I’m pretty sure there are only 5 love languages. But if there are more I’m unaware of please let me know. I’ve listed mine below from most important to least.

1 physical touch 2 quality time 3 words of affirmation 4 acts of service 5 gift giving

  • CanadaPlus
    3·
    2 天前

    Lots of people can add lots of things, because it was always folklore.

    • BCsven@lemmy.ca
      12·
      2 天前

      It does work though. Partners often give based on what they need…because humans assume everyone is just like them. But funding your partners actual need makes a difference.

      Example, my wife likes acts of service and gifts, so she would previously assume I’d want those things. But I score a zero on gifts and acts of service, because I have what I need and I can do stuff for myself with no loss of feeling from my partner

      • CanadaPlus
        4·
        2 天前

        The basic principle that people interpret the same things differently, or desire different things, sure. That there’s 5 separate love languages, not so much. (Apparently some random pastor originated that)

        • BCsven@lemmy.ca
          11·
          2 天前

          If you know of more categories people would identify with you are welcome to add, but they have the main categories covered well. They aren’t arbitrary, they are based on human needs and our socialization

          • BanMeFromPosting@lemmy.ml
            31·
            2 天前

            They’re incredibly arbitrary. Each of them can just be collapsed into “acts of service” an act of service can be a gift, quality time is something that happens alongside the others (and is also something that can be described as a gift) and physical touch is (or should be) quality time.

            It was made up by an american pastor to gaslight women, it doesn’t have any basis beyond what he felt like. He made up arbitrary categories that would help him sell his spiel about women listening to men.

            Ive made a new category; Being nice. It takes all the other categories. The love languages are now: Being nice.

            • BCsven@lemmy.ca
              12·
              1 天前

              Gaslighting women LOL. It is not gender biased–meaning trying tobsway women to be subservient and men dominant… Its irrelevant who set it up, that’s a fallicious arugment. But since you brought it up it does have basis on the hierarchy of human needs from psychology papers.

              Categorization involves finding the limits that determine a category, you could probably break it into a 100 or more, but then you add complexity for no reason, these are distilled to the most base set.

              If you don’t want to like it because of a pastor you can get a similar scooe with Ortan-Gilingham method since it was backed by science research not just anecdotes from those tested.

              I disagree it all boils to acts of service. For example I score high on Physical touch, but it doesn’t require an act of service like a back massage, just lying next to my wife with our skin touching is enough to keep my tank full. She could be asleep so there is 0 act of service. It a basic human skin to skin thing like when they say babies (and chimp studies) should have skin to skin contact with mom.

              But buy me a gift or do something for me has no tank filling properties. Its nice but, meh