so i’ve seen a lot of people talk about surgeries, mostly genital or boob area. i’d like to comment:
i think it’s not a good idea. at least it’s not as good an idea as people generally think. it does not just change your looks. it also changes the tissue, and that matters.
as an example, some women do plastic surgery to get larger boobs, but i’m quite sure that this erases a large part of the nervous tissue in the boobs, so the plastic essentially doesn’t feel anything, so i doubt that it would feel good to get them touched and stimulated by someone you like.
the same is true with the penis, which is not just a form factor, but also contains a lot of nervous tissue, and i’m quite sure that it would be significantly more difficult to get an orgasm without that nervous tissue. this is just something to beware. i’m not an expert on plastic surgeries, but this much seems rather straightforward to argue to me.
Please don’t go down this path…
I literally cannot imagine myself living another half-decade without getting bottom surgery. It is such an important, critical goal for my own future that it’s all I can think about at times.
Righting the wrong that is my body…isn’t that my choice to make? With my own flesh, my own money, my own time and energy? Who’s forcing you to do the same?
You’re not an expert, that’s for sure. Sensation does come back and people can and do have orgasms post-SRS. And guess what? Getting there is easier, since they don’t have the nasty bottom dysphoria dragging them down, turning a moment of self-pleasure into pure self-torture.
My body, my life…my choice 🩷
Personally, I’m AMAB and fine with a penis (on the off-chance I’m non-binary rather than cis, I’m keeping it) and I’m not projecting this on other AMAB folks. This post, intentionally or not, is spreading FUD, much like what my sister and a lot of the medical establishment does.
Statistics are clear: the regret rate for bottom surgery is very low, and, partially due to the long process, folks undergoing it are well-informed. You go girl!
Weird storytime, CW: chasers, old creepy dudes
I had a very brief experience with Grindr, only one evening. I was honest about my trans status.
The first guy was fucking amazing. A gentleman, but a lewd gentleman, which was actually just great. He was nice, kind, affirming…and yeah, handsome too 😆
Every. Single. Guy. After that…was a chaser.
But one sticks out in particular…
He was old, that was apparent from his pictures. He seemed…good at the beginning of our conversation. Not what I would call kind, but respectful-ish.
Then he misgendered me…oh no. He didn’t read my profile, he didn’t get the memo…fuck. So I corrected him. He seemed to get it, at least. I think…
Then came the question, “What do you have between your legs?”…ew
When I told him I was pre-OP, he told me this:
“You don’t need surgery to be a girl for me. I’d rather have you how you are right now, with all that your body has to offer, beautiful.”
Listen…I don’t know what the fuck he was thinking, but goddamn. The contents of my stomach almost ended up all over the kitchen floor, that’s how much it shook me up. I don’t know why that comment specifically, but it made me feel the ick in every cell in my body.
I’m NOT going through that ever again, next time I’m just slapping guys who say that kind of stuff.
So, yeah, thanks! I’m basically saying that I really fucking want this. I’ve done so much research, I’m ready to wait a year+, fly across the world and pay close to 30K USD ffs…you’d think people would actually believe me, by now 😆
Thanks for being understanding 💜
Damn… you even said “pre-OP”, as in “there will be an operation”… (correct!)
BTW, there is no comma missing. By “you go girl” I mean “whatever you think is girly and for you, go get it”. As long as you’re safe! You’re a precious person and it would be a shame if you died early from an infection from homemade breast implants or something.