I think I realise why this guy is making me so mad. I would’ve been this “well meaning” left-lib white-splaining why “lesser evilism” is great actually about a decade ago. I see my own past smug ignorance in this guy. Someone getting angry at me and calling me out on my bullshit helped me along the path to understanding how ignorant and smug I was being, while thinking I was “helping” disenfranchised people, when the only thing I was really helping was my own ego.
I hope they take this conversation to heart and actually listen to what we’ve been saying to them, and seek to understand our opposition to them instead of trying to pull this “reaching across aisle, we can agree to disagree” lib shit. I do think they “mean well” they’re just completely unaware of how harmful and impotent their attitudes actually are.
I think you’re onto something there. For me it’s the fact that they insist we are comrades and friends, but it’s clearly not genuine. If a friend talked to me like I talk to them, I would seriously re-evaluate who I am and what I believe. Either way I would not insist that we are “still comrades” despite having a “minor disagreement”.
That’s the thing, they think it is genuine. They think they are “seeing the person on the other side of the screen” and we are failing to do the same. Any time I ever see anyone trying to remind the person they’re talking to to “remember the human” it’s always someone insisting on “humanity for me, not for thee.”
They just flatly aren’t understanding that we’ve seen plenty of people in their position before, and seen those people get better and improve, and examine their own beliefs critically.
I’ve seen this exact thing in plenty of local organising (and in myself). The guy who encourages us to vote for the “least bad” candidate in bourgeoisie election and discourages others from reading or actively doing anything they find uncomfortable because it “won’t help.” Finding some excuse as to why their way of doing this is the only correct one, and when they receive pushback, it is always just “people talking past each other” even when it’s literally everyone else in the room telling them that they understand their position, but their position is not an acceptable one to have.
It’s always a comfortable middle class white guy doing it as well. Someone so used to eating up all the oxygen in the room that they just flat out aren’t even aware that they are doing it.
And yeah, their constant insistence that we are “friends” is just code for “This conversation is challenging my pre-concieved notions and making me feel uncomfortable, so stop doing that.” but again, they don’t seem to realise that we’ve seen this before, and know how bullshit they’re being.
In addition it’s funny that’s he’s trying to pull the “I wouldn’t tell my non-binary what to do” but he feels comfortable educating me. Also misgendering me, but we’re apparently still comrades lol. It’s just a tiny misunderstanding, just a tiny disagreement.
Yeah, I just saw that, funny how the left libs always talk about respecting people, but abandon that respect the instant they are no longer treated as The Most Important Person In The Room. I think this was just a mistake on their part, but we’ll see. I have a feeling that their apology (if they even acknowledge that they misgendered you) will be incredibly backhanded and blaming you for their actions.
Haha they just gave one where they said they hadn’t noticed the pronouns. Funny that I already pointed it out to them once, but they kept at it. Then they once again tried to trivialize the discussion. Didn’t read past that.
It was even worse than I thought! You should read it, it’s hilarious. They’re lucky it’s late and I need to head to bed soon, or else I’d probably spend the next couple of hours dunking on this shitlib who thinks they’re a communist because they’re “open minded” or some shit.
I think I realise why this guy is making me so mad. I would’ve been this “well meaning” left-lib white-splaining why “lesser evilism” is great actually about a decade ago. I see my own past smug ignorance in this guy. Someone getting angry at me and calling me out on my bullshit helped me along the path to understanding how ignorant and smug I was being, while thinking I was “helping” disenfranchised people, when the only thing I was really helping was my own ego.
I hope they take this conversation to heart and actually listen to what we’ve been saying to them, and seek to understand our opposition to them instead of trying to pull this “reaching across aisle, we can agree to disagree” lib shit. I do think they “mean well” they’re just completely unaware of how harmful and impotent their attitudes actually are.
I think you’re onto something there. For me it’s the fact that they insist we are comrades and friends, but it’s clearly not genuine. If a friend talked to me like I talk to them, I would seriously re-evaluate who I am and what I believe. Either way I would not insist that we are “still comrades” despite having a “minor disagreement”.
That’s the thing, they think it is genuine. They think they are “seeing the person on the other side of the screen” and we are failing to do the same. Any time I ever see anyone trying to remind the person they’re talking to to “remember the human” it’s always someone insisting on “humanity for me, not for thee.”
They just flatly aren’t understanding that we’ve seen plenty of people in their position before, and seen those people get better and improve, and examine their own beliefs critically.
I’ve seen this exact thing in plenty of local organising (and in myself). The guy who encourages us to vote for the “least bad” candidate in bourgeoisie election and discourages others from reading or actively doing anything they find uncomfortable because it “won’t help.” Finding some excuse as to why their way of doing this is the only correct one, and when they receive pushback, it is always just “people talking past each other” even when it’s literally everyone else in the room telling them that they understand their position, but their position is not an acceptable one to have.
It’s always a comfortable middle class white guy doing it as well. Someone so used to eating up all the oxygen in the room that they just flat out aren’t even aware that they are doing it.
And yeah, their constant insistence that we are “friends” is just code for “This conversation is challenging my pre-concieved notions and making me feel uncomfortable, so stop doing that.” but again, they don’t seem to realise that we’ve seen this before, and know how bullshit they’re being.
Couldn’t have said it better myself.
In addition it’s funny that’s he’s trying to pull the “I wouldn’t tell my non-binary what to do” but he feels comfortable educating me. Also misgendering me, but we’re apparently still comrades lol. It’s just a tiny misunderstanding, just a tiny disagreement.
Yeah, I just saw that, funny how the left libs always talk about respecting people, but abandon that respect the instant they are no longer treated as The Most Important Person In The Room. I think this was just a mistake on their part, but we’ll see. I have a feeling that their apology (if they even acknowledge that they misgendered you) will be incredibly backhanded and blaming you for their actions.
Haha they just gave one where they said they hadn’t noticed the pronouns. Funny that I already pointed it out to them once, but they kept at it. Then they once again tried to trivialize the discussion. Didn’t read past that.
It was even worse than I thought! You should read it, it’s hilarious. They’re lucky it’s late and I need to head to bed soon, or else I’d probably spend the next couple of hours dunking on this shitlib who thinks they’re a communist because they’re “open minded” or some shit.
Lmao I just read the last line “you ruined that for me”
Lol.