• Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
    14·
    10 天前
    Rant

    Bugger.

    Spoke to the p’s on their Japan boat last night. Bit of a worry.

    Turns out ol’ girl hasn’t been having supplements (she has all of them with her) and hasn’t had that much to eat for the first 7days. I told ol’ boy before they left he’s going to have to lean into the food sitch… and he hasn’t.

    So that’s 13 days after not being to eat much due to teeth extraction before going + now 7 on the boat. FUCK ME.

    If I did 20 days of eating bugger all I’d be ruined.

    He honestly thought he could delegate food to the boat and leave the supplements to her. FUCKED.

    Her last words on the call “I just can’t eat I don’t know what to do”. I will never forget that tone. She didn’t speak anything else about the trip.

    I feel worried, frustrated, angry and just sad.

    And they’ve got 10 days left not even half way through

    Fuck

    Sent off a detailed email to him about what he needs to do food/supplement-wise but I’m half a world away.

    If he can’t get on top the food/supps sort of… today… I really don’t know what will happen.

    • SpinMeRound@aussie.zone
      9·
      10 天前

      Is she unable or refusing? Have either of them spoken to ship staff about making some nice soft foods for her? You said it’s a pretty bougie ship, can she even have miso soup? This must be super stressful dude.

      • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
        8·
        10 天前

        Both unable and refusing and I suppose they interelate. They spoke to the head chef about requirements when they boarded so I’m confused why they can’t pull anything off. So we tried miso (i thought that’s the obvious choice too) before they left from a few different places here and that was refusal but able. Tried a whole bunch of sashimi, able for some, refusal for others.

        It’s a really bougie ship. 24/7 room service. So speaking to them yesterday I asked if she’d ordered an iced coffee w/ chocolate and icecream (her usual thing she does here daily) and dump some coffee resource in (which is what usually happens here too) and no, didn’t do that. Not refusal, very able, just didn’t do it. What on earth do you do about that. grr.

    • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
      8·
      10 天前

      I’m so sorry mate. Seriously. Farked up all ways to Sunday.

      You’re doing everything you can, and more, so take some time to try to do something for the mental health.

      If there’s anything we can do to help, please let us know. I may not have much but you got my listening ear and support.

      • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
        6·
        10 天前

        Thanks dude. Means a lot :)

        I guess here is the only place I can talk about this. And for that have to thank you all sincerely.

    • SaneMartigan@aussie.zone
      8·
      10 天前

      That would be a stress for sure. Sounds like you well informed them of all this prior to the travel. I think it comes down to their right to risk aka independence. People are allowed to make foolish decisions then experience the consequences of that. It sucks for you having to watch it, but it’s their choice.

      • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
        7·
        10 天前

        Can’t disagree. He basically dragged her along knowing full well the difficulties w/ food, but he never took the time or interest in it. He’s done a whole lot else for her health, but some reason, and it baffles me, not food. This is on him not her.

        • SaneMartigan@aussie.zone
          7·
          10 天前

          I’ve occasionally had to point out to my elderly mother - who is pretty capable still - that she needs to advocate for herself in bad situations. Mostly it’s been younger people dragging her about with her bung hip then her complaining to me. I recommended getting in a taxi and leaving as the solution. I could see it hadn’t even occurred to her as an option.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      7·
      10 天前

      If your mum survives the trip and survives the weeks after they need a new way to be handled

      they have to be assertively told what to do and when, even supervised

      they have shown they are incapable of making choices

      and your mum is asking to be told, asking to be looked after,

      I suggest a home visit nurse but first can you contact the ship’s doctor? I’m sure they would appreciate a head’s up rather than having to deal with a health emergency on ship

    • Thornburywitch@aussie.zoneEnglish
      7·
      10 天前

      First, there will be a doctor on board. The cabin crew/concierge can put them in touch. A feeding tube (maybe semi-permanent) is an option. Then liquid food can just go down the hatch and bypass the gag reflex and teeth problems.

      Re the dad situation - he may be genuinely unaware of HOW to do the feeding stuff - it’s previously been a nurse’s job in his professional life with all the status ambiguities involved.

      Imo the ship’s doctor and nursing staff are the best option rn. They’ll know what to do and probably have re-hydration supplies on hand anyway. Please tell us of any help we can give. We’re all here for you.

      • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
        4·
        10 天前

        J-peg and parenteral nutrition are also options if extreme ones

        Edit: of course probably not available on the cruise ship but later

    • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
      7·
      10 天前

      Maybe this will highlight to him that she needs care. Maybe it will help them think about receiving some assistance with feeding. I have my fingers crossed for her that she returns safe and well.

      More food ideas if you want them

    • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
      5·
      10 天前

      That sounds incredibly stressful man. I’m sorry it’s been so tough dealing with this. Hopefully your old man will be able to help ❤️

    • SituationCake@aussie.zone
      5·
      10 天前

      Rough situation. Did your mum say why she can’t eat the supplements? Does she not know how to prepare it, or doesn’t like flavour, or something else? She said she doesn’t know what to do. I think getting her to articulate specific reasons will help you all to find a solution. Sounds like your dad doesn’t really understand (or want to understand?) the seriousness of the issue. This must be a horrible feeling, knowing the one person that could help is not really engaged. I’m so sorry. I hope the call/email helps them.

      • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
        7·
        10 天前

        For her it’s a fair few problems. Some of it is neurological. After her head strike 1.5yrs ago, a lot reasoning ability was lost. So asking her why she can’t is met with basically ‘i don’t want to’. Been happening ever since the strike. Point out that she needs to then the meltdowns begin. Ask why and yea, ‘stop hassling me’.

        Ol’ boy does understand, but for some reason avoids any interest in food/supps. He’s had her along to see so many specialists over the last however long… I really don’t get it. Is it a ‘that’ generation thing. In his line of work all of that stuff was delegated so I’m guessing that’s a reason too. But he can’t delegate out of this one. This is awful to watch. All the dude had to do was have a mild interest in it and this wouldn’t have happened or be less severe at least.

        • SituationCake@aussie.zone
          4·
          10 天前

          Damn. That’s complicated. Perhaps head injury led to some eating disorder issues like ARFID? I don’t know much about it but maybe the kinds of foods that are tolerable to people with this condition might be manageable? Chicken nuggets or ice cream or white bread and butter. I don’t know. It’s not nutritionally complete but something is better than nothing. Sounds like the boat could provide options, could be chopped up to help with teeth issue, but they are having problems asking for what’s needed? Is there a way you could arrange with the boat directly to have room service delivered daily with a selection of tolerable foods? If she doesn’t eat it, you’ve done all you can.

          • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
            4·
            10 天前

            ARFID

            Heaps of elements there that lineup! It’s just so complex. I feel sorry for them both really. A boat with everything you could ask for and instead of being able to just enjoy it… worrying about food and nutrition. Asked her about the view and she went straight into food :(

            I’ve been looking up the boats menus but they’re sample menus. Maybe I should ask ol’ boy for a piccy of current ones and see which ones could work blended.

  • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
    11·
    10 天前

    It’s our 21st wedding anniversary today. 30 years together. We’re still madly in love. Wow time goes fast.

    I think I deserve some dessert today.

    Thanks guys for all the well wishes ❤️

  • calhoon2005@aussie.zone
    9·
    10 天前

    Kidcalhoon2 loves the Simpsons ,

    which is so awesome for me…ha

    Also, new Tombow markers are quite disappointing to be honest. Budget entry is budget quality.

  • tombruzzo@aussie.zone
    9·
    10 天前

    I tell my kids “It’s unpog for breakfastmaxxing cerealchads to cortisol-bait milkcels by bowlmogging” and they just stare at me like they don’t know what I’m talking about

  • tombruzzo@aussie.zone
    8·
    10 天前

    Thanks to AI slop I feel I need to be so careful when checking out some obscure new release. Is this just released song with 2 views a solo passion project or is it part of a procession of slop someone is churning out. I shouldn’t need to do this much research to listen to a song

  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
    7·
    9 天前

    In going to get an echocardiogram to see what is going on. And will also have to wear a device for 24 hours that measures my heart rate.

    Pretty nervous to be honest. The outcome of this will dictate how I live my life moving forward.

    • imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone
      5·
      9 天前

      Hope it goes well and there’s every chance it’s easily dealt with. You said (I think) they thought you were a bit hyperthyroid. That’s manageable and will give you racing heart. Even if it’s something else there’s meds and minor surgery that can fix. Lots of options if you catch stuff now! But yeah I have massive health anxiety around heart stuff so I get the stress. 🤞🏻🤞🏻💙

      • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
        4·
        9 天前

        Thanks so much :)

        They put the thing on me which is waterproof which is nice and it connects to my phone.

        The nurse said everything looks fine.

        Waiting to do the eco.

  • Tofu@aussie.zone
    6·
    11 天前

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  • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
    6·
    10 天前
    spoiler

    I’m feeling like shit. I’ve been working for years to improve my physical health but wish I hadn’t bothered. Wishing I could go back to when things were really dicey and just let it go, peacefully pass away at the same time as my cat.

    • SituationCake@aussie.zone
      7·
      10 天前

      Please don’t think this way. Hard times will pass. Grief can be so intense but it will lessen over time, I promise you.

      • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
        5·
        10 天前

        I dunno. I’m still pretty unwell and stuck in really shitty circumstances, just without my pet now :(

        I’m in physical and emotional pain every day and so tired of it

                • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
                  3·
                  10 天前

                  I disagree. I think it’s well worth getting help about. You thought it was serious enough to work hard and clean everything, to disrupt your life in a negative way. Advice would be good

  • tombruzzo@aussie.zone
    5·
    10 天前

    There was a huge booking at trivia last night for a probus group. I’ll need to remind myself when I’m old to properly get involved with one.

    I helped a woman involved with a probus group when I was doing the tech support stuff, she said the men don’t often get involved. I want to make sure I don’t end up like that

  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
    5·
    10 天前

    i tripped over today on the footpath early this arvo, I should have been looking where i was going

    I’m ok, I got up, brushed myself off, checked for broken bones and blood, there was none, so I continued on my way to the book shop

    but my knees are getting sore , ow

    I’ve been thinking if I wasn’t fit and agile I could have hurt myself, getting older can be scary

  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
    4·
    10 天前

    chicken sausage rolls have been made and eaten

    I have 12 big ones and 6 littles left for other dinners and lunches 🥟

  • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
    4·
    10 天前

    My husband brought home custard tarts ❤️ and I’ve had the biggest roast pork & crackle roll of my life. Like we stacked that roll with crackle. Hopefully I can fit in the tart later with a cuppa tea. It’s been 4 weeks since no sugar. I’ve done good.