I am looking for people to play both games with. The games tend to be filled with lots of reactionaries so it can be hard to exist in them.
Like I get kicked a lot in tf2 for having a queer flag pfp, and it is hard to queue for group content in dark and darker if I don’t want to hear slurs.
Just keep searching for TF2 community servers, not all of them will be that toxic. Some really don’t care about anything, as long as you don’t mic spam or grief. There are some furry ones that will definitely be LGBT friendly, if you don’t mind that.
even if the servers are queer friendly, I haven’t found one yet that doesn’t allow things like ableist language. They only feel marginally better with the tradeoff of smaller games