Modern civilisation is ending and likely cannot be stopped.
Suggestions on a postcard pls.
So long, and thanks for all the fish
So sad that it should come to this
We tried to warn you all but oh dear
I moderated r/collapse for about a year. I’ve been aware since 2012 what is coming and it’s only this last year that it’s like a switch was flipped. This summer is going to be brutal and it will only get worse.
I can’t talk about this with my wife, as she is unable to cope with the data and shuts down. None of my friends want to talk about the problems we face and call me a downer. I’ve come to the realization that every day that I’m not baking alive, dying of thirst/hunger, or being killed for my meat is a good day that I should cherish.
Pretty much same. Around 2012 it really became apparent that nothing was going to be done in time and I personally flipped from “Science/tech will save us!” to pessimist. At this point it’s just realism.
The way the world handled Covid was the final nail in the coffin for me when the majority of humanity demonstrated that they can’t/won’t behave as a collective to save lives if it inconveniences them. It was the perfect test run for what is to come and most made it abundantly clear they can’t cope with any kind of disruption to their capitalistic routine.
Now the data is beginning to show in the graphs the news is slowly seeping into mainstream circles. But at this it’s way too late and nothing short of ditching the idea of growth and uniting/mobilising the entire world against the issue will solve it.
Luckily my partner is fully aware too so we’re just making what we can of the time we have left. My friends and family on the other hand are busy having kids and whilst appear to listen, obviously don’t grasp the gravity of the situation.
Sometimes I think you know, being mildly chronically ill with no real social attachments isn’t that bad.
hopefully its the end of the beginning, more than the beginning of the end.
This graph suggests the latter.
Not to mention the rising tensions around the globe reminiscent of the 1930s.
everything’s fine personally, but it makes me sad and bitter that i see a world where the light keeps getting dimmer. when i was younger, i believed in a bright future. hell, i believed in a bright future up until 2015 or so.
i don’t see young people making good memories any more. i don’t see love any more.
what can you do about it? make sure there are consequences for the people who are making it go dark.
Same problem as most everyone else really, one month away from homelessness.
Just began the process of divorcing my wife of 4 years for having a sexual relationship with someone I’ve been friends with for over 20 years. With the marriage goes my sense of financial security, a cohesive circle of close friends, a stable place to live, an adorable pup, and pretty much the entirety of my life plans for the next five years. I’m living paycheck to paycheck, and only barely so.
But I’ve learned to rely on myself and my resolve a lot more, and the relationship I’ve begun to forge with my inner-self is something I wouldn’t trade away for anything. And I’ve become a lot closer with the friends I’ve retained, or it feels like I have.
I hope you’ve divorced that shitty friend of yours, too.
I’m sorry for both/all of your losses.
Except for the dog. That dog is yours. And your rock to start rebuilding.
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Too much depression and anxiety to work, not enough to get approved for disability. And bureaucracy is an anxiety trigger. Fun, innit?
I started jumping through those hoops, but then I got cancer and it’s really easy to get disability with it. Life pro tip lol.
Trying to care for my partner with PTSD, she’s alcoholic and actively suicidal. Doctor is trying to help but mental health support has a huge waiting list (months and years). Her son, living with us, is retarded, rude, disrespectful, incompetent, and complains constantly about not being able to get a job so he can move out. (I’m not sure that he’s even employable). My ex wife kicked out my son because he and my youngest are arguing all the time and she (ex wife) can’t cope. He started moving in here but doesn’t get along with my partner so he ran away from home (he’s an adult). Now we have a room full of his stuff but don’t know where he is or whether he’s coming back.
I’m still getting over cancer treatment and l I’m so tired.
I’m fine, how are you?
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For starters, I’m 20 hours late for this post. It’s the two year anniversary of my mother dying of cancer. My brother died of cancer in August. My wife almost died this month. I can’t sleep. I have too much anxiety. I don’t have any face to face friends and I feel too burned out for anyone to want to be my friend.
Lost ones anniversaries are rough. I like to imagine those I’ve lost over time would rather cheer me up than have me remember them through sadness. Still, easier said than done.
(The silver lining about the slower content on lemmy compared to reddit is you can be hours late and still be part of the discussion instead of casting your bottle at sea if you miss the 15 minute window.)
I’m sorry for your losses but remember life is for the living. Live your life as best you can. That’s why they call it the present.
That’s the neat part, you can’t. Unless you can fix healthcare, housing/transportation, money etc (even if you could, it wouldn’t be the same as if those were never problems in the first place). That or the old escapist dream of “get me out of here” but I also don’t ever see that happening for a lot of reasons. So again, no.
Even trying to broaden the definition of help… things are probably too personal, too difficult/specific, and maybe even inconsequential. Like the type of thing there just isn’t an answer for.
For some reason I find it absolutely hilarious that some idiots have downvoted this.
“Please keep your existential dread to yourself as we only really want to hear problems that can be fixed with a pithy Lemmy comment.”
Sorry bro, not much consolation but I feel you.
I would say the point of my comment was more on despair than dread.
And anyone who downvoted probably didn’t get that I was speaking from my own life, as addressed in another reply. Guess that’s my fault for trying to make it not about me.
Though either way I can’t actually see the downvotes. None of them are federated to Kbin and on the Lemmy side the score seems identical now and no vote tracking to show negatives (unless that’s only if you have an account).
Helping a person doesn’t require systemic change. Ultimately yes, to end the major problems people face will require that change to occur, but helping an individual isn’t that hard. Sometimes people are just in a bind and could use advice or $50. Don’t call that inconsequential. If you get so in the weeds on systemic change that you fail to see how to help an individual in need, then you lost the thread.
If it’s unclear, I was stating my own problems. I don’t see how a perfect internet stranger could help those issues, and even if they could I would probably just want them to help someone else instead.
The inconsequential bit was also speaking for myself. As in a situation of “I got this small thing that I wanted, but it didn’t have as much of an effect as I expected it would and now I feel worse that I asked for it”. I was also thinking in the mindset of not-something-everybody-needs but also not-something-that-could’ve-been-an-image-search-for-puppies.
Ah, I understand now. I’m in the same boat. My day-to-day is alright and I’m getting along fine, but the issues I’m facing are generally systemic. My solution is to do what I can to fight the system: I’m a union organizer at my company to fight the general unaffordability in my area (and obviously lots of other issues too), I’m drafting legislation for tenants rights so I don’t have as much landlord bs, etc. It’s hard work to do that stuff, but since those are my only major problems I think it’s worth my effort.
This, right here.
Getting rid of people who say, “Stop being so dramatic!”
The human world is dying, and I’m supposed to just piddle around and not shout that it’s shit!?
I sell plasma to pay bills, after working a full-time salary job.
So, unless you have an answer, how about YOU be quiet.
I don’t think OP was actually proposing that they’d solve our problems. Just wondering what they are (I guess).
I wanted some idea of where the problems lie and from there figure out what an individual could do.
For an actual reply from me, I’m a NEET shut-in with untreated health issues in a semi-rural area so probably not much unless in the same state (USA, MI). My ideas for individual help would be if somebody could:
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Tell me when the trail is going to open back up, or maybe they are the ones working on it (though either of those would likely just have me know slightly sooner)
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Tell me if atlas orthogonal adjustment is a real+effective thing (particularly in context of sleep quality/energy, autonomic issues, POTS, known whiplash history etc) and if the chiropractors near me (+the trail) have the equipment for that procedure plus X-rays (paperwork info etc).
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(If you live in an intentional community, again near the trail) tell me if I could be a good fit. Which is also a gamble when it comes to personality compatibility. And I don’t have high hopes for it.
So you see it’d be like trying to get a bullseye blindfolded when you don’t know where any dartboards are. Unlikely even if you had many darts.
On a non-local and less important note there is tech stuff that is specific, a high bar, and the sort of thing I already talk about here on the Fediverse already:
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Like still no Nim-lang bindings ready for Godot 4.
- Or alternatives that have similar feel+capability (from what I’ve seen, none do) but better support.
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Anything relating to untextured polygonal art.
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Godot 4 has a still-unmerged PR that allows for dynamic constructed art (animated eye example) but performance is likely an issue using it like that especially with MSAA
- and Godot still has vertex colors done via a list (no painting/color tools like index/layers).
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Raylib has polygons but there is no editor (I have an unfinished text format, because there are 2 formats for polygons).
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If I went with 3D that may be easier but I’d need to learn Blender unless there is also a good simpler low-poly+vertex colors model program.
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Free games that I don’t find tedious.
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It would be nice to have a Minetest game that doesn’t copy certain things from MC
- like hunger/stamina and cluttering cosmetic variants of blocks
- would be nice to have things like pistons (but more powerful/viable in survival mode, chain-able w/o manual logic), but with a close-enough base game (and not too wiki-dependent) I might try to figure out how to make what I can.
- Maybe something more like MC beta, though I guess maybe it’s subjective plus difficult to add real compelling elements.
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Not quite satisfied with S.Pixel Dungeon or other roguelikes.
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Hopefully this makes sense and isn’t too eclectic, answering something perhaps. Because I know these are probably too out-there.
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Well, I recently got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. And instead of doing the smart thing, I’ve just been drinking myself to sleep multiple times a day, which is easy to do because I’m unemployed.
I’m constantly having to keep my head on a swivel because I pissed off a person known for shooting people and getting away with it - I didn’t know this when I pissed him off. Honestly shocked that what I said pissed him off to the point he had his friends jump me.
And last night I ran into an old crush who is not single and started the process all over again of trying to get past it and just be friends with him. But it’s hard to just let these feelings go. Fuck my life.
One day at a time.
If you’re worried about your drinking, there’s no time like now to stop.
I need to find a smart and cute 45 year old lady with a nice house who’s lonely and horny. I can handle the shopping, cooking and entertainment.
If she has any friends in the same position put in a good word for me okay?
LostHad to put my dog down on Wednesday.My divorce finalizes on Monday.
It’s mostly the dog thing tho
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In my area there are local lost dog Facebook pages. Good luck! Divorce sucks, but sometimes marriage is worse. Your home should be your calm, safe space.
Yea, I mean ‘lost’, not misplaced lol
Oh man. I’m so sorry.
You gave me a good chuckle. Thank you.
I havent eaten anything but one small reduced portion of rice and noodles for the whole week
Cause PayPal and western Union do not give me the money they where supposed to
Im two of those reduced portions away from going hungry
I just want a nice warm meal honestly
And I hate that im even bringing this up, it feels icky to tell other what situation I am in
update: my gf whos in california on the other side of the world caught wind and just ordered me a big burger to ebb me over until the money arrives, man, shes the best
This is why food banks exist. It is okay to go there and ask for food. Look for one in your area
I don’t know where you live, but you should feel NO shame for being hungry. If you’re in the US, you can find food banks and meal programs here: https://www.feedingamerica.org/find-your-local-foodbank
unfortunately, i live in austria
I don’t know if this helps but I hope it does
Either im or other people are mistaking this question.
Does it not state us telling the problem and how people can help it directly?
Pointing to very obvious external services doesn’t sound very much like the posed question.
- I have no friends or family.
- I’m only avoiding suicide cos I’ve failed for 20yrs so proving I’m shit at it.
- My last attempt resulted in a nightmare hospital stay where I got barely any fucking care.
- I’m on probation for a crime I don’t remember committing while psychotic on meth.
- Unemployed
- Polydrug addiction cos life is so shit but I have to remain sober.
Who the hell downvoted you and why?
My mom was diagnosed with Ekbom Syndrom. She’s been forced into early retirement because of it, but she doesn’t have retirement, she’s pulled out from it too many times.
I’m terrified I won’t be able to support us both. I make only 62k, and I’m still paying off student loans from 20 years ago.
I wish I had other family to help me with the costs, but there’s no one. I do have a brother, but he doesn’t work and has spent the last 20 years living with my mom and playing video games. She was supporting them both. And don’t think he’s helping to care for her either.
I’ve talked her into moving states so that she’s near me and I can help her more with stuff, so we’re selling her very dilapidated house this summer. Because my brother destroys thing and she doesn’t have the funds for upkeep, I don’t think she’ll be getting much from the sale.
My mom has been telling my brother she’s going to buy him a house and I had to be the one to sit him down and tell him he’ll be lucky to get a trailer, because she doesn’t have any money. Once we sell her current house, that’s it. She’ll have that to buy something of her own, and if there’s something leftover and I can’t talk her out of it, maybe he’ll get something for 50k.
I look at other friends with ailing parents and see the help they have from their siblings or family members, and I writhe with jealousy. Meanwhile my mom is digging imaginary parasites from her arms and feels like I think she’s crazy.
Parent care is incredibly difficult… the exhaustion, always feeling like you’re failing, … I followed a couple of Reddit subs while we were caring for our moms and that was a nice outlet to vent without judgement. Try to take time for yourself, even if it’s just a walk outside to let your brain relax.
Can I ask which subs you followed? It would be nice to speak to others who understand. I still use reddit on my desktop.
I followed r/dementia and i think either r/caregivers or r/caregiversupport.
Meanwhile my mom is digging imaginary parasites from her arms and feels like I think she’s crazy.
While I don’t mean this as a diagnosis, the last person I knew who did that was later diagnosed with schizophrenia. Although getting mental health care can be a challenge in itself, let alone for someone who doesn’t want to.
Luckily I don’t think that’s the route her mind is going. The ekboms was brought on by extreme work stress, and she’s already showing some signs of healing after being pulled from work. But it’s certainly crossed my mind.
Why would your brother possibly get money yet bear no financial responsibility to help?
Because my mom is an enabler, and she bears a lot of guilt over who she chose as our father and how he treated my brother. My brother and I both had a lot of emotional issues, and where I chose to get help and fix my issues, he hasn’t.
Even if my brother agreed to help financially, he couldn’t. He hasn’t had a job in over a decade. Granted, he’s going to have to get a job once mom moves, but he’ll probably never earn more than barely keeping himself afloat. My mom says she just wants to make sure he has a place to live the rest of his life.
As for my mom, well, she’s an adult, and other than her ekbom diagnosis, she’s of sound mind. She makes her own choices, and I can only give my input. Can’t make her do anything she doesn’t want to.
Thanks for the explanation. I’m sorry you have to deal with all this.
Something I learned from the “other site” personal finance sub: You are not responsible for your mother’s debt, do not make any payments directly for any of her debt, or else that’s enough in some states for debtors to then go after you.There’s other tips and tricks to keep your finances separate from your mother’s, don’t feel bad looking after yours as the primary priority. Remember: A caregiver that’s completely exhausted (either physically/mentally/financially) can’t take care of anybody, so remember to take care of yourself first. I hope things get better for the both of us, I’m in a similar boat.
