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  • ∟⊔⊤∦∣≶@lemmy.nztoADHD@lemmy.world...
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    8 months ago

    I’m afraid that’s kinda just how it is… with the dating apps at least. If you’re on a dating app, you’re a disposable swipe. I had 3+ dates with this girl recently, and I was starting to think that this could be a thing, and then se fue. Silence. Not even a thanks. Anyways, that’s kind of how it is apparently.

    So here’s my recommendation instead. Go and do shit. With other people. Don’t try to date, try to open up the possibility for a date to happen. And then don’t chase it, let it happen. Eg, go and learn salsa dancing. (As an introvert, it was a real hard thing for me to do (understatement), but it was so worth it.) Or join a hiking group, or Dnd, or pub quiz, or just anything that gets you into different social circles, meeting new people, where you aren’t a disposable swipe, you’re a team mate.

    Also, don’t read into other people. Sometimes people get busy with their lives, or have a crisis, a million reasons why they ghost you. It’s not you, it’s them. Girls don’t take apps seriously either. They are expecting 99% of douchebags, and they would be 98% correct.

    Final tip, get a gym buddy. That does wonders for ADHD, depression, confidence, energy, etc etc etc.

    Tl;dr, apps suck, go get involved socially, work on yourself.

















  • Whenever I hear things like this, I ask ‘What’s the problem they are actually trying to solve?’

    Most of the time there is no problem, it’s a solution looking for a problem. In this case, it seems like the only problem to solve is:

    Today, New Zealanders still cannot make instant payments electronically to other people, unless they are both with the same bank."

    I’m pretty sure that could be solved with a middle-man app instead of a ‘digital currency.’ Venmo exists in the US, something like that?

    I’m sure we have had similar… TradeMe has Ping which “Make payments safely with Ping. Pay or get paid instantly – using a credit or debit card, or Ping balance.” … so, yeah problem already solved, instant payments.