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TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone to Trans Memes@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish ·
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I'm also not a "doll"

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I'm also not a "doll"

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  • fartographer@lemmy.world
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    I don’t care to call anyone something that they’d find offensive, but I’m kinda interested in being fed a bag of old hammers. Will they be cooked in some way to improve their texture and flavor? I’ve been good, I think I deserve a Hammer Meal.

  • sem@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    Never heard of “t-girl” before.

    Does the term have history? I get that it is offensive, I’m just missing the why.

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      It’s often used in porn

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        Ty

  • apotheotic (she/her)@beehaw.org
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    I have the same visceral reaction when people refer to trans women as “a trans” or “a transwoman”, same goes for trans men

    I do, however, love “doll”

    • RachelRodent@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      Yeah I hate those hut T girl is fine to me aswell as doll

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      I get that. I wouldn’t mind “doll” as just an old timey word for women in general, but as a word for trans women it doesn’t feel right.

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        I understood “doll” to be a word that trans women call each other, which I like. I would not like being called doll by someone other than a trans woman.

      • apotheotic (she/her)@beehaw.org
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        Oh I for sure understand why anyone might not like the term for themself

  • winkly@lemmy.world
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    Tans?

    • renegadespork@lemmy.jelliefrontier.net
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      Make sure you wear sunscreen even if you’re a tans woman.

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      She misspelled it, but decided it was funny so left it in.

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    I could never imaging referring to someone by a porn category, that’s just gross.

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      You can call me amateur

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      I tried to come up with a clever response, but I don’t know porn categories and have to read into it first. Give me some time please.

      Irony aside, yeah. Don’t do that.


      OK, I checked. The three that fit best are funny, German and solo male.

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        What’s wrong with German?

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          Nothing, but being a German I think the porn category describes me. I have no clue what’s behind that category, but the label fits.

          Knowing the stereotypes, it’s probably dirndl, sausage and beer.

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            It’s just language and actors.

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              Underwhelming 😞

    • kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      You can call me “big dick” if you want.

    • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      “ebony”

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      I had no idea it was a porn category, so thank you for this post.

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    I prefer girl or that bitch over there

    But I am about as neutral to tgirl as I am trans girl because they are both terms that refer to the same thing although I can see why, the only one that I have that visceral a reaction to is the t slur that is also really common to describe us on those sites and being called a trans is almost as bad but not quite although I hate both quite a bit

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      Seconded… if it’s that other T-word we’re both thinking of (there’s a V in there too…) yeah, just… ick. 🤮 Such a dated, horrid word.

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        Wasn’t the t slur I was thinking but agreed it is gross

        I was thinking the nny one but i even thinking about the v one.

        Why are there so many fucking popular t slurs for us

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    I’m only familiar with ‘doll’ in the crime noir sense. While it has very misogynist connotations, I don’t see it as being among the worst.

    Point being, I know I’m missing something, but don’t know what.

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      There’s been a bit of a catchphrase that certain allies use to signal their support: “Protect the dolls.” Apparently “doll” was once used to refer to trans women, which is all fine and dandy for people that like it. However, it is not a term I knew about before the catchphrase, nor is it one I particularly like. It comes off as kinda icky and objectifying to me.

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        Dolls are plastic facsimiles of “real” girls that are used as a child’s plaything. Definitely grosses me out when people use it as a phrase specifically for trans women. It’s a term that needlessly others us. Just call us women, if the situation calls for specifying that we’re trans call us trans women.

        I don’t really mind if it’s being used as a term of endearment between women, but I’m not a fan of it coming from men or being used as a trans-specific term.

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        It sounds like a category alongside Marthas, Wives, and Handmaids.

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      It infers they are fake, not a real woman, just a facsimile of one.

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        It’s also pretty infantilizing. Dolls are a child’s plaything, the implication is that we’re just dressing up and playing make believe.

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    Weirdly I’m nonbinary and not a woman, but I don’t mind being called a girl 🤷‍♀️

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    @tgirlschierke@lemmy.blahaj.zone

    🍿🍿🍿

    (also, “tans woman”?)

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      I’m not against people calling themselves things, I just don’t want people to ascribe terms to me.

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        Totally fair, I just see the two of you posting a lot of similar content and thought it was a funny coincidence.

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      Can I have some of that popcorn? I need to get my learning on

  • _‌_反いじめ戦隊@ani.social
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    CONSTO, TANNA MULIER.

    Okay, tanned madam.

    🥁

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