• python [undecided, they/them]
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    408 months ago

    I’m a woman who lives in a college town famous for its high quality Electrical Engineering, Mechanical Engineering and Computer Science degrees. So the woman to man ratio in the 20-30 age group is like 1:4 at best.

    So a lot of guys I’m friends with just don’t get laid cause the math doesn’t work out 🤷

    Some of them tho… should probably do a bit of soul-searching first. Being dismissive about “female interests” like makeup and the gym while also being weirdly fetishistic about “gamer grill interests” like cosplay and video games just makes talking to them really hard. Like, they’ll always look at everything you say through a lens of “how does that benefit ME?” - Talking to them is a literal minefield.

    Another factor is also that they’ll exclusively hang out in male spaces and just expect women to show up and talk to them somehow??? Like yeah, don’t sign up to ballet just to creep on women, but expanding your horizon beyond Friday Night Magic won’t kill you. I’ve heard Lorcana is great, and there are plenty of women playing it at my local game store… just casually talking to them during a game would be a normal human interaction

    • niph [she/her]
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      288 months ago

      As a female Magic player…. Dear GOD male Magic players as a whole need to sort themselves the fuck out

      I run a whole organisation that’s trying to improve things and it is an extremely what-the-hell space

    • AssortedBiscuits [they/them]
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      228 months ago

      Being dismissive about “female interests” like makeup and the gym

      Wait, how the fuck is the gym “female interests?” These losers wonder why they’re unfuckable while saying shit like this lol

      • python [undecided, they/them]
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        288 months ago

        Don’t get me started on it! From what I could gather the thought process was something like gym -> being vain -> women ?? The guy who had that idea was also the kind of guy who never set foot in a gym before and claimed that 30mins of beat saber per week was enough to keep him fit…

        • Wertheimer [any]
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          108 months ago

          30mins of beat saber per week was enough to keep him fit…

          Is that a euphemism for masturbation?

    • RyanGosling [none/use name]
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      98 months ago

      I’m trying to take advantage of the statistics. The majority of guys in CS are either incredibly awkward or just try to ignore their female classmates (not in a malicious way, just awkward). If you have some charm and self awareness, you’ll be able to stand out from the crowd.

    • BolsheWitch [she/her, they/them]
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      68 months ago

      they’ll always look at everything you say through a lens of “how does that benefit ME?” - Talking to them is a literal minefield.

      yup, i’ve also run into this. guys who immediately start getting horny & pushy about random topics.

    • bigboopballs [he/him]
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      58 months ago

      “female interests” like […] the gym

      lol. is working out really considered a female thing by some people now?