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Cake day: March 18th, 2024

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  • A few different ways. Typically in the morning I like to start with my local independent music station (shout out to The Current) since I hate making decisions in the morning and like to see what is new. I also typically listen to them in the car if I am not listening to my NPR new station. I like to see what is new and what concerts are going on nearby.

    While I am working I will typically listen to an entire album from start to finish on Spotify. I have a go to artists and I sometimes make an effort to listen an artist I likes entire catalog. I do sometimes just let it play after the album plays to see what comes up. My wife loves a more mixed so I will do their themed playlists and their artist radios. I also do the artist radio if I want to just see what is happening or I have a smaller gap.

    We have a record player in our living room. So if we are planning on sitting and doing things in that room we will use that. Its mostly chill and vibe records so we need to be in that mood. We do that more in the fall and winter than the rest of the year since we won’t be in that room as often. Its often used around the holidays since we will be just vibing around the house



  • The two that I have had the most success were both hobbies I enjoyed that had a regular group that happens weekly. One was an in person weekly DnD game at a local game shop. It was great to chat about TTRPGs DnD and other nerdy things with everyone since I loved it. (It was in Chicago and few of the older people played with Gygax which was awesome.)

    The second was a weekly distance running group that I am still kind of a part of. We run for an hour for a similar route and then go out for pizza. It was great to chat with whoever was my own speed. when running and then with everyone for food afterwards. I do some endurance sports and it was fun to hear about all the crazy things the really good ones did.

    Both were weekly, in person and were things I was interested about. These are the key



  • Dump the Mother Fucker Already.

    It isn’t your fault that you don’t want to or that is feels hard. The ups and downs of a relationships like this are chemically addicting in your brain. The Hot and Cold, I love you, let’s breakup give the same release as gambling so its a hard cycle to get out off but one that you need to. I assume you are AFAB so have been condition to not hurt people’s feeling, be indirect and to defer to men’s feelings. So you are fighting against a lot of systems.

    Breaking up in the long run is good for both of you. He will need to learn that you can’t string someone along. That is a lesson that can only be learned by losing you and potentially lots of other. You will need to learn that you won’t stand for someone who does that. You both need to learn how to be direct about what you need and what you want. You both need to be clear and understand that if you are not compatible you should not be dating which should be done up front and not hinted at but talked about. Its scary and hard to talk about it and is a skill that needs to be learned.

    You are doing great and these are pretty typically dating lessons that everyone needs to learn