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  • quickenparalysespunk@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoAsk Lemmy NSFW@lemmynsfw.com•NSFW PeerTubeEnglish
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    3 天前

    i agree with you. still looking but i haven’t been able to find an instance though. I’ve only found one uploader who posted their porn library (entirely focused on one very very specific fetish).

    i think one reason its hard to find within peertube is that SFW hosting providers have different rules and cost than NSFW ones.

    NSFW automatically attracts more traffic which means higher server costs, which usually means it needs to pay for itself, in other words, ads.

    i think showing ads would be kind of against the principles of the fediverse.

    there is a lot more nsfw on mastodon and misskey. and of course Lemmy probably has the most.

  • quickenparalysespunk@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Am I the only one who feels uncomfortable about many Americans constantly calling people "black" and "white" and making such a big thing about it?
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    5 天前

    I totally agree that the root problem exists not only with the rich old white men. They are simply one of the urgent external threats, mainly because rich people’s money gives the ability to oppress all the groups at once.

    But yeah, we definitely oppress each other.

    My Dad used to be a local leader in our community and he would organize parties once in a while, sometimes for a holiday, sometimes for an election, etc. It’s the type of community where everyone is considered a relative, regardless of family ties. Every single time I attended those parties, some slobbering drunk old guy would come up to me and say “Why are you still fat? You need to exercise, kid.” I was in elementary school! And the old guy had fucking fat beer belly too!

    …I can’t even bring myself to talk about the shit my own Dad said to me.

    Across the world, the more colonized or enveloped in majority control that the country/community is, the worse the internal oppression and othering seems to be in sub-communities.

    I hate it.

  • quickenparalysespunk@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Am I the only one who feels uncomfortable about many Americans constantly calling people "black" and "white" and making such a big thing about it?
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    6 天前

    TL;DR

    its not the labels that cause the divide. it’s the divide (the racism built into the economy and laws and communities) that causes the trauma that requires us to heal within our sub-communities. But the sub-communities are not originally homogenous; i.e. sometimes the only thing sub-communities have in common is the label/slur that “Whites” assigned us and the trauma that goes with that.

    Also, for anyone who’s actually lived in the US, you know we strenuously avoid using labels about someone when talking TO that person. There are very strict social rules for which labels to use when/where/with whom. Some people break those rules, then republicans elect them as president. FYI in case its not obvious, OVER HALF of US people hate Trump (and Elon). Why are they in power, you ask? Search “usa electoral system minority rule”

    I appreciate you bringing this uncertainty to the community and open yourself for discussion. I understand how it can be upsetting or feel dissonant to see US people who sometimes/often brag of being the standard for freedom and equality, but still use divisive-sounding language. And worse yet, for the outward face of the US to become even more of an international symbol for fascism and oppression than ever.

    many people outside the US, and even people inside the US, get confused by seeing us talk a lot about Black, White, Asian, Latinx (historically called ‘Latino’ or ‘Hispanic’), Indigenous. They often think the labels themselves actually caused divides in US. I’ve heard this interpretation often from young people, mostly Gen Z. This also used to be a part of the “mainstream” (aka white liberals’) mindset in the 1980s/1990s in the US. I’m not white nor black and I also believed that to some level back then.

    We still are always looking for new names/terms to unite with each other regardless of sub-groups. That’s how we get terms like BIPoC (Black, Indigenous, People of Color) which definitely is inconvenient without abbreviation.

    Sociological research actually showed that US society was and still is divided even when we don’t use the labels. Its actually our laws, our economic practices, and “certain” groups’ superiority/inferiority mindset (psychological complex) that divide US people.

    The laws, for example, sometimes create a lot of extra steps to register to vote. And when those extra steps are analyzed, it turns out it makes voting extra difficult for poor people (like that our voting days are on Tuesday, a work day, so poor people can’t always get a day off, then can’t vote). In many areas of US, the low income group is mostly one or two races, like Black and Latinx. So politicians who hate those groups can secretly make it hard for them to vote by creating voting obstacles that affect only poor people.

    The economic system helps to keep people poor by creating barriers for getting house loans or starting businesses. The “Red Lining” system used to categorize land/houses in Black neighborhoods as unlikely to repay loans, so people from there (Black people) or people trying to buy homes there were not given loans. Even if banks wanted to loan to the person, the Gov’t refused to give the bank insurance. But what actually determines the ability to repay a loan? Income or assets, right? But income was usually ignored and Black people were assumed to have no assets worth money.

    As for the people, when I say “superiority/inferiority mindset”, I mean that certain US pink-skin straight neurotypical people have become accustomed to feeling comfortable in a very specific way, and accustomed to not being criticized for that refusal to change, and refusal to bring other races into their lives and into their comfort zone. Research on this area found that when we don’t discuss race openly with some type of labels, children would observe and absorb parents’/adults’ implicit feelings of discomfort around other races, even if their parents were civil rights believers/activists. Then while growing up, the child believes themselves to be “non-racist” (because of the thinking “my parents/role-models were non-racist!”) while still having this discomfort. If the person realized they had this subconscious conflict and discusses it with friends of other races and in a mindset of humbleness and desire to learn, they could usually manage the discomfort and be an anti-racist (different from non-racist) without conflicted identity. However, if the person doesn’t recognize the internal conflict and eventually expresses their discomfort emotionally directed at people of other races, they would predictably face backlash. Then because they identify themselves as a non-racist, they believe the backlash was unfair and feel that they have become the victim of “political correctness” or “the woke agenda”. This scenario is EXTREMELY common in the US and, I would bet, an analogous one is common in most western countries. Particularly regarding immigrants, refugees, Roma people, or Jews.

    I call the group “certain US pink-skin straight neurotypical people (PSSNTP)” because those of us with other skin color (BIPoC), other neurotypes, other sexuality have not ever had the opportunity to become that level of comfortable in the context of the entire US society that includes “straight white” people. BIPoC and LGBTQ are able to be comfortable in sub-groups that share our uncomfortable experiences. We call those groups Black, Gay, Asian, Pacific Islander, Neurodivergent, etc because other terms are more awkward/inconvenient, but also due to having bad experiences being called by those names or called more malicious synonyms, and otherwise treated badly by the PSSNTP and those bad experiences unite us in our sub-groups. Yes, some non-white, non-straight, non-neurotypical have also oppressed others. They were never the majority of oppressors, and they were hoping to hide the non-majority aspects of their identity by “going with the flow”. For what it’s worth, Empathy is also a minority identity characteristic among USA straight males, when it reaches the level of choosing discomfort for oneself in order to improve life for others.

    Lastly, about "White"ness. As you mentioned, there are no “races” in the human genome except the human race. As far as I know, the term “white” referring to caucasian people was first spread widely during North American (NA) slavery in order to unite poor caucasians (British & other Europeans in debt slavery as “indentured”) in NA with rich caucasians (mostly british aristocratic slave-owners) in order to motivate the poor to report African slaves who had escaped. They also motivated the poor caucasians to side with rich by hiring them as a slave patrol unit, with higher salary etc. This is the origin of the entire concept of Police (for the whole Earth, as far as I know) as an enforcement unit under civilian authorities and separate from military.

    Even Police themselves admit it

    • National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial Fund - Slave Patrols: An Early Form of American Policing - https://archive.ph/5cXfv