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  • Azzu@leminal.spacetoGreentext@sh.itjust.worksAnon is an introvert
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    2 hours ago

    Dancing with trusted people, yes. But in many/most places, how you dance is subject to social stigma, which is much much worse than any benefit of dancing.

    And if you only know the stigma-attached dancing, then it poisons “healthy” dance for you, because humans think of the bad thing first.



  • Well, the country and even sub-jurisdiction (like city, depending on country) is very relevant though, as this problem you’re having is one where the best solutions are very local.

    Most things you can do is get help from the community you live in, and without knowing the community, advice is too general and probably not very helpful.

    You should look for local help and ask people there what to do.




  • Wait, I don’t get it. So do you mean to say that you get so many positive comments, that the slight negative ones are completely irrelevant as once you’re insulated with so many layers of positive ones, you can’t even tell there’s negative ones in there somewhere?

    If that is what you mean, then yes actually. I’m so lucky to be getting so much love from around me, that I don’t even notice the negative ones anymore.






  • Azzu@leminal.spacetoMental Health@lemmy.worldHow are you really?
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    Well yeah, you don’t like it. That’s ok. But your experience is not the only valid one in the world.

    What do you mean “how else?” - I can come up with several different ways without even really thinking about it.

    What do you mean, “it’s the best way”? - best for what or whom? Best for you maybe. But not necessarily for others.



  • I mean I assume you don’t have much sex or a girlfriend or anything.

    In that case, at least from what I know from myself or my friends, this desire to look is completely normal. I think you might follow that desire a little bit too much (as it is something you can control), but the base feeling you have is something most men experience.

    Your nature is telling you to approach women and have sex with them. For some reason, you don’t, maybe because you’re scared, socially anxious, people have told you being sexual is terrible, whatever. This part of your nature is very strong, and as it seems the only thing left for you is looking, of course you’re going to want to do it.

    If you actually approach women and have a healthy sex life, that desire probably goes down, but of course now you’ve also made it a kind of compulsive habit, so it might be hard to break.

    It’s honestly quite ridiculous to me that you’re ashamed of looking at sexually attractive people. Despite what some radical feminists or whoever will tell you, just looking and being sexually attracted is nothing shameful. It’s more likely that this shame itself is causing the issue, since you’re sexual, yet that is for some reason shameful so you can’t satisfy it, causing you to have more of a sexual desire since you have so little of actual action.

    Sexuality is our main drive, it is constant, and there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you inquire about people’s boundaries and respect them.