness. But an unhealthy lifestyle makes pain more likely.

    • @Shard@lemmy.world
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      Does profusely apologizing for puking on their dress count as conversation?

      If yes then I’ll have you know I’m quite the socializer.

      • @Wanderer@lemm.ee
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        53 months ago

        Well it’s a start isn’t it?

        Just do a little better next time and the next time and the next time.

        • @Comment105@lemm.ee
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          But what if the next time is in 8 years, and then the next ones after that are 5 and 13 years apart? Won’t be much improvement then, and it’ll be 26 years later and you’ll be pushing 60.

    • @CaptnNMorgan@reddthat.com
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      Me too, I woke up with 2 or 3 phone numbers in my pocket. I texted one of them and was greeted by an angry boyfriend, I either didn’t text the others or they didn’t reply, but it boosted my confidence a lot. So much so that I was able to talk to girls before I blacked out

  • @jmj88@lemm.ee
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    173 months ago

    What no one says is you have to make a fool of yourself quite a few times before it gets easy. But it’s worth it.

  • @Donjuanme@lemmy.world
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    133 months ago

    Not being able to treat people like people because they have different genitals, proving age is just a number.

  • @VagueDirector@aussie.zone
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    Yeah I am coming to the same realisation. If anything it gets worse, since as an adult you are naturally going to be more isolated when you aren’t forced to socialize.

  • @mctoasterson@reddthat.com
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    23 months ago

    Pretend you like, and are interested in the meaning of, her unnecessary wrist tattoo. That’s good for at least 5 minutes of conversation.

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      -Found a girl with a flower wrapping around her wrist and hand, I was genuinely interested because it was pretty af thank you