Okay you should have said that before. I’d never have upvoted your stuff knowing I wasn’t gonna get laid for it. Now I have to go back and undo all those upvotes! Please try to be more mindful of your platform fuckboys.
The comments on this are a roller coaster. One of those ones that flips upside down and shit.
Well you’ve done pissed everyone off.
Good job <3 I mean that legitimately. The best shitpost I’ve ever made have always been the ones causing straight dudes to get ravenous over me being gay. So much funnier seeing them just drool in rage and seems like you got the same pricks going lmao
As a straight guy I’m actually relieved you’re gay because that’s just less competition. Carry on doing the gay!
It is strange how many women hit on me and I have zero response for it everytime
Interestingly enough I’ve never had a gay guy hit on me. Either I exude straight vibes or gay dudes just aren’t desperate enough to settle for me lmao
Probably just the vibes lol also gotta think about the fact that if we hit on the wrong person we can die lol we gotta be careful about that in general. Also I wouldn’t worry about looks either. I’m into dudes that look Seth Rogan and stuff. See the right side of this meme for some my type of omnom. Boop
Pretty much in the middle of those two, or “built like a brick shithouse” as I’ve been told. The last two women I’ve dated actually found it attractive, so I’m assuming they had daddy issues lol
Was nice actually being found attractive by someone for a change though.
also gotta think about the fact that if we hit on the wrong person we can die lol
Less likely where I’m from since no guns, but yeah, I can see how it may be scary to flirt with someone that looks like me if you don’t know if I’m homophobic or not lol
That could make me jealous, but then again so many men hit on me and I have zero response for it everytime so I guess we’re even
Actually if I’m being honest I’m just happy to know I’m hot to someone
I’m not gay but I’ve been told that I really look gay
I tend to apologize to the gay people for wasting their time and wasting their attention.
In real life I have never seen someone care. Some people avoid it because RL has consequences, but most just don’t care about other people’s sexuality. I don’t live in the US tho.
As a gay man I’ve seen people care so much they tried to kill me lol
It’s very sad that people still suffer for something that shouldn’t be an issue to anyone. This hate is fed to ignorant people so they don’t focus on real issues that affect their life.
There are some cultures where bigots are more prevalent, with ignorance and religion being the main catalysts. The US has plenty of both.
There are bigots in my country too, but they are more oppressed because here, hate is not considered free speech and culturally, most people will ostracize you if you express divisive opinions.
On the internet they are rampant, because of the amplification effect and perceived anonymity.
simpler times
I can pretends right?.. Turns into rabidchu. LOL… That’s gay!.. Uhuh, I never asked, I also partakes in the vaginal gex …W/the lesbians too. :)
Gees, so gay.
Your posts are a refreshing change of pace in an otherwise heavily male-focused space.
Lemmy is great but requires some heavy pruning. I reccomend making frequent use of the block button
Lemmy also has a misogyny problem, despite being progressive on most issues. Besides my own experience, I’ve seen this a lot in women/feminism-related threads.
Literally tho, I read a post to an article about “The Misogyny Problem on TikTok” and the top comment was the most lemmy tone-deaf “so don’t use corporate social media (with algorithms)”
My brother in christ you are not a woman on the fediverse and it shows
This is honestly the start of a much bigger rant about Lemmy as a whole but I’m gonna stop it here tbh
It’s just tiring
I think society at large has a misogyny-as-default problem unfortunately. I guess most of us have been raised with biases we’re not really aware of until we reach a certain level of self-reflection.
Sometimes I feel like Lemmy is worse than reddit in this regard. The amount of blatant misogony I see is unreal. Memes, posts, comments, it’s everywhere, often not-so-subtly too.
Reddit has worse but it’s more contained imo. Most of lemmy browses all so we’re all just here with each other as opposed to having people cordoned off onto the red pill and female dating strategy vs trollx and similar communities.
Women reddit is the main thing I miss
such a holy name you have. haha.
It’s like this for a lot of the fediverse, too. I came here from a misskey fork, and I don’t see much of a difference in frequency, but Lemmy is more capable of concentrating it.
Keep up the memes, i love that are original.
Your posts are a refreshing change of pace in an otherwise heavily male-focused space.
You could almost say /c/femcelmemes is, uhhh, leaking, in a way.
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Goddamnit, this comment thread is gonna make me work. Op, if anyone starts harassing you, don’t be shy, send me reports. I ain’t playing this shit.
Lol do you need your bonking stick?
No stomp, more like
HHAHA thats bests bonks ever.
If he’s going after people harrassing violet, he can borrow mine.
… And my axe!
And my… where did I put it again? Shit, I always forget.
is this a real thing? like…do people really get so sexually charged they reach out to strangers for sex?
just jerk off into the toilet like a normal person and go about your day.
Goddamn, I love when you give me orders.
Would you wanna bone?
only if you’re ok using quartz sand as lube.
Is there any other kind?
That’s just sex on the beach, baby. Sold!
Turns out Anakin betrayed Palpatine because the latter blew up the wrong planet…
I mean, yes. The human touch is excellent for stuff like sexting and erp with strangers on the internet. But also, that’s what hookups are.
hookups are two consenting individuals.
reaching out to a stranger that hasn’t given consent or worse, just sending dick pics, is just weird.
Ah I interpreted reaching out to strangers more broadly as including going to places where it’s normal and expected behavior to pursue strangers for sex.
Dick pics I’ve just always assumed were about power like catcalling.
that I can agree with.
nobody should be upset about getting hit on at a bar, because it’s a social gathering place generally used for hookups.
but it’s perfectly acceptable to get upset if you’re hit on at work.
If rule34 and horny sub/community comments are to be believed, then yes. I genuinely can’t understand why people wanna have phone sex with randos on image boards, but sure I guess. I always thought it was the ace in me, but thankfull others see it too I guess.
Um I didn’t vote and I don’t really care male or female. I’m just a horny monkey looking for sexy time with someone?
Lol. I am liking your posts 'cause you provide much needed whiplash among dominantly politic content, so thanks xD
I upvote almost everything
I see upvote as “this is a good Lemmy post/comment” and downvote as “this is a bad Lemmy post/comment”. Most of what I see is good. Bad things are things such as misinformation, bad faith stuff / trolling, bad (in my opinion) takes, people being wrong/stupid about stuff, irrelevant things, etc. When I do not vote it’s for one of 3 reasons: either I don’t understand what it is saying, it makes a reference I don’t get, or I can’t determine whether it’s good or bad (usually because it’s unclear).
edit: making this comment got me wondering about how other people judge posts/comments and vote, so I made a post on Ask Lemmy: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/65352983
Some people don’t know how to deal with an overtly sexual woman. It throws them for a loop. To some people, only men are allowed to be horny. If you’re a horny woman you must be a slut who can’t control their emotions and that’s bad.
I think it’s important for some men to realize women are people, too. I know that sounds silly to say out loud but I really think some guys think women are these completely different creatures from themselves. We’re all human and, gasp, some like to talk and joke about sex. The horror!
tbf this board is 99.8% male and like 1/3rd autistic at that and there’s almost no posts in Lemmy Shitpost talking about how they love showing off their dicks, fucking women, being horny, jerking off etc because these guys are nerds not frat boys
Happy to be proven wrong
That’s not to say the content isn’t welcome, if it wasn’t it’d be downvoted (ask me how I know)
It’s less that I mind or care, it’s more that seriously horny content wasn’t really a thing before. Sure, people would joke around, but actual horny-posting was limited to places you had to actively seek out (like lemmynsfw). If people don’t want to draw attention to what they say, be it good or bad, they shouldn’t say things that stick out 🤷
i think the presumably male hornyposting takes the form of “here is an image i enjoy with no commentary,” making the subject of attraction the main focus and barely mentions the poster at all, violet’s specific brand centers violet as the main character, her feelings as central, and barely mentions the actual subject of those feelings
so there’s a real difference
I think there was some of that in nsfw. I think the biggest instance died, though.
Yeah. But then to see it, you would have actually made the conscious choice to go to lemmynsfw, no?
The posts are still shown on the main feed (depending on instance) just buried by everything else. Scroll long enough and you’ll see it
Ah OK. I’m on my own instance. So I don’t have any of those communities here. So in my case I won’t.
Considering it was only about 100 years ago that science decided that women could orgasm and weren’t just faking it to make their husbands happy…yes, the idea that a woman can be horny and is a normal human being is a shocking revelation to some (many?).
I do hate the double standard that it’s totally fine for men to joke and talk about sex, but when a woman does it, she must be dirty in some way. I get that biologically, women have had to be more choosy with partners because for a long time, the best protection was zero insertion, or the chances of ending up with a child you didn’t want were nonzero. Things are different now. We have the pill. We have emergency contraceptives. Some of us even have access to abortions.
Sex isn’t dirty. It’s normal and natural to want it. It’s normal to have a hard time getting it. It’s normal to be frustrated by the dating field and navigating relationships. It’s normal to feel incredibly rewarded when you do get it. And it’s normal to want to blow off steam by talking to people closest to you about your successes and failures in life. And a big part of being human is one’s own sexual exploits.
One of my closest friends is a woman about 13 years older than me (I’m 33; she’s 46), and she’s going through menopause right now. And she’ll start talking about the difficulty it’s bringing her, and she’ll tell me, “You don’t wanna hear about all this,” or, “I know you don’t care about this.” And the truth is that I do not nor could I ever understand what she’s going through, but as a friend, I can listen to her complain about it and give her the space to vent. Even if I’ll never get it, I can just be a voice in the room to pull out some great hits like:
- “Jeeeesus, I’m so sorry,”
- “Yikes, that sucks,” or
- "Haha, Fuck. That."
As a man, I don’t always have follow up questions or advice to offer someone going through issues unique to women. But people aren’t always looking for advice. Sometimes, it’s just nice to have the space to blow off steam with a safe person.
And that’s not dirty. It’s something we all do.
Curious that this is your perception, while i myself have noticed a sort of inverse trend in that regard.
Especially around these parts it is heavily frowned upon making any kind of horny or sexual comment as a dude about a woman. A surefire way to get schooled on what a misogynist objectifying dick you are (excluding literal porn community comment section of course).
Other horny comments are much less controversial, women on men, men on men, women on women. Things you might find in the average (gay) porn comment section get upvoted on lemmy on a regular basis, im sure it’s totally ironic.
So my personal “analysis” of recent ish lemmy online discourse would be that heterosexual men on lemmy avoid being publicly horny because of the expected blowback. That or they make an alt account.
who can’t control their emotions
Ironic how men accuse horny women of being unable to control their emotions when it’s mostly horny men being unable to control their emotions that’s actually problematic (causing misogyny and rape)
Many men tend to be actually too horny, they objectify women and tend to have misogynistic and patriarchal expectations.
La’Ron Readus has an interesting video essay on this called ‘The Siren’s Scapegoat’ that I recommend giving a watch if you’re interested on the way movies have handled women being overtly sexual!
See that makes a lot of sense, but you are forgetting something vital. This is the internet, so everyone is a guy. Especially the horny women. Therefore, only men can be horny. Checkmate, wanktheiests.
I feel a bit bad for silently upvoting your content instead of commenting things to offset the shit you must get. I don’t say much here compared to how many things I upvote. Please keep doing your thing, you are appreciated here and I hope you can still enjoy yourself without creeps spoiling that.
I found my calling.“lemmy worls”‐shit posting… jk xD
I saw the thumbnail and was about to comment “justice for violet08” but then I opened the post and it was you
Still though. Justice for violet08
cw: talks a fair bit about sex and my perspective on it
i sometimes experience a problem myself similar in vain to this.
as much as i enjoy snuggling and affection and even more “smutty” stuff like breasts, i do not enjoy the prospect of sex. perhaps its some form of gender dysphoria, perhaps its something else, honestly not super sure. all i know is i don’t find sex appealing!! but i’m also not vehemently against it or disgusted by it. i think this article puts it really well:
i think it would be more accurate so [sic] say that, often, asexuality yearns for the absence of sex, rather than being defined by it.
with regards to nudity: the only times it actually makes me feel a little uncomfortable is when it is set in a sexual/romantic setting. if someone is at the lake with not as much as a patch of covering on them and just swimming around and having fun, i don’t mind at all. so long as its not sexualized i think nudity is perfectly okay! but, if it is brought into any romance through even just caressing the other’s hair or whatever, it puts me off a little.
again, i do like this sort of affection, i do absolutely find people attractive. i just enjoy being able to be affectionate or observe it without having to partake in/bear witness to sex!
however, a marginally decent number of people are seemingly unable to comprehend any this. quite often some people get incredibly confused no matter how much i try and explain this to them. i’ve never really been ridiculed for it thankfully, but it just does not seem to compute in some people’s heads that i am not fond of sex!!
that aside, this is thankfully one of the better places i’ve seen on the internet, and i’m glad to be here!! regardless i provide you with my best wishes when it comes to fending off the demands of the internet, and my apologies for the ramble :D
