• @captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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    409 months ago

    My mom used to do this but with kindness. I may be a fuck up but I helped people without being asked and my mom was proud that that’s who I grew up to be

    • @ickplant@lemmy.worldOP
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      269 months ago

      This is what I do with my son. He is truly kind to all people and animals, and I praise that all the time. Our world needs more kindness.

      • @captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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        168 months ago

        Yeah it was really good for my moral development to know my mom was proud I was kind. She always told me that that was what she wanted most for me, first to be a good kind person and second to be happy.

        She also made a point to tell me the compliments she received about me.

        As a kid who grew up weird and closeted and struggling with school because of disability it was so important to know that my mom was proud of me. Especially since my father made no effort to hide that he was disappointed I didn’t have any achievements he could brag about compared to his friends’ kids.

        And the thing is kindness has done wonders for me. I’ll never be rich or famous, but I’m happily married and have found a good community. I’d rather that than be some of the assholes I grew up around.

      • KillingTimeItself
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        58 months ago

        i knew a kid in highschool who was just kind, all the fucking time. No questions asked, just did it to do it.

        Dude was awesome, one of the very few people i genuinely respect. Weird, and a little bit funky, but aren’t we all?