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Cake day: 2025年11月22日

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  • Thank you for sharing. I know how it feels to have people near and dear to you wanting to off themselves, whatever their reasons…

    The first time it happened, I went all in. It was my responsibility to keep them alive. I acted like I was a court appointed guardian, like a therapist, a parent, a friend and I tried to act in many more capacities. I sacrificed school and work just to physically be with them. I had them sleep over at my place. And much more. And how did I act? I tried to guilt them into staying alive. As in, I could say things like “how could you do that to me/your loved ones/etc?” Whatever effect that “strategy” had or didn’t have on them, it absolutely destroyed me. I got burned out. I had to recuperate for months, which in turn - naturally - impacted my school and career.

    The second time it happened, I had learned my lesson: it’s not okay to blame people for wanting to die. I am not them. I cannot understand what they are going through. Even though them wanting to end their life made me angry, I held it back and told them how sorry I am that they feel that way. And that I am here to listen. And that they are not alone. And that feelings come and go, and that tomorrow may very well be the best day of the rest of their lives. No more shaming somebody who is already at their lowest. No more taking on the responsibility of professional therapists and doctors.

    Five years later, here I am, having for the first time in my life feelings of absolute worthlessness and - would you know - the thought of death being a way to end my suffering does cross my mind. I’m not willing to die yet, but the sense of helplessness makes me understand even more how bad it was to try to keep somebody alive through scorn.

    You may disregard everything I’ve written. I don’t know where it came from.

    You are not pathetic. If anything, you’re empathetic.











  • Nope, they are hooked up to my retired gaming rig xD retired because my physical health makes it hard to sit in front of the PC and game 😭 poor RTX 3080 just sitting there…

    Anyway, here you go! There is room for five more 2.5 inch SSDs in the back. I’ve even seen somebody mod this chassi to hold 22 HDDs he he.

    Oh, and the software part: 4 x 4TB drives made into one 16TB logical volume with LVM, on top off which there is a LUKS container for whenever my home is raided (not that encryption helps legally speaking, unless you have plausible deniability…). I figured I don’t need redundancy with SSDs and none of the data is really anything that I couldn’t just torrent again. Maybe I’ll do an offline backup of them down the road.










  • I have worked as a CO at several penitentiaries in my country in Europe and I have had the fortune and honor to work with a great variety inmates.

    The absolutist position towards sexual offenders - and those with underage victims in particular, whether the inmate is a pedophile or not - is as prevalent inside the prison walls as outside. I remember standing guard during rec time in one of the wards where they held sexual offenders (in my country, they are always kept separately for their own safety) and suddenly huge pieces of concrete came falling from the sky. It was later determined through investigation that the non-sexual offenders that were having rec time at the same time in an adjacent ward had taken it upon themselves to “cleanse” the prison from the sexual offenders by killing them. Had one of the pieces of concrete hit my head, I wouldn’t be around today to tell the tale.

    The very idea that non-sexual offenses would somehow be less atrocious than sexual offenses is just vile. And to take it upon yourself to decide who gets to live and who should die, that’s just f*cked up.

    Anyway, one particular inmate that I was in charge of - whom I will refer to as “they” - had committed sexual crimes against minors and was serving a pretty lengthy sentence. During trial, they had confessed to all allegations. After the sentence was announced, they voluntarily got tested for pedophilia - for which they then got diagnosed - and they also underwent one or two therapies aimed at treating thought patterns and emotions that may heighten the risk of recidivism. While they said it did help to alleviate some of the immediate risks of hurting kids, it was still a pain to live with pedophilia, since the sexual drive is - of course - nothing you can “cure” with therapy.

    However, since they were aware of the damage they are capable of inflicting on kids, they actually decided to undergo a biochemical treatment that physically removes the part of their brain that is responsible for the sex drive. I was baffled and amazed at their dedication to protecting potential future victims. This person LITERALLY had their risk factors removed.

    In retrospect, I believe:

    1. they were able to make the decision to undergo the biochemical treatment because of their innate bravery and personality
    2. the cognitive therapy surely played its part too in motivating them in the right direction
    3. undergoing such a treatment that physically removes your sex drive - even though it was between that and risking hurting kids again - must have taken so much courage and dedication

    To clarify: I do NOT mean to say that I expect all pedophiles to undergo the biochemical treatment that I mentioned above! I expect - as I expect of ever single person - that they do no harm.