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Cake day: 2023年11月1日

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  • My mother (who is cis) was a landscaper for most of her career, and the fact that she was more jacked than anyone else in the family because of it was always a genuine point of pride. It didn’t stop her from looking good in a dress either (although occasions she felt like fully dressing up for were few and far between.)

    My point being, even if your muscles were to stay looking the way they are in this picture, I think that’s perfectly okay. Strength is absolutely not exclusive to any gender, and having muscle definition doesn’t make you less of a woman. But for the record, I do think your muscles will become less prominent with time. Give it five years. If you are less than a year into your transition now, that’s hardly any time at all (even though I am sure there are so many other ways where it is also, equally validly, feeling like a really long time!)


  • Almost as if you deliberately ignored the operative word “could” in my original reply so that you could pretend I thought everyone should be forced to see a personal trainer and get mad about that

    When people have the choice to receive benefits, they typically only do so when they would actually benefit. People without a problem they believe therapy can address typically won’t choose to see a therapist, for the same reason you would not choose to see a personal trainer.





  • it’s a luxury good, like travel.

    It shouldn’t be.

    A lot of major health insurance providers have free “self-help” style mental healthcare options, which are better than nothing even if they’re kind of lame, but even one of the worst insurers I’ve been on (Kaiser Permanente) had decent mental health benefits. They like money and they know that subsidizing therapy is way cheaper than paying claims for a lot of the issues poor mental health can lead to





  • If you are interested in software development, and willing to put in the work to actually learn strong fundamentals, I think you’re going to have a clear leg up on the competition after the AI bubble in all likelihood bursts eventually. Vibe coding is hurting the signal to noise ratio in general right now, but as far as I’m aware a “live portfolio” like a website of personal projects has always been as good if not better than a resume when it comes to selling your skills in software.

    Just consider whether you’ll be able to tolerate doing the work when you’re not going to be the one in charge of deciding what you work on.