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Cake day: June 9th, 2025

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  • I didn’t even check.

    um, I’m not sure why you’re off-put by my comment either, i guess instead I’m supposed to i wish you didnt have access to services? (or i guess i wish your life is so dull and uneventful such that you never need therapy again /j)

    either way the only reason I responded was to say sorry i disturbed you. not really sure i mean that any more, that was kind of a dick reply but whatever

    i just want to point out the irony of someone going on and on about anti therapy stuff, and then says there’s no mental health care around me. if you think it’s just a pill mill, maybe you didnt understand where you were going. the vast majority of therapists cant even prescribe rx.

    and the complaint you have about how, in your words, “no one ever quotes me directly, they always ruin my words by interpreting me instead of parroting me” get over yourself. you see why they call you argumentative? because you bitch and moan about an interpretation not being perfect. guess what, communication isn’t perfect, that’s why you compromise and clarify.

    Honestly your response to me has been so fucking rude i dont know why I’m wasting five minutes on you. you dont seem to give a shit about what anyone else thinks



  • okay then… I guess you’re making this an adversarial thing. I’m not sure what you intended to mean by bringing up shared experiences if you weren’t speaking to efficacy. but i guess i get why you made it adversarial: it’s frustrating being misunderstood. happens to me too. i just got a comment like that in my inbox just like it. I tried to share insights on how empathy and diversity contributes to positive outcomes in therapy, and i got this bizarre tone deaf debate bro response instead. cant always be understood, i guess. it’s fine. if you can’t find common ground, you can at least tell people off who are trying to have a pleasant conversation with you, that’ll at least ensure fewer and fewer people interact with you










  • assumptions assumptions!

    your presumption is that you’d be a better therapist, not a worse one, if you have more shared experiences with the client. that’s not something current evidence supports.

    empathy means we strive to understand one another, not presume we understand them based on our own experiences. THAT is how bad therapy happens. and self-disclosure is a crutch for poor rapport building skills.

    without the shared experiences, there can be more drive for empath and mutual understanding. the feeling of being understood by someone outside your group can be transformative.

    In truth, positive outcomes have little correlation with therapist-client demographics. the demographic differential does alter what the course of therapy might look like, but not the outcomes.




  • everyone replying that socks have a practical use, as if social constructs arent practical???

    my issue is that even though “clothing” is a social construct, the stuff that socks are made out of is not. calling that stuff a sock is a social construct, but choosing to put the fabric on your body is not. becoming “clothed” is a social construct, but the unspecified uncategorized state of having that fabric on your body is just a physical state, not a construct. the meaning we apply to it is the thing that wouldn’t exist without socially constructed systems of meaning.

    It’s kinda sad, i guess. I’m usually the first one to champion XYZ is a social construct, and have to deal with morons not understanding it, but here? no one is willing to say it?

    Socks are not a social construct.