Part 2: what if you found out their diagnosis 1 week after birth

  • Faux@lemmy.ml
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    It’s not ethical to not abort the pregnancy in this case. There is nothing wrong with getting rid of the fetus, there is everything wrong with letting a person disabled to this stage from the start emerge.

    About part 2: I think euthanasia is ethical in this case. Certainly more ethical than emotional blackmail with “unborn child”.

  • marcie (she/her)@lemmy.ml
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    I think it’s ethical to abort any baby. It’s parasitic on the host, if you don’t consent to the idea how is it any worse than getting a flu vaccine

    If you don’t think you can provide a better life for your kid than state care could I see putting it up for adoption to be ethically mandatory

  • BCsven@lemmy.ca
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    Doctor wouldn’t know how severe.

    Down syndrome is regular DNA but one extra copy that interferes randomly with the building of the body.

    Every kid is different.

    The doctor told us the fetus might have issues based on growth. We didn’t care.

    My son was born with down syndrome. The doctor we had said he may not talk much, may not move much, etc.

    He will talk your ear off. He graduated highschool with a modified plan. Got the Phys Ed award in the regular grade 12 program. He reads, writes, excels at video editing and PowerPoint creation, excellent at figuring out technical stuff to a degree. Highly social and works partime.

    His birth showed me that acedemics aren’t as important as enjoying life for what it is.

  • Captain Poofter@lemmy.world
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    let me flip the question:

    if you KNEW the child you were going to conceive had the same chance of the same condition, would you still have sex?

    if you’d skip it, then i see no issues with an abortion.

    we don’t have foresight, but we do have hindsight. how we use it is important. nobody gets asked if they want to be alive. how dare anyone bring someone into a life of pain without their consent? part 2: if you don’t take responsibility for your own disasters, you are the disaster.

  • edel@lemmy.ml
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    10 hours ago

    There are many factors to take this decision, but mainly in how long in the term is the fetus and the resources situation of the family (work, economic, external support, their health, etc).

    In an ideal world though, induced abortion should not exist since it is the society who should completely support, and adaptively to the children’ special needs, but when society fails at that and, so far, #all societies are, it is the family and doctor the only ones who should only make the decision on a fetus. The only argument today should be when a fetus becomes a human.

    We should treasure far more families that dedicate more than the usual percentage of resources to take care of their weakest of their members (children or parents) than basically anyone else in society like we do with youtubers, sport players, oligarchs, politicians, etc.

  • BottleBoardBakon@lemmy.ml
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    It’s kinda besides the point. If a woman wants an abortion she should get an abortion. Downs syndrome or not, it doesn’t matter.

    • TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.worldOP
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      I don’t mean in a her body her choice kinda way, I mean is it more ethical to let them live their natural life knowing that they would possibly suffer immensely vs not letting them live a life at all

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        So you’re asking should all prior with special needs be terminated so they don’t suffer? Should all poor people?

        Kinda slippery slope there tbh…

        I think that anyone who isn’t ready to be a parent should have that option not to. Special needs or not. Forced birth and zero support after is terrible.

  • TrackinDaKraken@lemmy.world
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    If it’s ethical to abort just because you don’t want the kid (and it is), then it’s ethical to abort for any reason.

    • corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca
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      16 hours ago

      it’s no one’s business why people choose to abort.

      This. The only answer to “why” is “fuck off”, and for so many reasons. It’d suck to agonize over the decision, and once it’s made to then be second-guessed by some rando.

    • TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.worldOP
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      I mean more like “is a life of suffering worth living and would a parent want that for their kid” rather than the ethics of abortion

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    I don’t know about the ethics, but forcing people to carry to term a baby with a significant developmental disability is unconscionable to me. It is very likely to ruin their marriage, finances, sanity, life, but the people that manage to do it are saints.

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    Have you guys spent much time around people with Down’s syndrome? It’s typically not a uniform “life of suffering” like what many comments seem to be assuming.

    It’s fair enough to try to imagine how you would feel if you had a certain disability, but never assume you’re right about that, you might be surprised. Especially with intellectual differences, I don’t think you can really know what it would be like to be that person.

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      12 hours ago

      My SO brother doesn’t have downs but was severe brain damaged at at young age. His whole family doesnt hate him they just wish he was better. After grandma died he lost the last person that really loved him for who he is. Everyone dreads is presence and dealing with his backpack of medication or fits of dangerous rage due to frustration understanding things from a bloke 2x their size (literally 2 meters tall).

      I spoke to him enough to know he is not happy in state care but no one can handle him when things go wrong. He is a effectively 5 year old child stuck and unable to grow and alone with only his handlers. No one should have that fate if its preventable.

      • Sadbutdru@sopuli.xyz
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        9 hours ago

        Yes, in my experience, aquired brain injury is one of the hardest things for people (and their families) to adapt to, but that’s a whole different kettle of fish than Down’s syndrome.

        The post talks about the ethics of pre-emptively aborting a fetus that has a high likelihood of "severe downs syndrome ", and this is something many people face irl ask the time. my point is (mainly) that people with Down’s syndrome can have a lot of joy in their lives, and bring a lot of joy to those around them, despite the fact that they will face certain struggles (as so many of us do, in our own ways). And (secondly), although it’s outside the scope of the hypothetical situation in the op, foetal tests for Down’s syndrome are notoriously unreliable.

        I’m just saying don’t be afraid. Most new parents want to avoid any chance of anything ‘wrong’ with their child, but nearly everyone has something…

        Source: have worked with children and adults with a variety of physical and intellectual disabilities, and in my own friends and family know (and care for) a multitude of neurodiverse people and those with chronic mental illness or addictions.

  • Eczpurt@lemmy.world
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    Can’t really say for part 1 but for part 2 it’s definitely not abortion anymore after birth so that is unethical in my opinion.

  • ☂️-@lemmy.ml
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    how is severe downs defined? i thought it was an either/or thing. and they seem to be perfectly content with themselves?

    interesting dilemma though, what is the limit between “who cares” and “this person probably suffers too much”?

    one could probably think of a few shitty situations to be born in and when judging by this lens, shouldn’t the person decide if they have the faculties to express it? what if they don’t?