title. how do i know if someone i dated actually wants to be my friend or if i’m just being used?? he doesn’t like me at all nor want me but he wants to talk to me so i can comfort him 24/7 because he’s always miserable. he never does stuff for me but he would always get really happy when i did stuff for him.

  • protist@mander.xyzEnglish
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    5 months ago

    I don’t know if I’d frame it as being “used,” but this person is clearly toxic. He’s miserable all the time and is trying to bring you down with him. He’d probably do that to anyone who lets him. Don’t let him.

    If you want to remain in his life in some capacity, you can put up strict boundaries, e.g. the conversation ends if he insults you or anything about you, and there is to be absolutely no “comforting” if he complains, and you should require he go to therapy. Alternatively, you could just stop seeing him entirely.