We are in the process of turning our garden into one of those meadows… granted, it’s a teeny tiny meadow, but so far, the bees are pretty happy with it. When we go to plant stores, we look at the flowers the bees pick themselves and buy those. It’ll be a paradise someday. Too many awesome flowers to choose from. And holy canoli do bees LOVE lavender. O.O

At this point we might as well lump the USA in with Putin. They are both collaborating to destabilize Europe by supporting parties like the AfD.

The problem is that they are being promoted and funded by our enemies. There is nothing democratic about the ways parties like the AfD are catching wind in the sails.

Ja. Det bliver sgu spændende at se om/hvordan de får knækket den nød derovre. Kunne godt unde dem at de fik muligheden for at bo i et land, der er til for dem og ikke omvendt.

Jeg håber ikke at det skal så langt ud af de skal have en borgerkrig derovre, men håber i stedet på at det at verden vender dem ryggen og de indser hvor hurtigt deres magtpolitik i verden kan blive ændret, kan give dem det wake up call de har brug for, så de kan komme et bedre sted hen. Ville generelt ønske at revolutioner i moderne tid mest er papirarbejde og fredelige protester og at folket ikke er tvunget til at gå i krig mod eliten.

Jeg er dog enig med dig i at det godt kunne se ud til at ende sådan for dem. Jeg håber det ikke. Synes der er nok mennesker, der mister livet over gamle mænds egoer for tiden 😞

Som det er ligenu - ja

Men i fremtiden finder de jo nok ud af at tage sig sammen derovre. De skal lige slå sig gevaldigt på trump først før de for alvor fatter at USA ikke er en skid uden os andre og at det aldrig var en envejs-ting mellem dem og resten af verdenssamfundet.

Jeg tror helt oprigtigt, at en lille ydmygelse af USA er det de har brug for, for at der kan komme noget balance i tingene og så skal det nok blive bedre. Tyskland er et godt eksempel på et land, der måtte æde den ultimative ydmygelse af verdenssamfundet og de fandt ud af det og blev et bedre og stærkere land (også selvom der sker nogle latterlige ting med AfD for tiden).

Og som altid: jeg siger alt dette som en af de største USA-haters i Danmark xD det skal nok blive godt mellem vores lande igen en dag, men spillereglerne vil ikke være de samme og det er op til amerikanerne at følge lidt med I udviklingen og pakke den der kultur-arrogance væk og lære at have lidt ydmyghed som vi andre. Det ville klæde dem.

Troede faktisk at han ville vente til januar for at gøre en nytårstradition ud af at true Grønland, men åbenbart er han utålmodig.

So true! I have always managed to skate by in life because I’m relatively unremarkable most of the time. I have described my life strategy as being on on a boat full of holes and I constantly run around applying flex tape and scooping water out in buckets to keep it afloat. From afar my boat looks like every other boat in the water, but up close it is constant maintenance to appear somewhat normal. It’s gotten a bit easier to accept the mess after I realized that maybe it’s not entirely my own fault that I struggle with certain things.

And for real, women do get diagnosed far less than men, but it’s getting so much better nowadays. I don’t think I’ll ever be officially diagnosed as I manage pretty okay all things considered. I’m just glad other people who struggle more than me, get the chance to get help.

Also, sorry for the late reply. I had surgery today so I have been a bit out of it. Everything went well, though. I hope you have a lovely day, my friend! ❤️

You’re not wrong, friend, haha. I hope you have a lovely evening. 🤗

Thank you! They removed my breast because I had the pre-stages of breast cancer and the lumps were growing fast. So it’s better to lose a breast than to possibly not be here in a couple of years. Feels weird af to suddenly only having one boob, but I’m so relieved that it’s gone. Even if I look deformed now.

As for the whole parents thing, I’m very sorry you can relate. That is something I wouldn’t wish on anyone.

I hope you are free of yours as well. I had to wait until now to get rid of mine because I was afraid they would turn my siblings against me if I disobeyed them too much. I have wanted to cut contact with especially my mother since 2010, but my love for my siblings and niblings outweighed my disgust for her. Luckily they all see her for what she is now, and I have also finally allowed myself to admit that my father isn’t much better either.

When I’m a bit better, we plan on calling my dad and telling him that I’m out and then I’ll send him a long letter where I explain why it is happening now and what the past 17 years have been like for me and that I love my father even though I despise how he has treated my siblings and niblings and to some extent myself. I have nothing to say to my mother, so she won’t get a letter. I know that neither of them will take my letter seriously. They will pick it apart and argue everything, but I don’t really care. It’s for me, anyways. I’m just very happy that they don’t get to turn my siblings on me. It took almost two decades of playing the game, but I somehow got everything I wanted despite having long since admitted defeat and accepted that I would never be free until my mother is dead. Thankfully I won’t have to wait that long.

Sorry for long comment. But yeah, I feel so relieved and free. If you’re still trapped by your parents, I hope you find your way to freedom someday too ❤️ you deserve it!

I’m in the process of removing my parents from my life.

I’m also going in to have low key life saving surgery in an hour and a half, but the thing with my parents feels bigger.

I have never been happier that my career path and strategy is nothing like this.

I would have hated my life so much.

Vi er gået i gang med at se Knight of the Seven Kingdoms på dvd. Det var min nevøs anbefaling og vi købte den for længe siden og den kom endelig frem i juni og det er først nu vi er begyndt at se den.

Har læst/lyttet til novellerne for 117 siden da jeg var en George RR Martin-fanatiker. Der er gået tilpas lang tid til at jeg ikke helt kan huske hvad der skete i novellerne, andet end det overordnede, så halvdelen af tiden sidder jeg sådan “NÅÅÅÅÅH JA!” og den anden halvdel er det “Det er Dunk og det er Egg og der er ikke nogle drager i Westoros på det her tidspunkt, skat og når de referer til ‘seeds’ så er det kongens bastarder” og min kæreste sidder sådan “Mhmm :)”

Dunk ser meget anderledes ud i serien end det billede jeg havde i hovedet, men han er fin nok til rollen synes jeg. Egg er perfekt. Synes også at det er fint at de har forsøgt at skabe deres egen tone og univers. Tøjet folk går i er ikke helt lige så fantasy-agtigt som i GoT, hvilket ærgrer mig en smule, for det føles som lidt mere generisk middelalder fantasy, men ellers er det sgu fint nok.

Jeg har ikke givet ASOIAF-universet ret meget af min tid siden Dumb and Dumber ødelagde GoT, men eftersom min nevø var så hyped over den og jeg gerne vil investere noget tid i ting som han interesserer sig i så vi kan få sludret ved næste lejlighed, så er det tiden værd at få set serien nu. Han er også besat af Peaky Blinders, men den skal jeg lige have taget mere tilløb til, for altså… gangster-ting siger mig ikke ret meget. Men hvad gør man ikke for familie? xD

Lol, it is funny how us weirdos always seem to find one another. Then you know what it’s like xD I like having my views on the world challenged. I like knowing people who are different and live different lives from myself. If I had the wanderlust, I think I would have been someone who travels the world to make friends in every corner, but alas, I fucking hate travelling, dude. Planes and airports can go fuck themselves. I have agreed with myself that the only time I’m gonna travel for the rest of my life is when I go to see my best friend who lives thousands of km away. Ain’t no way I’m putting myself through all that shit for anyone else.

HA! You being ASD makes sense. I always vibe with people on the spectrum. Always. I often find them to have the right amount of nerd in them to carry interesting conversations and they tend to be a calming antidote to my chaos. I become an irl cartoon character when I speak with people. Spectrum people are nice because they rarely react to my nonsense and if they do, they rarely judge. And, I mean, same with them. They may be weird to some people, but to me I’m like: Ah, my kind of person. One of the first friends I made in my teens was ASD as well (not diagnosed at the time) and she thought I was gay and hitting on her for weeks because I kept pestering her to be friends.

That is so funny that your friends, one by one have gotten diagnosed! Seriously, I always thought I was normal, right? That I was just really good at relating to people who were different because I am a bit offputting myself, I think? So I have been around people with every diagnosis under the sun since my teens and it was only a few years ago that my boyfriend brought up to me that he was 99% sure I had undiagnosed ADHD and that I should stop being so hard on myself all the time. Was like “the fuck?” and then a lot of things made sense all of a sudden. Because ADHD is the only diagnosis I struggled to understand. When people told me about their issues and symptoms I was always like: But that’s just what it’s like to live, innit? Maybe I’m too stupid to understand ADHD?" and I read about it and listened some more to friends and colleagues who have it and it still just didn’t click for me because that’s how I feel all the time, but I’m normal, so I must just not get it. Not even once did I put two and two together, dude. Not once. Not until my man spelled it out for me at age 34. :'D I am dense as a brick sometimes.

Thank you xD I mean, I’m a fan of us too, but I’m also super biased lol.

I think its awesome that you guys have that agreement. There are also many different ways of flirting and the innocent kind, is no harm no foul. And as long as people figure out what works for them and everyone is happy, then who can be mad? I think I have pretty much seen it all at this point, considering that I have always moved in unconventional social circles. I’m a pretty basic bitch, but somehow have always found myself around people who are gay or trans or in polyamorous relationships or are swingers or into extreme body modification and so on (methinks it is undiagnosed ADHD or something like that. Fucking always end up with the outcasts in society). I can tell the difference between people who are in healthy dynamics and those who aren’t. Flirting with friends while everyone involved understand the boundaries, is so chill.

I’m the same as you, but in reverse: I sometimes miss being alone, but I don’t miss the flirting and the attention.

And honestly, the “missing the loneliness” has kinda been fixed now that we no longer live in small apartments, but have a house with rooms where we can be ourselves when we need it. We are that weird kind of couple who love being alone together. He does his thing, I do mine and occassionally one comes over to give the other a hug and a smooch. And if one or the other needs extra attention, we put down whatever we are working on to give it to them. For example, he’s gotten hooked on collecting fossils recently and sometimes he bursts with the need to do lectures about pre-historic aquatic life and their anatomy and he comes over and dumps one fossil in my hands after the other while he talks. It’s the same when I go off on one of my things. Like I can talk at length about movies, foreign cultures and their habits and languages. And then we have a mutual interest in birds. Like I saw a raven fly over our house the other day and immediately called him and we babbled for several minutes about my observations to make sure it was a raven and not a crow. If either of us are out and see a weird bird, we snap a pic if possible and send it to the other and discuss what bird it is if it isn’t immediately apparent.

How the frick would I find a guy like that ever again? Do they even make those anymore? I need someone to match my level of mundane weird.

Ps: this is his most recent bird identification pic in our privat chat. He correctly identified it as a curlew. I double checked my bird lexicon. The rest of our chat is full of pictures of fossils xD

hehe, yeah. Honestly, good for us. I for one, am so relieved that I’m off the market. It’s so draining, dude xD

It’s funny, I have had that exact experience with guys when I was young. The second I started returning the interest, they would drop me like I was a venomous snake and go flirt with someone else.

Until I met my boyfriend I just thought men didn’t want women to like them back. Color me confused when the pre historic version of incel/manosphere culture began bitching about women playing hard to get back in the late 2000s/early 2010s on various forums.

Was over here like: y’all are the ones who run for the hills whenever a girl shows you she likes you, though. 🤷‍♀️

Nor should you <3

I can’t say that this will help you, but I have used this saying to work on my own anxiety issues and it kinda sorta helps a little bit like ointment on a burn when I become extremely anxious about whether or not I did something to upset other people:

Everyone is too busy worrying about how the world judges them that they don’t have the time and energy to judge you.

I know OCD isn’t as easy as “just change your mindset, broooo”, but if that line can help you in any way during episodes where you’re fearful you did something wrong, then take it!

It doesn’t fix anxiety, but it can help a little. And in my case it reminds me that I’m not the only anxious person out there xD

Big hugs for you ! Be good to yourself <3

My friend, you sound like you have some anxiety issues. I recognize your thought patterns from myself.

I can 100% promise you that nothing about that situation was weird or wrong. We have all done goofed at one point or another with bathrooms. I have walked into the men’s bathroom at least once when I was about to burst at a train station and the signing was piss poor (pun intended).

I am 100% sure that the people in the situation you were in thought you were a nice, polite young man and they most likely thought nothing of it.

And if I had been on my way into the women’s bathroom, and saw you there, I would think “bro, same. Shit happens”

Big hugs for you!