I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don’t feel like anyone notices.

So I’m going to try and compliment people who:

Have really well done and unique tattoos

Are older but super athletic (It’s harder and more thankless, since when you’re young and athletic you’re usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)

Have super sharp outfits

Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)

what are other good compliments we should give each other?

EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I’ll try to throw out a “looks like you’re cooking up some good stuff”

  • @GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee
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    514 months ago

    Anything. Literally anything. The only time I get noticed is when someone needs something from me. I define my existence by how useful I am to others because that’s the only time I’ve ever felt wanted. I hate it, but it’s better than being completely ignored (which has happened many times in my life).

  • SatansMaggotyCumFart
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    384 months ago

    I like when other men compliment my penis.

    Just a causal ’Nice dick bro’ when I’m wearing my nice gray sweats.

  • cabbage
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    4 months ago

    Genuine compliments on personality are always cool. Like, “you’re good at making people feel comfortable around you” or whatever. People often wonder what role they play in social situations, being told they’re doing good is nice. At least I appreciate it whenever it happens.

  • silly goose meekah
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    334 months ago

    I put a bunch of effort into making my moustache curly, a bit like Dali. And recently I received a compliment from a dude for that. I really liked that.

  • @Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee
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    My personal favorite probably is compliments on when I have built/fixed something. It’s the skill I’m the most proud of.

    • astrsk
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      This! Using my knowledge and practice to practical effect and being thanked for it is genuinely the best feeling! Even if it’s transactional, it’s still nice to feel like a job well done after all the years of effort and craft.

  • Matengor
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    As a father, I’d like to hear how well I combine being an emotionally supportive dad while maintaining a demanding job and taking care of cooking, repairs and other stuff at home.

    • macrocarpa
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      Hey - very much feel this one.

      It will likely come from your kids in the future, the validation doesn’t come from society. They get to a point where they recognise what you did and say thanks.

      You’re doing well, keep it up mate.

    • @AA5B@lemmy.world
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      Good one. My kids are teens, so I’m always happy to hear anything about how well they grew up

  • Maestro
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    204 months ago

    I’m always ordering weird shirts off the internet. From like video games, Youtube channels, FOSS and general geeky fun stuff. About once or twice a year some total stranger will say “cool shirt!” out of nowhere. That always makes me smile the rest of the day 😊

  • @1984@lemmy.today
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    I was in Italy on vacation and a girl in a hotel reception said me and my girlfriend have really beautiful blue eyes. They are not used to blue eyes in Italy so much, but it felt very nice to get a compliment as a guy. I think I’ve rarely or never had compliments from strangers like that.

    • @Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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      That woman probably felt safer to compliment you as well as your girlfriend because you were together. Sadly, guys in general get fewer compliments from girls than pop into the girls’ heads because they’re afraid of how the guy would react.

      Which is why it’s nice for OP to call on guys to compliment each other, and notice when they’ve put in effort.

      I’m going to add, “Great hair!” And, “Those glasses really suit you!”

    • toomanypancakes
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      64 months ago

      Hey there, I saw you juggling while twirling a drumstick and just wanted to tell you I was really impressed by your dexterity

  • _haha_oh_wow_
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    Praise for any genuine public service whether that’s being an EMT or just picking up a piece of trash. The world would probably be better off if we focused more on recognizing actions and less on superficial things like what clothes you can afford or physical appearance.

    • HubertManne
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      64 months ago

      ooh. I would not get any compliments based on OP original criteria but could get some with yours. Honestly though compliments make me uncomfortable.

        • HubertManne
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          Im really not. Well usually. I can be caught off guard and actually my wife is good at that. It honestly makes me more rigid and ackward. I feel bashful is like a looser state of mind and body.