Jan 22, day 46. Still solo in my chastity play and sex life in general. Based off my experience, I think extended solo chastity – where there isn’t continuation of other sexually arousing activity with a partner – has the potential to push one into a headspace for a while of not thinking about or being interested in sex, although I’m sure ‘mileage varies.’ I think this relates to a buildup of tension from the lack of orgasms; and also how much one sees anal masturbation as a way to release that tension.
Two days ago, I masturbated for the first time in 2 or 2.5 weeks. It was the night before a big day for me irl. I was feeling tense and irritable. I said to myself, you need to get fucked and have some sexual release whether you’re turned on right now or not. So I turned on a fave short porn and rode my dildo for 5 min. It felt good mentally, sexually, and physically.
When I was briefly fingering my ass with lube to get things started, it felt different. It felt like I was touching my main sex organ, not the ‘secondary kinky one I sometimes play with’ or something like that. I barely had a thought about touching my cage. I’m not much of a chastity support strap wearer, but I think I like wearing mine during sex or masturbation, because it lessens the felt weight and swing of male parts when I ride.
Afterwards, in terms of how I masturbate or have sex, I saw myself as ‘receptive only’ more than usual, and I loved that feeling and felt a bit euphoric. It didn’t feel like I was wearing a cage and choosing not to use my penis. It felt like I didn’t have a penis and was masturbating in an anatomically (and gender) appropriate way.
I had a few micro orgasms. I left the session feeling pretty sexually satisfied. And my mood improved.
I woke up two days later thinking more fondly than I ever about the idea of a male partner. While I’ll say I’m probably still more romantically and sexually attracted to women, some advantages of a male partner were salient. I’d have a real cock to suck and fuck me all the time. And instead of feeling like the second most feminine person in a relationship with a woman, I could feel like the most feminine person in the relationship with a man – my distinct niche.
I got a new cage recently. A cheapie, first metal cage. I hope to leave a review soon. On Jan 28th, I’ll tie my longest streak to date, and that’s another good reason to post. Thanks for reading 🫶
That was the original idea of chastity after all. Even without a cage I think without enough stimulation it dies off even if doing denial, especially combined with being tired from work and etc.
Yep, you’re on the right track.
This should always be the idea!
Thank you so much for your comments 🥰 !! I can tell you’ve thought a lot about chastity. If you like, can you please clarify what you mean when you say, mood improvement “should always be the idea!”?
I just mean that if you don’t feel better mentally and physically after a sexual session whether solo or with a partner, then it’s not done right. By “the idea” I just meant, that should be the intention going into it always, not just to have an empty release.
tysm 🥰