I spent most of my working life as a carer for the elderly. Most of the people I looked after had kids, but their kids didn’t bother with them, visited them twice a year if they were lucky. Having kids is no guarantee of companionship in old age.
This is a really powerful point to make. It’s a total crapshoot if you end up ‘doing it right’ and raising family orientated children. Even if you do ‘get it right,’ things like life and personal autonomy means anything could happen and they move out one day and you never see them again.
Raising kids as an insurance policy against loneliness isn’t the right approach, I think.
I spent most of my working life as a carer for the elderly. Most of the people I looked after had kids, but their kids didn’t bother with them, visited them twice a year if they were lucky. Having kids is no guarantee of companionship in old age.
This is a really powerful point to make. It’s a total crapshoot if you end up ‘doing it right’ and raising family orientated children. Even if you do ‘get it right,’ things like life and personal autonomy means anything could happen and they move out one day and you never see them again.
Raising kids as an insurance policy against loneliness isn’t the right approach, I think.
Thinking you own your children is a little dumb
Yeah, you should also be a good parent for it to happen.