So, I’m currently dating someone, and it’s my first time dating. I was a kissless virgin before this but I’m not kissless anymore ^^. Anyway, we get along really well, sharing a lot of interests and similar views. They’re a “newer” lefty, but they have a good head on their shoulders and are open to learning. We’re really excited about each other. We’ve talked a lot over voice chat, had three dates so far, and exchange a bit of daily texting. At this point, I’m pretty sure we’re going to become a couple, maybe even for a longer time.

Today is our 4th date, but I do not intend to tell them I love them because I’m not really sure how love feels. I definitely feel attraction, and it seems very mutual. I guess my question is: When do I tell someone I love them, and how do I know when I truly love them?

Im asking because this is literally my 1st time dating and I have never been involved in anything romantic.

  • HotAtForty [he/him]
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    384 months ago

    You’re in something new and exciting. Enjoy it. But try to avoid putting unnecessary pressure on it with the big L which implies something very profound.

    Your feelings are real but also they’re new feelings. What comes easily can go easily which is why if you say it too early you’re suggesting you can just as quickly fall out of love.

    Enjoy it. Try to take it all as lightly and joyfully as possible while still valuing it the way you do.