I’m in the process of removing my parents from my life.

I’m also going in to have low key life saving surgery in an hour and a half, but the thing with my parents feels bigger.

I have never been happier that my career path and strategy is nothing like this.

I would have hated my life so much.

Vi er gået i gang med at se Knight of the Seven Kingdoms på dvd. Det var min nevøs anbefaling og vi købte den for længe siden og den kom endelig frem i juni og det er først nu vi er begyndt at se den.

Har læst/lyttet til novellerne for 117 siden da jeg var en George RR Martin-fanatiker. Der er gået tilpas lang tid til at jeg ikke helt kan huske hvad der skete i novellerne, andet end det overordnede, så halvdelen af tiden sidder jeg sådan “NÅÅÅÅÅH JA!” og den anden halvdel er det “Det er Dunk og det er Egg og der er ikke nogle drager i Westoros på det her tidspunkt, skat og når de referer til ‘seeds’ så er det kongens bastarder” og min kæreste sidder sådan “Mhmm :)”

Dunk ser meget anderledes ud i serien end det billede jeg havde i hovedet, men han er fin nok til rollen synes jeg. Egg er perfekt. Synes også at det er fint at de har forsøgt at skabe deres egen tone og univers. Tøjet folk går i er ikke helt lige så fantasy-agtigt som i GoT, hvilket ærgrer mig en smule, for det føles som lidt mere generisk middelalder fantasy, men ellers er det sgu fint nok.

Jeg har ikke givet ASOIAF-universet ret meget af min tid siden Dumb and Dumber ødelagde GoT, men eftersom min nevø var så hyped over den og jeg gerne vil investere noget tid i ting som han interesserer sig i så vi kan få sludret ved næste lejlighed, så er det tiden værd at få set serien nu. Han er også besat af Peaky Blinders, men den skal jeg lige have taget mere tilløb til, for altså… gangster-ting siger mig ikke ret meget. Men hvad gør man ikke for familie? xD

Lol, it is funny how us weirdos always seem to find one another. Then you know what it’s like xD I like having my views on the world challenged. I like knowing people who are different and live different lives from myself. If I had the wanderlust, I think I would have been someone who travels the world to make friends in every corner, but alas, I fucking hate travelling, dude. Planes and airports can go fuck themselves. I have agreed with myself that the only time I’m gonna travel for the rest of my life is when I go to see my best friend who lives thousands of km away. Ain’t no way I’m putting myself through all that shit for anyone else.

HA! You being ASD makes sense. I always vibe with people on the spectrum. Always. I often find them to have the right amount of nerd in them to carry interesting conversations and they tend to be a calming antidote to my chaos. I become an irl cartoon character when I speak with people. Spectrum people are nice because they rarely react to my nonsense and if they do, they rarely judge. And, I mean, same with them. They may be weird to some people, but to me I’m like: Ah, my kind of person. One of the first friends I made in my teens was ASD as well (not diagnosed at the time) and she thought I was gay and hitting on her for weeks because I kept pestering her to be friends.

That is so funny that your friends, one by one have gotten diagnosed! Seriously, I always thought I was normal, right? That I was just really good at relating to people who were different because I am a bit offputting myself, I think? So I have been around people with every diagnosis under the sun since my teens and it was only a few years ago that my boyfriend brought up to me that he was 99% sure I had undiagnosed ADHD and that I should stop being so hard on myself all the time. Was like “the fuck?” and then a lot of things made sense all of a sudden. Because ADHD is the only diagnosis I struggled to understand. When people told me about their issues and symptoms I was always like: But that’s just what it’s like to live, innit? Maybe I’m too stupid to understand ADHD?" and I read about it and listened some more to friends and colleagues who have it and it still just didn’t click for me because that’s how I feel all the time, but I’m normal, so I must just not get it. Not even once did I put two and two together, dude. Not once. Not until my man spelled it out for me at age 34. :'D I am dense as a brick sometimes.

Thank you xD I mean, I’m a fan of us too, but I’m also super biased lol.

I think its awesome that you guys have that agreement. There are also many different ways of flirting and the innocent kind, is no harm no foul. And as long as people figure out what works for them and everyone is happy, then who can be mad? I think I have pretty much seen it all at this point, considering that I have always moved in unconventional social circles. I’m a pretty basic bitch, but somehow have always found myself around people who are gay or trans or in polyamorous relationships or are swingers or into extreme body modification and so on (methinks it is undiagnosed ADHD or something like that. Fucking always end up with the outcasts in society). I can tell the difference between people who are in healthy dynamics and those who aren’t. Flirting with friends while everyone involved understand the boundaries, is so chill.

I’m the same as you, but in reverse: I sometimes miss being alone, but I don’t miss the flirting and the attention.

And honestly, the “missing the loneliness” has kinda been fixed now that we no longer live in small apartments, but have a house with rooms where we can be ourselves when we need it. We are that weird kind of couple who love being alone together. He does his thing, I do mine and occassionally one comes over to give the other a hug and a smooch. And if one or the other needs extra attention, we put down whatever we are working on to give it to them. For example, he’s gotten hooked on collecting fossils recently and sometimes he bursts with the need to do lectures about pre-historic aquatic life and their anatomy and he comes over and dumps one fossil in my hands after the other while he talks. It’s the same when I go off on one of my things. Like I can talk at length about movies, foreign cultures and their habits and languages. And then we have a mutual interest in birds. Like I saw a raven fly over our house the other day and immediately called him and we babbled for several minutes about my observations to make sure it was a raven and not a crow. If either of us are out and see a weird bird, we snap a pic if possible and send it to the other and discuss what bird it is if it isn’t immediately apparent.

How the frick would I find a guy like that ever again? Do they even make those anymore? I need someone to match my level of mundane weird.

Ps: this is his most recent bird identification pic in our privat chat. He correctly identified it as a curlew. I double checked my bird lexicon. The rest of our chat is full of pictures of fossils xD

hehe, yeah. Honestly, good for us. I for one, am so relieved that I’m off the market. It’s so draining, dude xD

It’s funny, I have had that exact experience with guys when I was young. The second I started returning the interest, they would drop me like I was a venomous snake and go flirt with someone else.

Until I met my boyfriend I just thought men didn’t want women to like them back. Color me confused when the pre historic version of incel/manosphere culture began bitching about women playing hard to get back in the late 2000s/early 2010s on various forums.

Was over here like: y’all are the ones who run for the hills whenever a girl shows you she likes you, though. 🤷‍♀️

Nor should you <3

I can’t say that this will help you, but I have used this saying to work on my own anxiety issues and it kinda sorta helps a little bit like ointment on a burn when I become extremely anxious about whether or not I did something to upset other people:

Everyone is too busy worrying about how the world judges them that they don’t have the time and energy to judge you.

I know OCD isn’t as easy as “just change your mindset, broooo”, but if that line can help you in any way during episodes where you’re fearful you did something wrong, then take it!

It doesn’t fix anxiety, but it can help a little. And in my case it reminds me that I’m not the only anxious person out there xD

Big hugs for you ! Be good to yourself <3

My friend, you sound like you have some anxiety issues. I recognize your thought patterns from myself.

I can 100% promise you that nothing about that situation was weird or wrong. We have all done goofed at one point or another with bathrooms. I have walked into the men’s bathroom at least once when I was about to burst at a train station and the signing was piss poor (pun intended).

I am 100% sure that the people in the situation you were in thought you were a nice, polite young man and they most likely thought nothing of it.

And if I had been on my way into the women’s bathroom, and saw you there, I would think “bro, same. Shit happens”

Big hugs for you!

Alexa, play In the Arms of an Angel 🎶 🎵

I once managed to get heatstroke in a air-conditioned car in the middle east. May not have been demonic possession, but sure as shit felt like it xD the heat down there is metal af. Ten minutes outside is life threatening. Put some things into perspective for my Scandinavian ass.

We are gods.

Uh, hvor er hun en skønnert. Og sikkert alt for kvik for sit eget bedste xD

Brystet niver lidt nu og da og jeg har fået skrevet et langt og godt afskedsbrev til min far, som forklarer hvorfor jeg ikke længere vil se ham og mor. Det var vigtigt for mig, at det blev gjort ordentligt og uden had. Vi har tænkt os at ringe til ham når jeg er klar og fortælle ham i korte træk hvor landet ligger og så sende brevet, hvor jeg forklarer mere dybdegående hvorfor det må være sådan her. Det er det bedste scenarie for mig, for selvom jeg godt ved at han på mange måder er lige så slem som min mor, så er der stadig noget i mig, der holder af ham og som har så ondt af ham over alt det han har mistet på så få år og så sent i livet. Jeg håber at mit brev, selvom det er ærligt og kommer omkring nogle konfronterende ting, kan give ham en form for trøst. Så ved han i det mindste at når han skal herfra, så er der stadig et af hans børn, der elsker ham.

Har det rigtig godt indeni ligenu. Operationen kommer tættere på og jeg kan godt mærke angsten stige i mig hver aften vi lægger os til at sove. Endnu en dag tættere på. Holder rigtig meget om min kæreste for tiden. Han er blevet endnu mere pylret end han allerede var. Han har fået banket lidt mad i mig de sidste par dage fordi jeg holdt op med at spise og drikke i starten af ugen. Det er ikke engang med vilje. Glemmer det bare.

En af mine gode veninder gennemgår pt et kæmpe traumatisk familiedrama, som jeg også følger lidt med i og støtter hende i. Vi morer os over, at vores liv altid eksploderer samtidig.

Og ellers går tiden med at skrive med mine søskende og sove og gå i haven for at sige hej til bierne! 🐝

Er sikker på at det lød mega godt 🤌

Tillykke til det nygifte par ❤️

Som en, der har foragtet USA længe før Trump kom ind i billedet og generelt er glad for, at vi distancerer os fra deres indflydelse i nyere tid, så er jeg stadig enig med dig i at der skal være plads til have gode venskabelige bånd til USA. Vi skal bare lige ud over denne tossede periode, USA skal have tid til at sunde sig, vi skal blive ved med at dyrke vores selvstændighed væk fra dem, MEN der skal også være tid og plads til at vi finder en ny normal med hinanden, hvor vi kan få et nyt, positivt bånd, som alle er tilfredse med på den lange bane.

Og på mikroskalaen, så skal folk stadig have lov til at føle samhørighed, især dem, der har familie eller venskabsrelationer på tværs af landegrænserne. Jeg har det på samme måde med russerne. Det er slet ikke sort/hvidt og der er mange uskyldige, rare mennesker, som føler sig fangede i det her geopolitiske teater, vi alle sammen er tvunget til at overvære for tiden. Det kan fanme ikke være sjovt at være amerikaner, russer eller israeler for den sags skyld i 2026.

Det er den bestemt, men med mindre jeg har hallucineret det, så er jeg overbevist om at Trump selv har sagt at han ikke tror på gud og han nægtede også at lægge hånden på biblen da han blev indsat.

Det er virkelig en sjov aktivitet! Gad godt vide, hvor mange bolde du ender med at kunne holde i luften på samme tid 😮

Welcome, friend! 🤗