This is a problem I have. I have a friend There is a lib in my life (who at one point was very important to me) who is very much “I believe we can rationally debate these points and if you’ll just listen to my reasoning instead of resorting to insults you’ll understand where I’m coming from” and I’m like “I am not resorting to insults, I am insulting you. I am not engaging in a debate, I’m telling you you are being a shitty person and that I do not want to be around you because you are being a shitty person. Go have your shitty opinions somewhere else.”