Love that smile! And what a fabulous top <3

Some things I found effective:

• Hiding my gut was a priority, because that’s a very masculine feature (not to say that women don’t have fat there, but it tends not to be only there). Shape-adjusting underwear like girdles can help here but really it’s just a case of shedding the weight.
• Breaking up the straight-up-and-down side profile is huge. A-line skirts and dresses if you’re brave, or tops that cinch in at the waist. Try to make it look like you have hips.
• Layering! Women’s fabrics are usually thinner, so try to wear a few things rather than just a T-shirt. Also combining tight and loose things works well.
• High-waisted bottoms!
• And unless you’re hugely muscular, don’t worry too much about showing off your shoulders.

Oh yes, that’s a very good point. “Size” is a concept you should forget :3 I’m an M in one brand and 3L in another. (Particularly as a transfem my proportions are quite far off average)

Buy a little at a time, and nothing remotely expensive, especially if you plan on losing weight. Amazon is your friend here.

Look on pinterest and in real life for women wearing things you like. Then copy them! It’s that easy, but it takes a while to find your own style. You’ll have plenty of time as your body changes to explore.

Have fun!

I’ve been losing weight and it just made them more obvious :3 You’re probably OK.

Which reminds me: I got a “proper” bra at last. Compared with a sports bra where they tend to leak out the sides a bit, actual cups bring everything forward and make my chest look huge (still barely a US A-cup).

I’m flattered that you felt my ramblings were worth ruminating on <3

In case anyone’s interested my explanation is below.

*snort*

OK, I might have to steal that.

Nice one! Here’s to a smooth recovery.

I found a translation of the third one: My Future Self Is Persuading Me To Become a Woman

Well the first three stories (in Japanese) are here:

• 退廃的なとらんすちゃん
• 弟はとらんすちゃん
• 未来から来たとらんすちゃん

I guess I can have a go at translating when I get a spare moment (assuming nobody else does).

Oh yeah, that slow slide over the first few weeks / months from “I don’t mind my body” to “I am not OK with this at all” as you realize just how much you’ve been repressing all this time. I originally thought I wouldn’t bother with bottom surgery, but now it can’t happen soon enough.

OTOH, taking care of the things under my control that were bothering me (hair, posture, clothes, weight, voice etc) really helped me get over the nagging feeling that I wasn’t serious about transitioning. That way everything becomes a positive, and self-care becomes feeling good about myself for once.

Ah, I know what you mean. It’s so nice not to be constantly on edge. Sexual desire does come back eventually (and different!), but it takes a while.

I was almost expecting a 180° shift in perspective, kind of “this is how it feels to be a woman” and was a bit disappointed that it was still me inside. But I guess that’s validating in a way: I was actually a woman all along…

Do you mean you feel different now? In what way?

I find pulling the underwear towards the back so it’s slightly under tension helps too, by the way. And keeping your legs together when walking. But yeah, it’s a constant worry :3

Alternatively just go the whole hog and wear a skirt! Then you can even go commando if you want :D

I’m not exactly sure what you’d call them in English, but I generally wear something like bike shorts? Underwear, but the kind of thing you’d have on under a skirt for modesty. They extend a short way down the leg, so there’s plenty of material to hold everything in place. I combine that with some undersized panties if I’m going out and really need to make sure nothing slips.

The main misconception that stopped my egg cracking was that trans people “always knew” they had the wrong body, whereas I, clearly male (look, I’ve got a dick and everything) merely wanted really badly to be a girl. Totally different, ah well.

Also I was really strongly opposed to cosmetic stuff: surgeries, tattoos, piercings etc. Like, easily deal-breaker level. I always thought it was kind of a weird hangup and I should talk to someone about it, but I’d get panic attacks whenever I thought too hard about it so kind of let it be. Turns out the reason I was so obsessed with body modification was because I wanted to change mine and I was jealous of anyone else who could.

And just the general misogyny that comes from growing up in an almost exclusively male environment.

I mean, yeah, privacy is super important, but for international stuff it depends a lot on how they write the customs declaration. When I was on DIY it was usually marked “personal medication” or similar, and none of them were opened (not that it would have gotten seized, but still). OTOH when I used to use and import tobacco, at least 90% of those were opened and assessed for tax.

I think if any administration tried to crack down on DIY it would just incentivize domestic production instead: inspecting domestic mail is much harder even for a fully authoritarian regime.

Enjoy your hormones <3

Thanks for sharing <3 Being able to see your own potential is really hard, so it’s great that you can!

You have nice soft features that I think will work super well in a feminine face. You are going to love what HRT can do for you.

When I started transitioning last year I was just under 100kg; now I’m 67kg and my gut is mostly gone. My regime (not really based on anything scientific, just what I thought I could maintain) is:

• weigh myself every morning and record it in a spreadsheet (this was HUGE for motivation)
• take short 30m walks as often as possible
• only skip meals if I’m not hungry
• eat normally, just reduce the quantity
• aim for not starving rather than full
• no more than one “treat” (beer, sweets, junk etc) a day
• being restrained even on cheat days

The biggest thIng for me was to realise I’d been comfort eating a lot. Now I can ask myself, do I really want to eat this, or would I be happier if my weight was a little lower tomorrow?

Hope that helps, and good luck!

I thought of a question.

What was your process like for picking a hospital / surgeon?

My doctor admonished me to think carefully and pick someone experienced that I can trust, but I have absolutely no idea how to judge a surgeon’s competence other than looking for other people’s reviews online and asking the surgeon directly about past experience, results and so on in the consult. I’m basically planning on going by gut feeling right now.