• GloomyEnglish
    2•2 months ago

    Also: there should be a Godwin’s Law for rape. The conversation was about household stereotypes. That was a bit of a leap.

    I’ll leave this here.

    Across their lifetime, 1 in 3 women, around 736 million, are subjected to physical or sexual violence by an intimate partner or sexual violence from a non-partner – a number that has remained largely unchanged over the past decade.

    https://www.who.int/news/item/09-03-2021-devastatingly-pervasive-1-in-3-women-globally-experience-violence

    In the US it’s 1 in 6 women (and 1 und 33 men).

    https://rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence

    And last but bit least:

    Nearly 99% of perpetrators are male.

    https://www.humboldt.edu/supporting-survivors/educational-resources/statistics

    So no, jumping to rape is not a leap. The fear of sexual violence is part of beeing a women. I don’t know a single women that wasn’t in a situation that did or did almost resulted in sexual violence.

    It’s not part of beeing a men. I have never in my life feared about sexual violence and I share that with the vast majority of men.

    • 𝕽𝖚𝖆𝖎𝖉𝖍𝖗𝖎𝖌𝖍English
      1•2 months ago

      In the US it’s 1 in 6 women (and 1 und 33 men).

      I’m surprised it’s dropped. The statistic used to be 1 in 4.

      So no, jumping to rape is not a leap

      Yeah, it is. The conversation was about gender roles, until you brought in rape.

      • GloomyEnglish
        1•2 months ago

        Yeah, it is. The conversation was about gender roles, until you brought in rape.

        Was it tough?

        I’d phrase it differently. Unrealistic expectations of the opposite sex [^1] exist by both sexes, but that there outcomes for women when the stereotypes of men hold true are often more dangerous. One is saying it isn’t sexist; the other is saying that there’s a vast difference in risk.

        Then rape isn’t part of the risk you were talking about here?

        The “Would you rather a bear or…” question could be reused in a very uncomfortable way. You could swap men with a group of yoing, black, inner city men and rural white men for women. But instead of demonstrating that men are the issue and women the victims, suddenly it’d be black men who are the victims and rural white men the problem. And, yet, the fear and the risk of confirmation of stereotypes is the same - only in this case, believing those stereotypes makes people racist.

        Fear of rape, among others. Which I wanted to show is backed by the data.