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  • Here is one article which makes a similar point, and another which discuss the strategies of scammers and profiles of people likely to fall for scams. (I made the original comment and am not the lime who responded to your citation request). I will address your other comments on the topic here.

    I can also offer my anecdotal observations about Nigerian scams from time I spent scambaiting when I was younger, back when I thought I was doing a service by distracting scammers’ focus away from someone vulnerable, and because it was amusing to see what stories they’d come up with.

    • You were correct in saying that the opening messages would be copy-pasted stories with details changed.
    • The stories had flaws and inconsistencies, lacked detail.
    • Confronting the scammers immediately or refusing to switch to their platform of choice usually caused them to disconnect immediately. The excuses would come later when they were invested in a longer conversation and didn’t want to lose a potential victim.
    • The general theme was that they are from a country other than Nigeria, or military sent overseas, stuck in a bad situation and need help. If I pretended to be male, there could be a romance angle.
    • Sometimes they would admit where they are really from (confirmed with an IP grabber) but change their story and try to get sympathy by claiming scamming was the only way they could earn enough to survive.
    • Gift cards were the initial payment method requested most of the time.

    The long, elaborate (often romance and crypto-themed) scams you are thinking of are likely pig-butchering scams originating from China. Perhaps Nigerian scammers have evolved their strategies since then too; it has been years since I bothered to engage with them at all.

    So no, I was not perpetuating a meme about scammers “preselecting stupid people”, nor did I say that everyone who falls for scams is stupid. Many are lonely, elderly, unfamiliar with technology, desperate, or kind-hearted but naive.









  • Around the house: cooking and meal prep, keeping a clean and neat living space if you don’t already. Basic home and car repairs. All of these will save you money in the long run. On the subject of money, learning to budget and manage your finances is also helpful. I recommend fitness to anyone. If the gym isn’t for you, find a sport you like, or at least go outside for walks.

    As for studies, you can start with free online courses in things you think you might be interested in and assessing how you feel about them before going further.



  • To start, there has to be mutual attraction, and the person has to demonstrate with their actions that they truly enjoy being in control to bring out submissive tendencies in me. That can mean not being afraid to tell me what they want out of fear that it will turn me off, escalating when there is sexual tension, and guiding me into what they want me to do without having to ask. I can’t enjoy it if it’s being done to satisfy my fantasy.

    There are certain tones of voice or mannerisms in speaking which excite me very much but are hard to describe. One is slightly mocking, another is almost clinical but with the slightest hint of amusement or arousal. 🫠



  • Just having to share a space for a third of your day (assuming full time employment) with someone you presumably already have something in common with can be a way of bonding, so I don’t necessarily think workplace romances are a bad idea. Nor do I think it’s wrong to approach or flirt with a colleague as long as you don’t cross boundaries and can take no for an answer. You should be mindful of how it will affect the dynamics of your relationship both at work and outside of it, whether the relationship is successful or not.

    A personal warning from your boss is a good sign that you are making your colleagues uncomfortable and should re-evaluate what you’re doing.





  • Even those who use social media like to look through their galleries on their phones or online and reminisce from time to time. Those photos might seem mundane in the moment but they still become preserved memories of the past eventually. They don’t lose value to the people in them because photos became easier to take now.

    I’m quite avoidant of the cloud myself, but I wouldn’t assume that no one saves things locally anymore. It’s also possible to have digital photos printed and put into a physical album.