No joke, the fact cis men dress in such boring ways is at least 50% of why I don’t date them much. Which also means it’s the easiest improvement to make !
This is not meant as personal attack on anyone, but if I can go out every day while visibly trans, ya’ll can wear something other than blue jeans and a band tee-shirt. At least for dates 😅
I guess it did, although especially in middle school I took the disapproval of the some people as a sign I was probably doing something right. I was definitely not dressed like any of my peers even long before I knew I was trans.
But I was also taller than everyone until high-school (reached 5’7” some time in 6th grade) and it might have helped more than I realized back then ? It’s not easy bullying someone who’s 2 feet taller than you 😄
Lol you get downvoted but it’s soooo fucking true.
As a resident bisexual man, my guys you need to put in some effort in because, to put it bluntly, half of all y’all seem like you’re trying to run for “least fuckable creature of the week”.
Google some shit. Figure it out. There’s nowhere near as much choice for us as there is for women, but there is enough that you don’t have to wear ill-fitting jeans and a loose printed t-shirt every day.
This is part of a shift based in the enlightenment era, called the Great Male Renunciation. It’s really a shame imho. We need to reclaim feeling pretty. With thigh-high socks, and unix thinkpads.
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No joke, the fact cis men dress in such boring ways is at least 50% of why I don’t date them much. Which also means it’s the easiest improvement to make !
As a man you learn quickly if you’re the nail that sticks up you’re the one to get hammered. We’re forced to blend in.
Really this applies to everyone too.
This is not meant as personal attack on anyone, but if I can go out every day while visibly trans, ya’ll can wear something other than blue jeans and a band tee-shirt. At least for dates 😅
As an adult, I couldn’t care less what people think, but growing up it mattered a lot more. We learn some bitter lessons as children.
I guess it did, although especially in middle school I took the disapproval of the some people as a sign I was probably doing something right. I was definitely not dressed like any of my peers even long before I knew I was trans.
But I was also taller than everyone until high-school (reached 5’7” some time in 6th grade) and it might have helped more than I realized back then ? It’s not easy bullying someone who’s 2 feet taller than you 😄
Lol you get downvoted but it’s soooo fucking true.
As a resident bisexual man, my guys you need to put in some effort in because, to put it bluntly, half of all y’all seem like you’re trying to run for “least fuckable creature of the week”.
Google some shit. Figure it out. There’s nowhere near as much choice for us as there is for women, but there is enough that you don’t have to wear ill-fitting jeans and a loose printed t-shirt every day.
As a bi guy that has been dating mostly men recently, yeah, I hear you. It isn’t quite as bad in my bubble, but still.
Even jeans and a t-shirt that are the correct size are sometimes a significant upgrade 😆
Boring is the best.
No, Italian leather is the best.
This is part of a shift based in the enlightenment era, called the Great Male Renunciation. It’s really a shame imho. We need to reclaim feeling pretty. With thigh-high socks, and unix thinkpads.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Male_Renunciation
Thanks for sharing that link, I had no idea about this!!