• sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    55·
    1 day ago

    … how … do i say this…

    I think some of ya’ll need to really try to start topping life itself.

    Milk it for every last drop, so to speak.

    EDIT

    Lol ok round 2, because a top’s work is never done:

    Grab life by the balls. Not destructively, not angrily… but firmly. Show life that you mean business.

      • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        3·
        14 hours ago

        No offense, but I’ve never met a bottom that could do that.

        May just be bad luck on my part.

        … maybe you can be the exception that breaks my rule?

        • djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          3·
          8 hours ago

          That’s honestly kinda sad. Maybe it’s just 'cuz I have a cum fetish but I love making guys feel like they’re completely spent, like a succubus sucking their soul out of their body.

          • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
            1·
            4 hours ago

            I mean frankly, I agree with you, it is actually sad.

            I’m a bi cis dude… actually a switch, not a top… closer to 40 yo than 30 now… been with lets say under 20 different people.

            Literally never once been with a top. Never. Oh sure, a few people will act like they’re a top… they’re a confused bossy/bratty bottom, they never take any initiative, ever.

            Only a few switches, which I by far enjoyed the most… because I don’t have to be a top all the time.

            But the significant majority have been bottoms.

            … Only a few of them ever gave me oral, none of them has ever gotten me all the way, that way. Ever.

            I’ve had more sex partners than the average person my age… never once came from a BJ, in my entire life. Never met anyone who had any idea what they were doing.

            Despite me giving all of them oral, quite successfully.

            I… genuienly had to get away from it all, move somewhere else, have a bit of a hermit phase (i guess this would just be a midlife crisis lol) to truly realize how a whole lot of elements of my life I just assumed were relatively normal… just aren’t/weren’t, that I’ve been through a considerable amount of abuse and exploitation… not just pertaining to the topic of sex, but, dont wanna go even further into tmi.

            I’m since really been working on just … not letting shitty people into my life, basically? I’ve always known who I am, what my boundaries and wants are… I tell people them, directly, clearly, they make the faces and mouth noises like they’re listening and understand, and then within a few months, they forget them, and when I tell them again, I’m being some kind of unreasonable.

            sigh

            … It is now occuring to me that a potential explanation for some of this is that I’ve actually been more people’s first or maybe second fuck than I realized. … a lot of them would just kind of blush and say ‘they’d done this before’ while looking away… when it sure seemed like they hadn’t.

            Fucking hooray autism, goddamnit.

            I may accidentally have punched more v-cards than I thought, by way of defaulting to assuming people are honest.

            … anyway thats a lot of words to say dear christ i need a succubus to evacuate my soul

  • Shirow@lemmy.zipEnglish
    16·
    1 day ago

    My mind is telling that you shouldn’t but I know deep inside I would do the same 👉👈.