They’ll be pretending that they’re so interested in knowing you but once you tell them their mask falls off.
I hate that most guys are hypersexual, chill, be a normal person and not a wild animal for some time.
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It bothers me that most of the replies are trying to argue with you. It sucks to not be able to just be friendly with guys. Even if it’s an ace-but-not-aro thing, it’s understandable but still frustrating.
As a guy, lots of guys get like, 2-5 close friends and they are content with that. They don’t have time to spend with more than that, why bother with more? Not everyone needs dozens of “friends”
A girlfriend/sexual partner is different. You can make an exception for a sexual partner, they’re ideally going to be a friend as well, so you want to be friendly and make sure their interests are somewhat compatible. Generally speaking that bar is a fair bit lower for sexual partners.
But once they tell you it’s not going to happen, they’re just another potential acquaintance you aren’t going to have time for. Being a “normal person” is keeping your friend circle tight and high-quality. Sounds like you were compatible enough to be a sexual partner, but not enough to be an actual close friend, so once partner was off the table that was that.
This is a big reason why I have a hard time trusting men. I was maybe 10 years old when my “best friend” decided he didn’t want to speak to or spend time with me anymore because I didn’t want to date him. And then it just kept happening…
The vast majority of people aren’t asexual. Better to be honest and leave than be in a relationship you’re uncomfortable with
I know, but don’t pretend to want to know me or be my friend when you’re actually not.
unfortunately that’s how the “game” is setup so a lot of dudes think they’re just doing the right thing.
If they are looking for a sexual relationship then they are doing you a favor by leaving you alone. Would you rather they stick around and try to pressure you into sex?
If all they do is leave, whereas you make posts mocking them, it sounds like they are more tolerant of your sexuality than you are of theirs.
I never said I’m tolerant, I’m just venting. Men are annoying in general god forbid someone complains about them
How dare they have a sexuality inconsistent with yours!
How dare they only think about sex and not being able to see you as a human being capable of friendship. I don’t understand how you don’t see that as dehumanizing.
I imagine these are guys that you’ve encountered in the wild. It’d be really funny if you were on a dating app and simultaneously making this post.
Both, I don’t get what dating apps have to do with this
Apps are for dating/hookups. Don’t hate the players hate the game. If you’re ace you gotta make it obvious on your profile instead of dropping it mid conversation.
Meeting with people irl and matching with someone on a dating app have different different expectaions, depending on where you’re meeting people irl.
If I went on a dating app expecting a sexual relationship and the other person revealed they were asexual then obviously I’d look elsewhere. It’s not a read of you as a person, you just have different goals and that’s ok.
Yeah I agree with this.
In my experience it’s hard to gauge sometimes, IRL, if someone wants a platonic/physical/romantic relationship.
Where as on a dating app one would expect people to state their interests plainly.
