Thank you. I am going to therapy next week after a long break. I’ve vented a lot of feelings to a friend to ease the burden in the meantime. I ideally want to separate as diplomatically and kindly as possible. I would never want her to feel she’s in the wrong for needing different things.

I appreciate your words. Going to look into John Gottamn - books are usually very helpful for me.

I did make a mistake by not setting boundaries. It’s hard to look back at the beginning of our relationship and see how fulfilled I was then vs now where there is no physical love. I thought it was the honeymoon period wearing off but I guess it was deeper.

I have been in therapy off and on over the years, and yes it’s time to go back. I’m already seeing my therapist next week and you’ve given me food for thought.