I have an ok lifestyle with the people I n my house all working now, so would put all of it to use, that’s fine. If I am allowed to keep this in my community and city, I would put it in a trust that could only be used to extend the trolley system here back to at least what it was in the 1940s, and as much farther as practical with that $ and make it free to ride. An endowment that could generate enough money to keep that going and to modernize it.

If it must be global, how many people are there? 8,9 billion ? That’s not even a dollar each, I’m not sure. Maybe plant 5 billion trees, or buy up land & rewild it.

I run pretty hot usually, good sex drive, but nursing absolutely dampened that down to below zero. Plus sex is frightening after birth. Plus having kids hanging on you all the time can certainly make you long for some space with nobody touching you, and a guy asking for sex on top of that can feel like an obligation. Again - I am saying this as someone who literally has sex every day most of the time, and pregnancy made sex feel even better. Nursing killed my sex drive. YES it passes, assuming your kids are healthy, they are easier over time, and eventually even somewhat helpful. Once that babyhood was over, I’d say they were stressful in the way a second job is - it’s just more of everything.

Overall I would say kids were good for the relationship, we stayed together longer and happier because of them. My ex was helpful as a dad, wanted kids, as I did. Kids are hands down the best work I’ve done in my life, nothing else comes close. But it is stressful as fuck, yes. Especially at the start.

Obese is just a medical term. BMI is a height to weight ratio so it’s accurate in that way. It does miss as a measure of over-fat vs. overweight, but more often in the other direction (fat people with normal BMI) but it can err in the other direction sometimes, sure.

The easiest and most accurate way to tell if you are over-fat is waist to height ratio. Your waist circumference should be less than half your height. So if you are 198cm, waist needs to be less than 99cm. This is the only stat that’s been a reliable predictor for health problems from too much fat (because it’s the torso fat that’s more problematic health-wise)

The other thing to remember is that the risk curve for underweight is steep but for overweight it’s shallow - a couple extra kg has almost no extra health risk.

In my day.

You are a NIMBY! Sprawl does suck, I just always think it’s funny that people move somewhere they like and then think nobody else will.

Where I live, yes you would have to buy the land, but then can get the government to pay you something back if you promise not to develop it, there is a conservation program to preserve wild land. Maybe there is something like that by you.

I have always felt a little out of synch like I was born too early. Not sure I need longer than a regular lifespan, but might consider pausing. The problem is that I have friends, kids, brothers and sisters, don’t think it would be pleasant to wake up with all of them dead or old. So probably not.

Unless I am going to be putting stuff into the trunk, backing in is better, it’s more dangerous to back the car out of the space than into it.

Backing in is the correct way to parallel park too.

I think partly this is because flattening the hair at home is difficult and you don’t get great results. I actually put some effort into my natural hair (gel, scrunch, diffuse dry) to get it to look good curly, and the only other way it looks really good is professional blowout to bouncy straight not swingy straight.

Or maybe it’s because wavy hair rocks! I do think curly and wavy, kinky, any hair with texture is livelier than the smooth and straight hair. Like, curly hair is individual and straight hair is standardized.

Honestly it just looks like before sex hair and after sex hair. Or someone with straight hair immediately after curling it vs. 5 minutes later. So if he cheats on the somewhat touseled hair person with the I Just Did My Hair person, he’ll just end up with a somewhat touseled hair person again. Maybe even if he goes to coffee with the picture #2, when she leaves she will have the hair in the first image.

My parents did not overtly discriminate in this way. We were all treated the same. My mom was apparently raised “like a boy” because she said when she went to college she was shocked that the clothes she threw on the floor in the morning were still there in the afternoon. My kids were all girls (at the start, at least) so I can’t be sure I wouldn’t have treated a boy differently, but because of my relationship drama with their dad, the older ones had to grow up more than the younger set and it shows, in their acceptance that stuff has to get done, responsibility I guess? The last two have had a longer runway to be kids.

Both my ex and my husband were raised by single moms and both did/do as much household stuff as I do, though that’s a pretty low bar to reach.

I agree somewhat with @Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca , although I always outearned my ex, and my straight daughters also outearn their partners. I did not raise anyone to value people based on their wages. Me & my husband now just treat it like a competition - he wants to make more than me, so I try to make more so he will make more. Which, honestly is the best. My ex just figured if I made more he could make less, so we stayed poor.

I guess, if you like it. Plastic wrapped cheese and plastic wrapped applesauce are a little crazy and it’s got a lot of refined sugar. If I were “fixing” this,

Apple not applesauce

Cheese sandwich not shrink wrapped cheese. With some lettuce, tomato, onion. Vegetables. On the side of you don’t like them in the sandwich.

Water not pear juice.

Those chips are (as my kids would say) fire. So good. I would not take them away even though they have not nutrition.

What I usually have for lunch is leftovers of whatever I made for supper the night before (if it’s leftover-able)

Also, I’d say it depends on if this is all you eat. If it’s an indulgent quick lunch in the context of an overall good diet, then heck yes, acceptable. If this is the healthiest meal of your day, then no.

I feel like none of these actually work if you need an egg. Successfully made a tart for my vegan kid using a combination of stuff, including cornstarch and coconut milk using this recipe

https://domesticgothess.com/blog/2019/05/24/vegan-strawberry-tart/

And it was utterly successful. Not even oppressively coconut and not obvious cornstarch either. I love egg custard and this one was just as good, even to me. Eggs provide fat, protein, binding, rising. Nothing on that list does all of those. You really have to think through what you would be getting from an egg and build around that.

If there was a study, I would volunteer. I’m an omnivore now for 20 years, after being vegetarian for about the same amount of time, never vegan. I live a reasonably healthy lifestyle but office job and do like to drink about thrice a week, only one drink (so moderate, I think) . I’m sure there are lifestyle matched vegetarians and vegans.

Personally I’m healthier but heavier (was underweight, now middle of healthy BMI which feels fat to me but I do literally feel good) with some meat in the diet but don’t eat it every day. Cholesterol was high when I was vegetarian, still is. Only thing that drops that is regular fasting, which unfortunately was a reliable migraine trigger for me.

Me personally? Group dance aerobics are joyful fun classes. Group yoga classes are a very supportive and lovely environment. I do also get to work without a car, do yardwork, park far if I take a car, just try to be generally active.

It takes 6 weeks to build a habit. Just choose something you tolerate, commit to 6 weeks, and at that point you should feel better on a day you work out, than on a day you don’t.

The green sauce is cilantro and mint, so delicious. The beans look like chana masala.

No idea, you would have to ask the bank. I called that bank the “demon bank”, because the exterior walls were marble and the patterns looked like demons. Those scales still are at grocery stores here, I haven’t been in a physical bank for a long time. Here is the bank. It’s funny to me that a precognitive dream is humdrum but a scale at a bank is hanging you up. I already knew the scale was there, that was not part of the precognition.

They had a big analog scale you could stand on, and a dial would go around the markings like a clock- there are still some of these same scales at grocery stores here. People use them to weigh themselves, or I see people weighing luggage on them. In the dream the dial went backwards but IRL it was just wrong, very wrong.

Google “Toledo No Springs Scale” and you will see them.

Reddit suggests the Choofly, 2oz Singani, half oz tequila, 0.75oz each of pineapple and lime, with celery bitters, shaken with an egg white.

That sounds complicated, but hopefully gives you a few directions to go in - pineapple, tequila, celery flavors.

At least you’d know you didn’t surround yourself with yes-men, I guess.

The dumbest one that absolutely convinced me it was precog, was:

I was in line at the bank behind 3 women. They had a scale, one of those big Toledo No Springs ones. I stepped on the scale, but the dial went backwards. I turned around and saw this girl Joann, who I hadn’t seen since middle school.

I wrote all this down in the dream journal, and then didn’t think about it.

Couple weeks later, I’m at that bank. 3 women ahead of me in line. I get on the scale, but it says I weigh 30lb, it’s broken. I turn around and who do the see? Joann, that girl I had not seen since middle school.

What the fuck? It kinda pissed me off because I really don’t want to think the future is set to that extent. Like, seeing some big event that might echo back in time, sure. But a broken scale at some bank? Joann? I haven seen her since, either, we were not close, why would I dream her true?