

I’ve had sexual partners ask me to perform painful or very dominant acts on them. Nothing that would risk serious injury, and anything around the neck is a non-negotiable limit for me (no safe way to strangle), but yeah, people aren’t all the same and some people request things things you and I would consider unenjoyable and disturbing.
Someone mentioned erotic asphyxiation, but since most people aren’t just suffocating themselves outside of sex and they’re learning this through pornography or word-of-mouth, I suspect it’s more about the concepts of control and strength, and of animalistic primal desire. Both giving and receiving, some people find comfort and security in the feeling of someone having control over them.

























For an extreme ethics case study, there is a German man currently serving lifetime imprisonment for murdering and cannibalising a voluntary victim in 2001. (NSFW, of course) The two had discussed their plans through email for a month in advance, and the perpetrator had let two prior partners back out when they retracted their consent to be slaughtered. As listed in the article, this case had a large cultural legacy.