I can drive, but I’m like a sponge for everyone’s road rage — I don’t often get angry myself but all that negative energy just drains the shit out of me, I have an autistic meltdown almost every time I drive.
I stopped driving regularly about 20 years ago (10 years before I was diagnosed with autism) and I saw a huge reduction in my day to day stress.
About 15 years ago, I moved to a city where I can walk or bike everywhere, and driving just isn’t an issue. Highly recommended.
I’ve always been really good at making friends with extremely interesting people, but terrible with normal people.
My best friends, over the years:
I’ve had extremely good luck, they’re very cool.
Wearing socks inside out is huge. Some socks are better right side out, but is rare. I also agree that Merino wool kind of solves this problem, but, as a general rule, “wear your socks inside out” should be in the autism handbook.
I remember years ago I saw a joke online that said something like, if there’s a difference between right and left socks, you’re autistic. I was like, that’s stupid, obviously there’s a right and left sock, and I’m not autistic. A few years later, BAM, autism diagnosis.
Neurodiversity is so weird. I have very string texture requirements, but they’re apparently the opposite of yours. The feeling of corduroy grooves in harmony with my fingerprint grooves is recently satisfying to me. And velvet – omg heaven is literally made of velvet.
My issues are with inconstancy – a space of smooth fabric is ruined if there’s a tiny bit of grit somewhere. Crumbs in the bed? I’ll sleep on the couch. (Interestingly, both velvet and corduroy can obscure such inconsistencies, maybe that’s why I like them?)
This so much. My mother used to tell me the story of the princess and the pita even I was little, and I think it was probably a moralistic story, but I have no idea — but I related to that girl so much.
Same goes for bare feet. I don’t mind being outside barefoot, that’s where dirt is supposed to be… But indoors? No thanks.
First of all, wearing tube socks inside out was revelatory for me. No seam problems, no texture problems, etc. AFAIK Hanes still makes mostly-cotton socks. Buy them in person, not online. Inside out socks is a general practice for me, not just around the house.
Secondly, I have opted for a pair of extremely comfortable indoor-only shoes. I got a pair of no-laces sketchers that go in and off with no hands. I got mine as a gift but if they’re expensive, the next best option is $10 “kung fu” slippers (like everyone wears in old Bruce Lee movies) — get rubber-soled ones if you have a lot of carpeting; cotton soles are better (more comfy, more breathable), but you’ll slip around on the carpet. And get them at least one size bigger, maybe 2.
The dynamic width thing is huge… so many notifications spend their precious initial width on boilerplate bs, I’ll give it a shot…
tho tbh all I really need is a full screen, undismissable thing for when my battery is dying… other notifications are very lovely but the number of times I’ve only realized I was low on battery when my computer starts shutting down is… a lot.
Looks great!
How do you like fnott? I assume you switched to it from mako — what made you switch? What are the pros and cons?
Dear Quexotic,
I’m writing you today to let you know that I, also, relate to the original poster. I appreciate that we have this in common.
Additionally, I wanted to express that, the thing that you have done here, I see it. While some might disagree, I found it pleasantly subtle, and, due to its nature, subtlety often doesn’t get the recognition it deserves.
In this case, I felt this mode of expression would both build upon the humorous twist embedded in your message, but also afford the opportunity to pronounce my admiration for that cleverness, even though it may be a minor moment in both of our lives.
With my warmest regards,
Jeremy “JP” Parker
I got diagnosed with adhd in 2009, and tried meds for a while (vyvanse ftl), but I couldn’t sleep, so I stopped. Then I got distracted and forgot I had it. Got re-diagnosed, along with autism, in like 2022 or something. I’m on adderall now and it’s fine I guess.
I was 40 years old when the puzzle pieces of my life finally started to come together.
(I know a lot of autistic people don’t love the old puzzle piece logo, but for me, it’s the most apt metaphor I’ve ever seen.)
It is exactly our compassion for humanity that we are culturally celebrating that dude’s death
Joking aside, it’s actually not. It was invented to explain why a particular group of captives were critical of the cops who arrested their captor — but it turns out it was because the cops were incredibly incompetent and nearly got them all killed.
I’m not sure tbh – I use a mbp for work, but if I’m on it, I’m usually not gaming… That said, I bought a steam deck last summer and it’s amazing. I haven’t played a console or handheld in like 15 years so my thumbs are weak and flimsy… but spending a summer evening out on the stoop with the steam deck while watching my kids run around like kids… doesn’t get much better than that.
Back in my day we used to make “tfw” (that feel when) or “mfw” (my face when) posts that rarely if ever contained a face or a feeling
So you hate women and don’t want them to have bodily autonomy? You see how that sounds? It’s the same logic as your argument.
Came here for this. How can they legally use a headline like that. This is why we can’t have nice things.
You make a compelling point, for sure. There are definitely features that fall into that category (eg page transitions), there are a lot of other things coming out these days that just make life easier.
For example, in chrome (and in the spec) you can now animate between ‘height: [number]’ and ‘height:auto;’ just the other day, I had to write a python function to estimate the highest of a menu based on its length * the line height of the list items, so I could provide an exact height to animate to. It works, but it’s hacky and gross. It would be nice to have access to the solution.
If both of them support genocide, but one also supports banning abortion, the ethical choice is to vote for the one that won’t ban abortion.
If you’d rather wait until a candidate arrives that agrees with you on every issue, that’s fine, but you’ll probably never vote, and in the meantime, by not voting, supporting whichever candidate you like less.
While there’s no honor in the presidency, there is honor in doing what you can to reduce harm, and if you can’t reduce harm to the Palestinians, at least you can reduce harm to American women and girls.
My 8 year old son used to do this when he was little. We’d be hanging out on the train or something and he’d suddenly turn to be and be like “what’s 4096 times 2?”
For me though, I had (still have) a thing about rhythms in spoken language. The last thing that was said to me would echo in my head, repeating, until it revealed its rhythm, and then the rhythm would get stuck in my head, like a song, and play over and over, the words themselves drifting out disappearing…
It’s weird, but I like it.