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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • I’m afraid that’s kinda just how it is… with the dating apps at least. If you’re on a dating app, you’re a disposable swipe. I had 3+ dates with this girl recently, and I was starting to think that this could be a thing, and then se fue. Silence. Not even a thanks. Anyways, that’s kind of how it is apparently.

    So here’s my recommendation instead. Go and do shit. With other people. Don’t try to date, try to open up the possibility for a date to happen. And then don’t chase it, let it happen. Eg, go and learn salsa dancing. (As an introvert, it was a real hard thing for me to do (understatement), but it was so worth it.) Or join a hiking group, or Dnd, or pub quiz, or just anything that gets you into different social circles, meeting new people, where you aren’t a disposable swipe, you’re a team mate.

    Also, don’t read into other people. Sometimes people get busy with their lives, or have a crisis, a million reasons why they ghost you. It’s not you, it’s them. Girls don’t take apps seriously either. They are expecting 99% of douchebags, and they would be 98% correct.

    Final tip, get a gym buddy. That does wonders for ADHD, depression, confidence, energy, etc etc etc.

    Tl;dr, apps suck, go get involved socially, work on yourself.

















  • Whenever I hear things like this, I ask ‘What’s the problem they are actually trying to solve?’

    Most of the time there is no problem, it’s a solution looking for a problem. In this case, it seems like the only problem to solve is:

    Today, New Zealanders still cannot make instant payments electronically to other people, unless they are both with the same bank."

    I’m pretty sure that could be solved with a middle-man app instead of a ‘digital currency.’ Venmo exists in the US, something like that?

    I’m sure we have had similar… TradeMe has Ping which “Make payments safely with Ping. Pay or get paid instantly – using a credit or debit card, or Ping balance.” … so, yeah problem already solved, instant payments.





  • Lutris can be pretty handy for many things…

    I don’t have too much exp with these things, but I would suggest (as an IT support person) narrowing down and isolating problems into specifics, like:

    • I need dot.net for x thing and I tried y thing and it didn’t work.

    You’ll be able to get better answers. I’m pretty interested in the suggestions, my usual solution is ‘find something open source that is not as good but works.’