Happened to me in the other side. I was looking at “selling” tags on apartments while biking. And I seen a selling tag. I made a 360 and went between two car to go take a picture, when i arrived their was a woman kind of hidden behind the tall car one the streets (I didn’t saw her before and was surprised) and she immediately told me I have nothing and I can’t give you direction. At the time I just answered I want to take picture of the to sell panel (their is the agency telephone number on them). At thé time I just found it strange and kept going, now I wonder if iscared her much.
Have you checked out the rules for this community in the sidebar?
I made a 360
I meant I was going to one direction I spotted the selling tag and did a turn to go back…
Atleast the dinosaur just wants to eat you. So really it’s probably safer. And since most of the shithead men would probably be the kind assholes to taunt animals they will probably be eaten first.
I’ll take the dinosaur
I’d definitely take a dinosaur over a man when walking home at night. Especially if it’s a larger dinosaur, they really wouldn’t care about me since im not big enough. Larger dinosaurs like trexs wouldn’t get enough back from killing and eating a human to justify the energy spent. Maybe they would scare me off or try to swat me with their tail. But that’s it.
Now a man on the other hand is a real threat. And now for a little bit of story time, the street I live on is still under construction so I have to park a few blocks away. I get off work at almost midnight, and last night there was a man on the street I have to park on. And he followed me most of the way to the apartment I live in. It really spooked me.
So yeah living with dinosaurs would probably be safer than dealing the men at night.
I was talking to a (male) friend of mine recently and I mentioned having earphones in but no music playing whilst sitting on the train and he had no idea what that meant or why somebody would do it…
I wonder when I should begin doing this. Probably not yet, since I really don’t pass.
Everyone can benefit from a little more situational awareness and personal readiness!
Fair enough. As an autistic person, I do have a deficit in that area.
Get you a nice pick axe. You don’t even have to use it because no one expects the pick axe.
I should also get a Spanish inquisition. Nobody expects the Spanish inquisition.
Blows my mind how some women live in constant fear of such normal things. I am a woman and I have never had a problem doing any of those things. Although camping alone is not something I would ever do because that would be terrifying in and of itself.
It happens when a stranger breaks into your house to steal your underwear, or your roommate’s ex comes knocking on the door at odd hours and shoves in as soon as you unlock it, or when a group of guys start chasing you while you’re running at night, or try to run you off the road when you’re on your bike, or a drunk dude randomly shoves you into the road when you’re walking home from work at three in the morning.
My experiences are not abnormal.
I do, however, go solo camping. Nothing makes me feel safer than being alone.
I am just picturing a t-rex knocking on the door.
Tbh you can add exercising in the day too.
Landshark.
it would more likely be one of the clever girl velociraptors
Trying to knock and failing because T-Rex arms
I went to a park a few weeks ago for a morning walk. It was a long drive to the parking lot, and in that time the only people I saw were other women, all of whom were alone (or walking a dog.)
I know it’s a small thing, but seeing a bunch of other women walking alone made me feel like I made a safe choice in going there. The only thing that bugged me were the mosquitoes (pun not intended, but welcome.)
Hmm… would I rather meet a bear, a man, or a dinosaur in the woods?
bear or dinosaur is an interesting choice. the bear you could know something about their psychology and behavior so you have a good chance of getting out unharmed. the dinosaur who knows? their behavior is totally unknown, but they’ve never seen a human so they might just get scared and run away, but they might be crazy like a chicken and just go straight for the kill without thinking. the dinosaur is such a wild card i think id still choose the bear, but seeing a dinosaur would be so cool. obviously it would be bear/dinosaur over a man though lol.
Depends on the size of the dino, but I would likely choose the bear. I am very cautious of birds and I am afraid of them going for my eyes. Ouch! I would hope that if the bear attacked it would be over quickly.
I think I’d choose the dinosaur over the bear, if only because I’ve never seen a dinosaur before. But still, definitely both bear and dinosaur over man.
Jogging at night would immediately become a national safety problem because, suddenly, every man would need to go jogging at night.
Answering the door when you’re not expecting company is dangerous? You can always check the peephole. And/or get a chain for the door.
Security screen doors are pretty standard down here for airflow. Also let you open the wooden door without compromising your safety.
Does the fact you have to check the peephole or get a chain not suggest that answering that door is potentially dangerous!?
P.S.
Did you check the rules before posting? Are you conforming with them according to lemmy.world policy?
Note, I am asking, not accusing. Yet.
Hmm, I guess you have a point there. Although in my country peepholes are universal, present in practically every single apartment door. Despite it being one of the safest countries on the planet (including women safety).
Did you check the rules before posting?
Nope, I didn’t. Thanks for pointing that out, because I just browse whatever is on my feed without checking communities. I’ll try to pay more attention to that, or mute, block, or whatever, the community, so that it doesn’t show up on my feed if I fail.
However, I have a somewhat
provokingprovocative question. Could you prove if anyone is or isn’t a woman, if they themselves didn’t state it clearly? Or if you could, could you further prove that their female partner didn’t post on their account?The answers to both are obvious, so what I’m asking is: what’s the point of upholding rules in situations where they’re unnecessary? I can see why you may feel the need for a ‘women only’ rule, and I’m by no means questioning it. What I’m questioning is the need to uphold it when someone’s asking a genuine question to better understand a specific subject, that may lead to everyone involved benefitting. It seems like a net loss for society to me, just to ensure an arbitrary string of words is followed to the letter. Does that fulfill any purpose other than fueling someone’s ego?
Of course, the people running the community can do whatever they want with it, so if that’s their decision, I have no choice but to accept it and move on.
I’d appreciate a thorough reply if possible, so as not to post any more comments here. Supposedly Lemmy supports DMs, but I haven’t found this functionality yet (not that I was looking too hard).
Edit:
Thank you very much for the two in-depth comments, and for being understanding despite my not reading rules and breaking them.
Also, I meant to label the question as provocative, not provoking. I think. Not provoking as in thought provoking, but provocative as in rage bait. I could see it being interpreted that way, but apparently used the wrong word.
However, I have a somewhat provoking question. Could you prove if anyone is or isn’t a woman, if they themselves didn’t state it clearly? Or if you could, could you further prove that their female partner didn’t post on their account?
People who start questioning a rule’s enforcement are generally not painting themselves as the kind of people who would follow the rule. Just thought I’d let you know.
And generally it’s pretty obvious when men post here. See, this isn’t a court of law. There’s no “beyond a reasonable doubt” or even “preponderance of the evidence” burden here. The mods are generally really good at spotting men even in those very rare cases that the men don’t make it so obvious that a child of two would shout “DADDY!” But in the end, this isn’t a court and sometimes the mods just go by instinct.
What I’m questioning is the need to uphold it when someone’s asking a genuine question to better understand a specific subject, that may lead to everyone involved benefitting. It seems like a net loss for society to me, just to ensure an arbitrary string of words is followed to the letter. Does that fulfill any purpose other than fueling someone’s ego?
You’re being polite so I’m going to try to be similarly polite back.
It’s a question of space.
I have been part of two real-life, face-to-face social groups with exclusive membership (both were in Ottawa). One was a Chinese group, the other was a “women’s group”. The women’s group thought the way you do; thought there was nothing wrong with male allies and the genuinely curious and/or helpful to be present. The Chinese group was hardline: Chinese people only. No excuses. No “my spouse is Chinese”, no “I lived in China”, no “I really love Chinese culture”, etc.
The women’s group started out fine, but slowly, inexorably, and in the end inevitably the men, despite being a minority in the group, became the focus of it. And note: this was not maliciousness. They didn’t do this because they were trying to undermine things. It’s just the nature of things. Consider this representative conversation.
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Woman A: I think that gefluggenschnitz is one of those things women will never understand. It’s a guy-only thing.
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Man: Well, I can explain the appeal. It’s that splittung of the norzrenderung is an interesting intellectual challenge.
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Woman B: But there’s so many other intellectual challenges. Why gefluggenschnitz in particular? Why not knitting? Or Chess?
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Man: Well, men tend to prefer a bit of physicality in their challenges, so …
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Woman C: But again, there’s so many things. Schneekanning, for example.
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Man: Yeah, but Schneekanning needs …
… and so on and so on and so on. And in this conversation, in a women’s group, the man is now supplying 50% of the content. And, again, I have to stress, he’s not being malicious. He’s not even being unreasonably intrusive. But now a women’s group is half-filled with the voice of a single man. And that’s not what I’m looking for from a women’s group. What I’m looking for is like what I was looking for in that far stricter Chinese community: a place to just unload and relax and talk to people of my kind; people who share many of my warrants and experiences and who don’t need the basics of that shared life explained.
There’s plenty of “shoot the shit” kinds of places on Lemmy: topical or general. There’s a good feminism community on Lemmy, for example, that explicitly welcomes men and their (polite, respectful) input. But this is not that group. This is a place for women to talk to other women about things without men becoming the focus. This is like that strict Chinese group, but for women.
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lmao. “how can you tell”.
well, women all know exactly what this meme is about. so when someone comes in saying it’s bullshit and has obviously never had that experience, it’s not exactly inconspicuous.
No, we don’t ask for verification because our community is open to anyone who feels they’re a good fit for this community as long as they’re not a man. That means there’s a wide array of genders that are welcome here.
We remind users of the rules when the comment appears to be from a man’s perspective.
It is rather easy to pick up on the tone when it’s a man coming to lecture or scold us.
What I’m questioning is the need to uphold it when someone’s asking a genuine question to better understand a specific subject, that may lead to everyone involved benefitting.
If the genuine question is from a man, it simply doesn’t need to be asked in here. They can take that question and create their own post in a more fitting community.
If you had taken a moment to look at other posts here, you would have seen that there is quite a different response from us to men who are genuine vs men who are asking leading questions in order to be condescending or mansplain. The men who are genuine respect the rules right away and respect our space which is always appreciated here :)
Yes there are DMs on Lemmy. If you want to reply to me, please figure out how to do so.
It’s not a provoking question.
I always find a little funny when the men here are so bewildered as to how we know they’re men.
It’s usually quite obvious lol
I know, right?
“HOW DID YOU KNOW I WAS A MAN YOU SILLY BITCHES!?”
Gee. I wonder.
You generally can’t tell anything from a peep hole other than whether or not there is a person standing directly in front of it.
I think only a single apartment in my life has had a peephole
And none of mine have had a chain.
It’s dangerous for many types of people and a number of reasons to answer the door without checking the peephole or using a chain, yes.
Are there people out there who’ve never had someone barge into their place to threaten/harass/be a jackass? Never had someone refuse to leave?
Chains don’t do shit. There’s a reason I keep a pick axe next to the front door.
There’s me, I guess. Never happened to me.
Technically never happened to me either, but the possibility is always in the back of my head.
I keep a metal baseball bat 💕
I think my penchant for blades is well known in this community by now…
