What has everyone got for their dad’s, who are usually particularly hard to buy for?
Also, to add a caveat, totally fine to have a complicated relationship with your dad. If this is the case, please be kind to yourself and ignore this post!
Nothing, my dad sucks.
I’m with you here, I have a very complicated guilt filled relationship with my dad and often this time of year causes issues. I always think it’s nice to focus on the positive father figures or even mentors in your life and reach out to show appreciation and know none of this is on you!
Eh it’s been 11 years since he went off the rails so I’m pretty much over it. Sucks around his bday but on weekends like this I’m mostly just happy to not have to spend time and money on an awkward meal out like most people I know. Gonna lounge in pyjamas instead and nobody can even make me feel bad for it lol.
Honestly I admire you so much for this. I am feeling the guilt to go have to spend time with my dad over spending time with my partner (who is an amazing dad). As you say it’s always awkward and toxic but still the guilt remains. Great that are prioritising yourself, have a wonderful weekend!
Well I hope that whatever you do, it’s as bearable as possible and you get to come home to your awesome partner asap. I don’t know your situation so can’t comment any further on that, just remember your feelings in all of this matter too.
Thank you, yours to. Hope you have a lovely weekend!
My dad ran out on us when i was a toddler. So yeah. That’s how my father’s day is gonna be.
In the best traditions of British understatement…that’s a bit of a bugger :(
Sorry to hear that, best to treat yourself extra kindly on sunday.
same here, I haven’t heard from him in 8 years, not sure if he’s still alive
Yeah it’s so tricky, people seem to assume that you should have a great relationship with your parents, I certainly don’t . Instead, treat yourself nicely this weekend!
Agreed! Love for your parent should be earned not assumed.
My local football club I support had a father’s day promotion, but a couple weeks beforehand they sent out an email allowing people to opt out. Really nice to see
I got him a bag of coffee. Unfortunately I then discovered another bag of coffee I got him for the last occasion that I forgot to give him
So a trip to John Lewis later and he’s got a rice cooker. Luckily my sister isn’t in the city so as long as I see him I win by default
It doesn’t always have to be a competition you know!
(says the oldest grandchild, whose grandmother has drunkenly confirmed that means she’ll always automatically be the favourite 🕶 )
Hah win by default, well congratulations on thay. Also rice cookers are amazing, we use ours way more than we thought we would.
Bought a part to fix his car door window mechanism and told him I’ll fix it. I don’t really know a thing about fixing cars so he’ll probably be losing a window.
Hah! I hope not, and wish you luck fixing the door. It’s a very thoughtful idea, I think we couild all use a few less chores and jobs to sort out!
My dad died last year so nothing. But… I didn’t ever get him anything. He was of the opinion that he had a birthday and that was enough and that Father’s Day was just an excuse to sell cards.
Personally, I like receiving gifts and my kids are still kids so they get excited by proxy. I like single malt whisky so there’s always that (though obviously their mum has to get involved).
And I like to cook (come and check out https://feddit.uk/c/cooking_with_fire if you’re into barbecue of any sort!) So there’s always some little gadget or ingredient (hot sauce or something). They can get me.
I’m sorry for you loss!
My partner is the same, likes getting things from our kid. It’s very cute seeing father’s day from their perspective. My partner is very into bbqing (although it always brings on rain) so thanks for your suggestion.
Kids are the best thing for making festivities (birthdays, Christmas, Halloween, etc) exciting again. They get so into them.
I get my dad every year what he always wanted.
A life without me in it.
Sorry to hear that, it can be a very complicated time to year. Best to be extra kind to yourself!
I usually get a bottle of whatever spirit he’s low on. Slightly ironic in that he has almost every spirit but the personal kind.
Spirits are always a good shout, so many options!
You guys got dads? Damn your Lucky
Socks…but he actually asked
I love getting socks.
Socks are awesome
Socks are awesome and you’ve got to think he knows what he wants! You can get fancy sock subscriptions now
Yep my dad always asks for socks and liquorice allsorts. Every damn year, for birthday too.
He obviously knows what he wants! You can get sock subscriptions, maybe find one with fancy patterns
A nice and comfy ⛵ t-shirt
Sounds lovely!
Was chatting to a friend of mine last night who bought his dad a set of canvas prints of family pets over the years which is remarkably thoughtful and made me feel a bit shit about getting mine a moonpig card and a bottle of rum.
Rum is pretty awesome though
My other half and kid got me a Father’s Day card and gift (whoopee cushion) last week. Their mistake; I expect another this week!
Hah! I’m sure your kid will love having a second father’s day - you might have to re-remind them!
A bunch of unique hot sauces. Last time I saw him he seemed to be experimenting and enjoying different ones, assumed I should… spice it up, rather than the usual chocolates.
That is a great idea, really different from the usual stuff. Maybe you can have a taste and compare on Sunday
Rule 1 of gifts, always buy something you slightly benefit from 😂
Nothing… he’s getting a card which is all I can afford 🤣
I’m with you - card only gang all the way.
That’s more than enough, no one should be stressing themselves financially for father’s day!
Oops m&s here we come…
Still plenty of time!
I love your caveat. My relationship with my dad is very complex, and it brings me so much anxiety to go through father’s day every year. Same for mother’s day, but father’s day is upcoming so it’s more pressing for me right now.
I feel the same and especially around this time of year there is lot of pressure to have this hallmark style relationship that is often so unrealistic for so many. I think either celebrate the mentors in your life regardless of who they are and/or treat yourself extra nicely (well we should all be doing the last point).
