• Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org
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    I’m not sure that positive comments or compliments even work on me at all, not even sure what those are supposed to do from the internal perspective. I know in theory those are supposed to make the personfeel good, so i just randomly say those to other people when they do something.

    Though at least it does go the other way as well. Almost immune or rather resistant to negative comments/insults as well. Once again i just have a surface level theoretical understanding that those are supposed to hurt and I’m not supposed to do it, but thats about it. Why or how it can happen is pretty much based on RNG and thats one of the reasons I’m rather careful around people.

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    To me this feels like every big YouTuber who at one point mentiones that “all the negative comments are affecting their mental health.” But all I see are positive comments and like ratios over 90%.

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    Sometimes, but sometimes it’s the opposite.

    I’ve had a lot of comments about me being unattractive. But I remember one woman at work many years ago who told my friend she would fuck me and that is something I remind myself of when I think I’m unattractive.

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    Wait, I don’t get it. So do you mean to say that you get so many positive comments, that the slight negative ones are completely irrelevant as once you’re insulated with so many layers of positive ones, you can’t even tell there’s negative ones in there somewhere?

    If that is what you mean, then yes actually. I’m so lucky to be getting so much love from around me, that I don’t even notice the negative ones anymore.

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      I think it references the princess and the pea, meaning that you can still very much feel that one negative comment

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        Well, maybe, but if I look at the picture, I can see that the topmost mattresses are perfectly even, i.e. the bendy part of the negative comment is completely evened out after the 4th “positive comment mattress”, i.e. you can’t feel it at all anymore above that.

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          That’s kind of the whole joke of “The Princess and the Pea”, someone being able to tell there’s something under many mattresses even though it seems like it should be impossible.

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      Mods ! Yes this one right here, look at the slight audacity! Perhaps someone cannot sleep now after this