

I don’t know if this will help, but as someone who struggled most of my life with my own undiagnosed list of mental issues, I worry so much about my children and the issues that they inherited from me. Getting diagnosed and learning more about my issues has helped me understand a lot about myself and my dad (who I inherited most of my issues from). Understanding doesn’t mean fixed though. I am still struggling with myself, and my dad, all while trying to teach my kids about themselves and trying to help them avoid, or at least navigate the issues and trouble that comes with being different. I stress so much and work so hard to make sure that they don’t have to suffer like I did. But, even knowing how hard I try, I am still amazed and even stunned when they do or accomplish things that are beyond what I could even have envisioned as my “best case scenario”. There are times when I don’t have the answers and they have to suffer much like what I did, and that absolutely destroys me. But there are also times when they sail right through as if it was nothing. It’s feels a lot like I think the parent of the first penguin to just pop out of the water and land on shore must have felt. Can you imagine spending your entire life fucking struggling to get on shore and then stand for your entire life? Having watched everyone you know, your parents, and your grandparents all struggling their asses off, and being terrified that your kids might have it worse than you, or maybe even be one of the ones that never makes it out of the water… And then the first time they get in the water, they literally just pop right the fuck out and walk right the fuck off?
I don’t know you or your dad, maybe he is just a raging dumpster fire of a parent. Or maybe he is stunned that you are casually doing something that he could never even hope to do himself.










At this point I have developed a spiel for them. I apologize and let them know that I have not called anyone, but that some spammer likes to spoof my number on the regular and that I get one of these calls every few weeks. If they are still angry or say something about me needing to change my number, i mention 2 factor authentication and that it would take me literally years to break free of this number and even then there would be issues, so it just isn’t worth it yet.